Comments on: The top ten reasons why he is going to run screaming from the relationship http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/ Dating advice for women and men Wed, 01 Feb 2012 09:02:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Heather http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-5904 Heather Tue, 19 Apr 2011 17:10:50 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-5904 >>The drug of choice is called Oxytocin, the same hormone that makes a new mother DEARLY love her bright red, meconium covered newborn infant. Mike, I heart this whole sentence. You should have written for 1976 Saturday Night Live. This and the "baby arm holding an apple" spewed Red Bull all over this monitor. >>The drug of choice is called Oxytocin, the same hormone that makes a new mother DEARLY love her bright red, meconium covered newborn infant.

Mike, I heart this whole sentence. You should have written for 1976 Saturday Night Live. This and the “baby arm holding an apple” spewed Red Bull all over this monitor.

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]]> By: Janice T http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-5379 Janice T Sat, 14 Aug 2010 14:49:08 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-5379 Oops - this should read: it’s about letting the guy CHOOSE to be with you Oops – this should read: it’s about letting the guy CHOOSE to be with you

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]]> By: Janice T http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-5378 Janice T Sat, 14 Aug 2010 14:36:04 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-5378 Re: commitment: it's about letting the guy CHOOSE to be you "the best way to do this is leave the door open" - that pretty much sums it up right there, and basically, the girl needs to be pretty self-confident and living her own life without him to honestly (key word: *honestly*) make this happen. My recent crush ran for the hills after just a week, after fearing I was goigng to impinge on his music career quest. I had no intentions of that kind, and I could fully relate, since I need to focus on my own lofty career goals, and put a lot of my own energies in that direction. So I wrote him a really honest email, wherein I embraced everything that he was about, and applauded his energies focused on his career. I emphasized that above all I wanted his friendship, and so maybe now that the sex was out of the way, we could be really good friends. I made clear that I was interested in helping him conquer his goals, as a friend, as well as pursue my own goals. These were genuine feelings on my part - I seriously wished the guy well and offered my unqualified friendship and support. He really loved that - and soon we were back to sexting - (which I have learned a lot about, from this site and others...!) I actually didn't expect that, but I suppose he just feels safe with me now. I still fully intend to focus on my own stuff and support him as a good friend - which actually makes a FWB situation viable, should it come to that. FWB is usually not for me, but this is one situation where I feel a friendly distance from my usually oppressive oxytocin - so we'll see how it goes! At least I know that, should I feel an oxytocin wave coming on, I will see it for what it is, and stay the course for an open friendship, focusing on my own life and not the dude-object of my affections. That's a lot healthier. Oh yeah - and still working on pulling in a second crush to dilute that oxytocin effect... ;) Re: commitment: it’s about letting the guy CHOOSE to be you

“the best way to do this is leave the door open” – that pretty much sums it up right there, and basically, the girl needs to be pretty self-confident and living her own life without him to honestly (key word: *honestly*) make this happen.

My recent crush ran for the hills after just a week, after fearing I was goigng to impinge on his music career quest. I had no intentions of that kind, and I could fully relate, since I need to focus on my own lofty career goals, and put a lot of my own energies in that direction.

So I wrote him a really honest email, wherein I embraced everything that he was about, and applauded his energies focused on his career. I emphasized that above all I wanted his friendship, and so maybe now that the sex was out of the way, we could be really good friends. I made clear that I was interested in helping him conquer his goals, as a friend, as well as pursue my own goals. These were genuine feelings on my part – I seriously wished the guy well and offered my unqualified friendship and support.

He really loved that – and soon we were back to sexting – (which I have learned a lot about, from this site and others…!) I actually didn’t expect that, but I suppose he just feels safe with me now. I still fully intend to focus on my own stuff and support him as a good friend – which actually makes a FWB situation viable, should it come to that. FWB is usually not for me, but this is one situation where I feel a friendly distance from my usually oppressive oxytocin – so we’ll see how it goes!

At least I know that, should I feel an oxytocin wave coming on, I will see it for what it is, and stay the course for an open friendship, focusing on my own life and not the dude-object of my affections. That’s a lot healthier.

Oh yeah – and still working on pulling in a second crush to dilute that oxytocin effect… ;)

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]]> By: MasterDater - Why a wealthy pretty girl can’t find a good guy http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-787 MasterDater - Why a wealthy pretty girl can’t find a good guy Sun, 07 Jun 2009 04:08:35 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-787 [...] grow the people I am with. I am not happy unless I am learning and growing at a break neck speed. (See top ten reasons he is going to run screaming #6) Look at it this way… You are in college now why do you insist on still dating high school [...] [...] grow the people I am with. I am not happy unless I am learning and growing at a break neck speed. (See top ten reasons he is going to run screaming #6) Look at it this way… You are in college now why do you insist on still dating high school [...]

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]]> By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-772 Mike Masters Thu, 04 Jun 2009 03:11:42 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-772 Absolutely true. I imagined that I would grow up eventually but I am still an immature boy! Absolutely true. I imagined that I would grow up eventually but I am still an immature boy!

