Warning signs – 15 bad boys that you should never date

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  1. Elissa says:

    I am so guilty of dating 1, 2, 3 and 9. Heck sometimes 1,2&3 are all the same person. Recently a guy that i am interested in (but going through an awful break-up, so nothings going to happen there) told me i have to stop letting guys use me. I find that is easier said than done.
    .-= Elissa´s last blog ..A Thank You and a Paying it Forward =-.

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    • Mike Masters says:

      9 really blows my mind. I first realized this existed when in high school someone told the joke, “How do you make a woman cum? WHO CARES!”
      I honestly didn’t get it.

      Stopping men (or anyone) from using you, starts internally. It is about you recognizing indicators of poor behavior and setting boundaries immediately. Not in an aggressive angry way but in a way that shows how much respect you demand for yourself.

      See the post on “he doesn’t put up with my bullshit”

  2. Jersey Brett says:

    Where does “positive” tension come from?

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    • Mike Masters says:

      That is an awesome question and one I really should blog about. Positive tension is something that you can most easily identify in close friends.

      For example, one of my friends in So Cal looks like a Harley Dude, complete with shaved head and goatee. Why are we good friends? because we have radically different world views but can share them without issue. I like a lot of his beliefs and I feel i grow as a person by knowing him. This works the opposite direction too and he has become a healthy person by knowing me.

      The best most wonderful relationships I have experienced have been with women that had something to teach, something to aspire to or look up to. They provided something that I didn’t have. This is a type of tension and it is a very positive one.
      Make sense?

  3. Miss Alpha says:

    This is a great list… but who is there left to date? ;)
    .-= Miss Alpha´s last blog ..The Psychologist meets The Green Eyed Engineer =-.

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  4. Zoe says:

    I love this list, Mike! GREAT job! I agree wholeheartedly with all of them and am fortunate to have dated some awesome men who wouldn’t even dream of doing anything on this list. The addictive personality thing is difficult, though, and I have dated a couple of these, mostly because they’re usually (no joke) the sweetest, most affectionate men out there. At least, until they’ve “got” you. But that’s another story altogether. ;)

    So, in answer to Miss Alpha, there are plenty of men left to date! And I’ve dated several of them – believe me, not all the good ones are taken. ;)
    .-= Zoe´s last blog ..An ode: Men of color =-.

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    • Mike Masters says:

      I love the observation that you made, “At least, until they’ve “got” you”
      Isn’t it super sucky that someone is able to keep their addictions, bad habits and personality flaws under wraps until you are invested. Then suddenly, “Oh by the way… I am an alcoholic sex offender that just stole your bottle of Vicodin”

  5. Fishy says:

    Look MasterDater will you be quiet please – you are ruining my chances here.
    .-= Fishy´s last blog ..Mannequin and Me =-.

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  6. Dating Diva says:

    How did I know that as soon as you mention sex too soon, my name would be attached? :/

    Shoot, I already encountered the whole off-balanceness of too little money this weekend. I paid for dinner and that was upsetting to him because he didn’t have enough $ for dinner and a movie. I really wanted to go out to eat, though. Needless to say, I think it was a bruise to his ego. And now I wonder if this will even work because I don’t want to sit home all of the time because he doesn’t have the cash to date me.

    Guess it looks like I’ll be having sex all of the time for entertainment! Geez! (*sarcasm*)
    .-= Dating Diva´s last blog ..You Know When You Know =-.

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  7. Kelly Seal says:

    Thanks for pointing out how dangerous “good” is. A friend is good—a relationship should be great. Anyway, yeah—there is basically nobody left to date after checking off this list. Sigh. I’ve been out with most of these too—how can we avoid it? Also, the money thing is interesting. But I think it’s a sore point in every relationship, even if you do make the same amount. People spend differently. I would say spending habits need to be similar, unless both people buy a bunch of stuff they can’t afford.
    .-= Kelly Seal´s last blog ..Dating Detox? =-.

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  8. Jonah says:

    Don’t date him if he is sexier than you? Don’t date someone with financial differences? Don’t date a guy with too many friends?

    You’ve got some good tips here, but they’re in among the superficial and offensive.

    No relationship is going to be easy, and writing someone off because of one small thing or the other does nothing but condition yourself to ruin any relationship you eventually find yourself in.
    .-= Jonah´s last blog ..Grooveshark: Most Exciting Music Web-App =-.

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  9. date hater says:

    I’m pretty sure I’ve dated most of those guys. Currently I’m specializing in #5, good times!

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  10. PrincessT says:

    Haha, great list!

    I could probably think of a few more to add, like has mother issues… but let’s not go there.

    The only one I would date is the guy with significantly more money than me. Sorry, why is that a problem? I’ve never found it made me uncomfortable at all. In fact, it’s perfectly normal in my world.*

    *my world is sometimes a strange and scare place…
    .-= PrincessT´s last blog ..A Retrospective: Mr Commitment Issues =-.

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    • Mike Masters says:

      If it is perfectly normal than there is no problem. Funny how problems usually originate from perception.

      The mother one, I avoided in both this post and the next, probably because I have three moms and two I don’t speak to very often.

  11. Loverville says:

    Add to this, the opposite of #12 (too many friends) — you should also be wary of a guy with NO (or very few) friends, and looks to you as his sole social outlet. Too much pressure! (and yes, it speaks volumes if a guy doesn’t really have friends.
    .-= Loverville´s last blog ..Feeling like Switzerland. =-.

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  12. Natasha says:

    Thanks for this list. I’ve referred to it more than a couple of times since you posted it. Whenever I find myself upset about a recent dating experience I find that more often than not I’m dating someone that is bad for me; someone that falls into one (if not all) of the categories listed above. This list reminds me of the things that I should be looking for – those things that I often overlook because of the excitement of being with a “bad boy”. An excitement that is often replaced with despair and insecurity.

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  13. Meesh says:

    Omg Great article! Thank you so much for posting! Got my feelers up higher this time! ;)

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  14. aniMei says:

    I bought and read your TextAppeal for girls book last night and couldn’t put it down. I wish I knew about your work a couple of years ago when I started dating.
    Anyway, just wanted to give you kudos and say thanks :)

    ps, atheist* :P

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