Never drunk text a guy
These rules apply to guys you are interested in and want to get to know better. This is not necessarily the best texting strategy for friends or the current guy you are seeing.
Never:
- Never send more than one text at a time. He sends a text you reply
- Never diarrhea text, it is needy and not attractive
- Never DRUNK TEXT A GUY!!! This is like trying to buy a car intoxicated, you are not going to get a good deal
- Never lie to get his attention
- GIRLS: never bring up anything sexual before the actual act, YOU ARE VIRGINAL!
- GUYS: flirt with the sex boundary but don’t push it, make a girl feel comfortable first.
- GIRLS: Never send nude pics of yourself, even if he can’t see your face. NEVER EVER DO THIS, I CAN GUARANTEE AFTER YOU BREAK UP THEY WILL BE SHOWN TO FRIENDS OR PUT ON A WEBSITE (unless of course you don’t mind)
- GUYS: encourage the nude pics! and immediately forward them to your friends. Hahaha!
As you notice the advice differs a little bit from guys to girls. If a girl wants to send me a nude pic, I won’t stop her but I will let her know right after she shouldn’t have done that! Remember this is a tug-a-war and a good battle is one that stalemates. If a girl wants to show her affections so inappropriately I certainly don’t mind, it means I don’t have to pull so hard.
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Try to:
- Wait the same amount of time to reply that he does, if not a bit longer
- Think of texting like thumb wrestling, a great time to test each other out
- GIRLS: When texting a guy never let him know how excited you are to hear from him!
- GUYS: this applies to you too when texting girls, play it cool. Show zero excitement in the beginning, let her really wonder if you are actually into her.
- GIRLS: Let the guy contact you first, remember he is the pursuer not you
- GUYS: Make sure you wait a little while before you contact her, make her sweat a little, seed the doubt. If she contacts you first let her take the male role!
- Be careful when texting guys with anything sexual it is very hard to tell his mood from a text and you don’t want to be in heat on one end while he watches football on the other
- Not pull any punches!! Be playful but don’t add the just kidding to the end. Screwed up? So what! Don’t say sorry unless you absolutely have to. Learn from it and move on
Always:
- Be so popular that you are always too busy to respond
- After first meeting him wait about three days to contact if he or she does not contact you first
- GIRLS: Be playful and confident, you don’t need him, he needs you!
- GUYS: Be cocky and funny, don’t be afraid to be a tiny bit of a dick when texting girls (be cautious here if you are not experienced at this)
- GIRLS: Keep the power in the situation by being just slightly aloof to his advances.
- GUYS: Make advances but never show your intent, keep your emotions in control and allow her to falter first
- Take your time to formulate a killer response, rather than something lame that you fired off
- Text like a normal conversation but YOU HAVE THE TIME TO MAKE IT SO MUCH WITTIER – wit is sexy, don’t underestimate it
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Text with a “hook” if the guy or girl is not getting back to you or taking too long
You: Hey Jason, I heard something pretty funny about you.
Jason: Huh? What did you hear?
You: Tell you later, are you going out tonight?
Jason: Yeah I am meeting some friends at Rocks.
You: Sounds good maybe I will see you out tonight
Jason: Okay
Jason: wait, what did you hear???
Jason: hello???
This “hook” basically means you bait the message with information he wants to know. This is mainly to get a text response without begging for one. You create a need from him so he will text you back ASAP. After he does, see how long you can avoid answering the question with out being too much of a pain in the ass.
DANGER!! A friend of mine recently sent her ex this “I can’t believe that you lied to me!!!” He of course IMMEDIATELY called her back and she didn’t answer. This was a lie to get his attention. It worked smashingly but it also elicited negative emotion. When the truth all came out it didn’t work in her favor. So… bend the truth, be playful but lying will bite you later.