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]]> By: Karen http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-771 Karen Thu, 04 Jun 2009 02:52:41 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-771 I can relate to #6. Too bad age doesn't necessarily correlate with maturity and growth either. I can relate to #6. Too bad age doesn’t necessarily correlate with maturity and growth either.

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]]> By: Jillian http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-640 Jillian Tue, 12 May 2009 17:30:25 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-640 Not all men care about being attractive. And that's all I'll say about that. Mike, we must be on the same wavelength. Right before I read your request, I just left Mama of Mike a comment. I was thinking about her last night before bed (not like that, sicko) and didn't get a chance to comment to her then. I was wondering how she's taken to that new little one. I'm excited for her. Not all men care about being attractive. And that’s all I’ll say about that.

Mike, we must be on the same wavelength. Right before I read your request, I just left Mama of Mike a comment. I was thinking about her last night before bed (not like that, sicko) and didn’t get a chance to comment to her then. I was wondering how she’s taken to that new little one. I’m excited for her.

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]]> By: Sarah http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-639 Sarah Tue, 12 May 2009 11:52:26 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-639 RE: men who pay better attention to their appearances--Can I just say that I loved the "metrosexual" movement? Finally a moment when men could pay attention to their appearance and not have their masculinity threatened--it was refreshing to see such self confidence. And the resulting eye candy--oh boy oh boy!! (Well, at least here in Chicago--don't know how it's been out your way.) RE: men who pay better attention to their appearances–Can I just say that I loved the “metrosexual” movement? Finally a moment when men could pay attention to their appearance and not have their masculinity threatened–it was refreshing to see such self confidence. And the resulting eye candy–oh boy oh boy!! (Well, at least here in Chicago–don’t know how it’s been out your way.)

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]]> By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-638 Mike Masters Tue, 12 May 2009 06:22:07 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-638 Tells you something though. Men are so much more physically stimulated that gay men are far more driven to be attractive than strait men. QTMama and Jillian glad such cool people met here! Hey if anyone has the time say hi to my mom here or on facebook. She needs some love sent her way. She is having a really tough time lately. (join me on facebook and my mom's name is Sandy) Tells you something though. Men are so much more physically stimulated that gay men are far more driven to be attractive than strait men.
QTMama and Jillian glad such cool people met here!
Hey if anyone has the time say hi to my mom here or on facebook. She needs some love sent her way. She is having a really tough time lately. (join me on facebook and my mom’s name is Sandy)

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]]> By: Jillian http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-636 Jillian Tue, 12 May 2009 02:46:20 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-636 You know it, girl. We'll make it happen. I generally have free time, I just have to schedule it around seeing clients and my doctoral program and familial obligations. We'll figure out a time. You know it, girl. We’ll make it happen. I generally have free time, I just have to schedule it around seeing clients and my doctoral program and familial obligations. We’ll figure out a time.

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]]> By: QTMama http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-635 QTMama Tue, 12 May 2009 02:43:50 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-635 Jillian, we must meet. Simply we must. It's not REAL that we have so many freaking things in common! Jillian, we must meet. Simply we must. It’s not REAL that we have so many freaking things in common!

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]]> By: Jillian http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-634 Jillian Tue, 12 May 2009 01:25:59 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-634 Qt, funny story, most of the men (MOST) that I was attracted to in high school that did not return my affections turned out to be gay. Everyone else knew and no one clued me in. Oh, how I pined and could never figure out why I wasn't good enough. Now I know and they are happy with their boyfriends/partners. Qt, funny story, most of the men (MOST) that I was attracted to in high school that did not return my affections turned out to be gay. Everyone else knew and no one clued me in. Oh, how I pined and could never figure out why I wasn’t good enough. Now I know and they are happy with their boyfriends/partners.

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]]> By: QTMama http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-633 QTMama Tue, 12 May 2009 01:18:19 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-633 Hmmm, I always thought it was the best looking ones that are always gay. Bah. Hmmm, I always thought it was the best looking ones that are always gay. Bah.

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]]> By: Jillian http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-631 Jillian Mon, 11 May 2009 21:15:57 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-631 *sigh* It seems like the good looking ones are always gay. *sigh* It seems like the good looking ones are always gay.

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]]> By: Sarah http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-630 Sarah Mon, 11 May 2009 20:57:35 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-630 Good luck--don't strain anything important! It'd be a shame to disappoint your "friends" ;) Good luck–don’t strain anything important! It’d be a shame to disappoint your “friends” ;)

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]]> By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/top-10-lists/the-top-ten-reasons-why-he-is-going-to-run-screaming-from-the-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-629 Mike Masters Mon, 11 May 2009 20:23:17 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=688#comment-629 Leaving on a 21 mile run! need to stay attractive for all my male "friends" Wish me luck! Leaving on a 21 mile run! need to stay attractive for all my male “friends”
Wish me luck!

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