The myth of Casual sex
When I was in college I was infamous for what I called “the disclaimer”. This was something I told all girls I was involved with; it went something like this… “I think you are very cool and I like you but I am not interested in a relationship right now. If that is what you are looking for I wouldn’t suggest going out with me, ever…” This sounded pretty strait forward but I would always be confused when it wouldn’t work and shocked when things would turn into a bigger mess than sex on black sheets.
All I wanted was a little lovin’
I think I was at the apex of my promiscuity in college and like most guys I was very interested in being involved with as many women as possible! There are exceptions to the rule but most guys that have the guts to approach and make friends with women are also very interested in bedding absolutely every attractive girl they meet. (sorry about that)
The major obstacle to this conquest is that guys really don’t want to be bastards yet they are so strongly driven sexually. What to do? Lie? Or tell the truth? but most guys don’t even know what the truth is!
I was one of the ones that knew the truth and told it. I would warn girls to stay away from me, which of course delightfully backfired
The lying bastard
Unfortunately some guys aren’t honest about what they want and really screw it up for everyone. They offer themselves up as relationship kind of guys because they think the only way to get sex is to lie. This kind of guy gets caught every time and becomes more and more of an elaborate liar to maintain the facade. He is the one that is romantic but a little bit suspicious… Just like the Wes on the bachelorette! (I have to admit I really hated that guy… but the guy the ratted on him, what a moron!)
Being one of of the honest ones is frustrating!
I have nearly hung up my hat on casual dating/sex. I am painfully honest but this does not seem to be the answer! it is incredibly frustrating to lay out the rules of the game only to have them horrible misunderstood by the girl. I understand why but I still grind my teeth a little at all you women out there. I am on your side but I swear… I think I would rather masturbate most of the time.
What is going on??
Girls know what is going on in their heads so much more than guys except when sex is involved, it has taken me 15 years just to understand this one question. Why would a girl enter a casual sexual relationship only to change her needs radically as things continue?? Leaving me asking, what the hell just happened?
Should you say yes to casual sex?
We all want to be liked and we all are somewhat horny! I think it is relatively normal for someone to be up for a joyride every once in a while. If handed the keys to a nice car who wouldn’t want to keep in their garage? If the salesman told you that it was only possible to drive in on Friday nights you might initially say yes but later one would be frustrated and almost disgusted that it was not yours. So the question is should you drive it in the first place?
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