25 signs to know, he is NOT into you – part 1

by Mike Masters on December 2, 2009

Okay, I know I am doing a lot of list/funny stuff lately but this one is a request from readers on another website. I promised them I would do this list so here it is!

25 ways to know he is not into you!

1.    Accommodating but not engaging – This is a precursor to a relationship failure.  When you look at his placid smiling face, it is probably just his penis smiling back, he knows he is no longer into you but his sex drive refuses to give up the booty.
2.    Doesn’t reciprocate – I remember once saying, “I love you,” to a girl (I know who would have thought) she hesitated for a second and responding as if talking to an adorable puppy. “ahh… I love you too.” Ouch! I suddenly realized that she had moved on from me. So I stepped on the puppy and broke up with her!
3.    Friends become a greater priority – This one bums me out because often a guy doesn’t know why he is unhappy and he thinks the solution lies with seeing less of you. Granted absence makes the heart grow fond, but jeez, I still can’t stand my obese aunt Connie even after 15 years, maybe we need more time?
4.    Spends more time at work – This is an avoidance tactic like above, he is uncomfortable with you and his subconscious or conscious is creating more work. OR… he is busy Zeroxing his coworkers privates in the coffee room.
5.    He stops listening – He used to like you and he feels a bit indebted since he almost proposed the first week. He still tries to listen but the passion is gone and he wants nothing more than to smack his former self around for committing to you. Save him the effort, do the smacking for him and get out.
6.    Sex starts to dwindle  – This is huge! Even a man has a hard time being genuine with sex if he is not into the girl. If all you get is 30 seconds up against the fridge, once a week, his genitals have finally gotten on board with his head. Of course, it is possible he has gone gay, look for signs of anal leakage in his discarded underwear.

7.    You contact him he doesn’t respond – Major major sign. However, so many girls turn a blind eye to this, thinking for some reason it is normal for you to text/call him 39 times in one day without a response. Stop this now!! but if you want to understand how to get the power back read my book to become badass at texting!
8.    Looks at or talks about other women – To my shame most guys do this, it is inevitable. However, the more he wants to wander mentally the more his eyes follow suit. So if you see him lusting after the waitress with a butt like two little coconuts, you might consider getting implants or getting out.
9.    Makes negative comments about your body/clothes appearance – This generally happens when the honeymoon is over. Reality has hit and if your relationship doesn’t have more than the physical to hold it together, he will attack it. Ironically, even if he looks an fat Oscar the Grouch he will have find the audacity to criticize you.
10.    He is looking for a fight – Once I was unhappily in an average relationship for 8 months, why? Because we never fought about anything, there was no reason to break up! If he is trying to start a fight he very well might be trying to find a reason to get out. Or possibly he is doing steroids or just ran out of meth? (In that case, don’t worry he is still into you)
11.    Hides your tooth brush/earrings/underwear – I used to have a bowl in the kitchen that I would put all the stuff girls left at my house. “Have you seen my earrings,” a girl might ask. Yeah there in the bowl, she would later look at me in horror after she dug through a birds nest of hair ties, toothbrushes, and underwear (sometimes I would add stuff for fun).  If a guy is exclusive with you and has no problem with your presence and he will NEVER be annoyed by all the articles of garbage you shed like hair in his man cave.
12.    Gets secretive with his phone – Possibly he is planning a surprise party for you!!! Or he is slipping the baloney-pony to your best friend? No way to be sure, so I would chalk this up as an indicator only. So, should you search his phone when he is gone? Sure! and after that I hope he really does sleep with your best friend to match your dishonesty!
13.    Multitasks when you are talking –All this means is that you have taken a less important role in his life and he feels that watching porn or solving the newest sudoku puzzle is perfectly acceptable while you blab in the background. Do yourself a favor, blab to your girlfriends ONLY and kick him to the curb because HE IS NOT INTO YOU!

The next 25 reason he may not be into you is continued here
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1 Kelli December 2, 2009 at 9:29 am

I think the mindfulness point is of particular use. I am guilty of this. When I am with people but thinking of someone else, I am constantly on my phone. When I am with the one who I’ve been waiting for, I forget there are others in this world.

Another point I’ve been guilty of in the past is giving guys gifts when I feel like they are stepping away. I know! I’ll give you this really sweet thoughtful something and it will make you see how fabulous I am. WRONG.

Great post. Looking forward to the continuation.
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2 Mike Masters December 2, 2009 at 10:28 am

A lot of these focus on him not focusing on you. I could have lumped them together but I wanted readers to be able to identify certain behavior.

Funny giving gifts when he is stepping away almost guilts him into running away instead. Often a guy feels he needs to reciprocate that gift and he wants to bolt. The best move is actually pulling away yourself to allow him to figure out what the hell is wrong.

Look forward to your post Kelli


3 lisa jones December 3, 2009 at 9:07 am

hahahah…I like the pic ….its so cute…..
love the post too….

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4 Jillian December 3, 2009 at 10:05 am

I LIKE that book. But you knew that already. I think it is a worthwhile read and the movie is a great chick flick.
.-= Jillian´s last blog ..Updating Facebook is important =-.

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5 Tracy December 24, 2010 at 6:23 pm

Going through a rather confusing time with my bf….in which i know there are personal issues going on with him, irrelevant to our relationship, but regardless it affects our relationship. Not the best time (xmas is tmr) to be in this situation, and the reason for all my headaches lately.

However your blog was lighthearted (but still very useful) and it made me laugh, just random parts of it, especially:

12. Gets secretive with his phone – Possibly he is planning a surprise party for you!!! Or he is slipping the baloney-pony to your best friend?

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