So… When texting a guy:
- “The rules” are really just guidelines, you can break them but beware…
- The most dangerous part of texting a guy is sexual, keep this vague and to a minimum
- The most important rule is patience, this communicates very attractive emotional maturity
- Remember conversation in SLOW MO you have time to experiment!
Still have questions?
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Hope you take a look, Mike Masters (BTW that is me on the right)
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MAIN RULE!
Flatter his mind with what he’s got underneath the belt WITHOUT MENTIONING A CRUDE WORD!
DO IT LIKE MAE WEST!
Until he only gets your orifices in mind as a target.
YOU’LL GET TO THE HIGHER SKIES THAT WAY!
PascalH.
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yay! i love it. sooo true.
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i’m really liking the advice you have here, so i want to ask you a question about my situation, which has a bit of a caveat to it.
i’m having an emotional affair with someone who’s already in a relationship. it’s a long-distance thing that’s been going on for about a month or so. for the first two weeks, we were talking every day, whether by text, chat or phone. sometimes, our phone conversations would last for hours into the night.
our texting has been consistent, for the most part. this last week, it hasn’t been as much. last thursday, he mentioned that he was going to text me to let me know when we could talk, because he was going to be on the road and we could chat for awhile. i never heard from him, so i texted him later in the evening, to find out if everything was okay. no response.
i next heard from him when he texted me over the weekend, after he had had some to drink. i didn’t respond.
i called him on monday and we spoke for an hour or so. everything seemed fine, no red flags or anything. he explained that the reason why he didn’t contact me was because he had gotten locked out of his hotel room and it took him an hour to get back. by that time he was in a bad mood…i probably wouldn’t have wanted to talk to him. at the end of the conversation, he said he had to take care of something, so he said he’d call back. however, i didn’t expect him to, so when i didn’t hear from him, i didn’t think it was a big deal.
i texted him the next day, a playful/funny one. i haven’t heard back.
and, of course, things are complicated because he’s in a serious, committed relationship…even though he’s made it clear that he wishes he could be with me.
so my question is – is there really nothing going on, or should i just move on? i know he’s been stressed out lately with his job, etc. but wondering if there’s more to it than this.
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Very simple answer to this one and I kinda talk about it here http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/2009/06/22/the-cheating-gene-who-does-it-and-why/
You are the other woman, nothing ever works out for the other woman. EVER…! Enjoy your flirt but don’t have any expectations. There is not texting advice I can give the will get him back because he has another woman. His genitals want two woman but if he really wanted to be with you… he would be.
Only way to solve this is back off completely, tell him you can’t see him until he finishes up with his current relationship. Hopefully you will be able to handle the attention he throws back your way.
so does this mean backing off completely and not contacting him at all until he contacts me? or does this mean giving him the ultimatum and then backing off?
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Great website with some cool advice that you don’t have to pay $300 for like the rules website!
I have a question: I met the guy of my dreams in July on a scuba trip, we had a great time on holiday and it was a rules relationship – he made the first move, no sex etc. He lives in another country to me and since we’ve been back we’ve been texting constantly and we’ve visited each other twice. The texting has dropped off since I got back from seeing him last weekend and he has only texted me twice since then.
I emailed saying I’m super busy, got a lot on my plate, is he sticking to it or should i clear him off..with smileys of course. He emailed me to say he has enjoyed every moment and is still enjoying our time together but has a lot on HIS plate and doesn’t have time for a relationship and wants to be friends… despite having planned a trip away at christmas break and travelling to Eastern Europe together next summer??!? He’s at uni studying to be a pilot and he’s only 22. He also texted me today calling me beautiful, asking about my day and telling me he has no time and it’s stressing him out. He always ends his texts with kisses.
I haven’t replied…leaving it four days like he did which will kill me less than the agonising four days I had to wait for him strangely enough ;-P I hate playing these games but he’s special.
Is he giving me a super nice brush off or does he really need to ‘clear his head’ like he says? I have a flight booked to see him in two weeks but am not sure what to do now. Any advice?
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