The rules for texting guys – Don’t make these mistakes!

by Mike Masters on September 25, 2010

He will text you constantly!

I imagine that you are here because something didn’t go your way. You text him and he didn’t text you back or his answer was very short. You are not really sure about his intentions or if he is even interested. You feel like you might have messed things up, and all you want to do is get his attention back! I am a guy that wants you to WIN in the relationship game. I apologize in advance for being rough but stick with me!

Curb your impatience – This is advice I give both men and women in the area of texting. Patience is a hell of a virtue and it shows that you have emotional maturity. When texting a guy I know it is really frustrating when he doesn’t take the situation with as much severity. To win, you need to show some self-restraint and understand that he may not consider texting as important a medium as you do. Rather match his interest, and hold back from texting him!

Text back only when he does – Ties right into the above, you need to let him take the lead here. You need to set the stage for the type of relationship you would like to have with him later. If you are the one constantly texting him and showing need, this will continue into whatever relationship you create with him. (This means you will be the one to ask him out, he won’t do it ever) Make sure you ONLY text when he does and it wouldn’t hurt to forget to text back every once in a while. Never chase a guy over text – Probably the biggest mistake ladies make not only with texting guys but in creating relationships with them. Many kick and fight against this concept but have you honestly ever had this work out? Have you ever been assertive with a guy and had him reciprocate your interest? The reason why is because this is the MALE role not the female. If you are the one chasing him over text or in person he sits back and lets you do all the work, then he does his best to sleep with you and disappears shortly after. Don’t do this, don’t chase him over text or any other medium. In my book TextAppeal, I will teach you a few strategies to encourage him to chase you, it really isn’t that hard since men will naturally do this if you encourage it in the right way. (If you don’t like this advice take a second to really think about it, did it ever really work to chase him, ever??)

Don’t allow texting sex talk – You know how men start sexting dirty right away, or look for some lame excuse to text something nasty? This is because men need to filter women, is she sex material or relationship material? If you respond overly soon with sexual texting, guess which category you will fall into. I imagine if you are reading this you want to be considered relationship material NOT sex material. This is why you need to ignore or even get upset with his constant sexual pushing. Resisting in this area does two positive things: you are taken more seriously and pushed into the relationship category AND believe it or not sexual tension is built simply by resisting it. So even if you want to rip his clothes off and devour every sweaty inch of him, error on the side of caution! and never virtually flash your boobs. There are so many better things that you can be doing to increase the attraction, and using sex is bound to backfire.

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How guys think differently about texting

This of course is not all men, but I would have to say the majority of men think along these lines and you could apply this to the real world as well as the texting one.

Texting is a tool – most men do not see texting as entertainment, of course men enjoy getting to know a woman but so often he is clueless that you are the one he needs to get to know. If he is texting you back one-word answers or not answering, it is possible he either hates texting or really isn’t that interested. This is where you need to make him interested! Something I spend a lot of time talking about in my texting book, TextAppeal

Guys are fixers – This ties into the one above, guys don’t gossip (Well not as much). They don’t process information the same way that women do. A guy isn’t nearly as interested when you text about your boss as your friend might be. Most men see your processing of information as something he needs to change to win your approval. Don’t confuse him and yourself by texting him things that he will feel required to fix.

Stop IYHS – In your head syndrome, is without a doubt the biggest mental gap that men and women possess. (Once again I apologize for my bluntness) You think this guy is the one? You just met him a few days ago yet you have wrapped a huge fantasy around him? He rarely texts you back, he has a girlfriend but for some reason you cant see this. IYHS is a deal breaker when texting guys. He will see pretty quickly that you have created a fantasy around him that he will only put up with until he can sleep with you. Then he will disappear. This is one of the failings of texting since your communication is really really brief and you must fill in the gaps of his thinking with yours. PLEASE, Let him prove to you that he is madly in love, don’t ever assume it!

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I am a guy that is 100% on your side, I don’t pull any punches not because I want to be right, but because I want you to get the guy! This is a win/win because creating and maintaining this kind of attraction is exactly what he wants as well. This is why I wrote the book below, to give you what you want as fast as possible! This is not an advertisement for someone else’s material but a book I personally wrote for YOU, to get the GUY! Look, it really isn’t that hard to control the situation over text, to really make a difference in the way he perceives you, to shift the balance in your favor. If you are not getting what you want from him, why not use some killer texting strategies to get into his head and launch the relationship to the next level?? Take a look below, you are only a click away from getting what you want. Want to wrap him around your little finger? Getting EXACTLY what you want is easier than you think.

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1 Anonymous February 12, 2009 at 6:35 pm

Here’s a great story for ya: Last month, I met who I thought was a great guy. We hang out, get to know each other and next thing you know, he dumps me in a text message!! Has technology taken over humans so much that they can’t dial numbers anymore?! Are men that whack?!

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2 K.E. June 16, 2011 at 10:07 am

Yes. Get over it and save your energy for someone who digs you.

PS – eventually, YOU will dump someone by text too. Trust me.

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3 Porsche February 12, 2009 at 6:41 pm

I’m the texting queen!
A lot of times, when I meet a guy, I tell him Im not a big phone person so I’ll text them instead of call them. Well, last month I met what I thought was a great guy. We hung out, got to know each other and next thing I know, he dumps me in a text message! I know I’m not a big talker, but are guys that idiotic that they can’t dial a number?!

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4 Mike Masters February 12, 2009 at 8:39 pm

Funny!
It is pretty clear he is a coward or he is very afraid of you?
My question is, would you have preferred he dumped you on the phone??

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5 Janice T August 11, 2010 at 2:11 pm

I say who cares. I’ve dumped people over email in the past, and I’m a really nice person – I take care of my Mom(going on 7 years now) and I treat guys great. But there really is no sense in suffering through drama trauma when two people are not suited and they were just dating. And I mean JUST.

Because, come on now – who here is actually, seriously, focused on getting married? Is that clear from the start? No? Just passing the time cuz one of you were bored? Lonely? Be honest now.

I’ll take this “poor me, we broke up electronically” more seriously when people date more seriously. Besides which, if you were dating more than one person when it wasn’t that serious, like we’re supposed to do, you wouldn’t get all oxytocin on the wrong guy. Dating around dilutes that effect.

If someone dumps me over email – I’d be grateful – more time and calm for me to get started on my own healing, I can save face, without him seeing me get tearful and so on. Less chance of that clingy oxytocin breakup drama. Rip off the band-aid, and all that.

End of rant.

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6 What May 18, 2013 at 9:07 am

I didn’t realize there was a “supposed to” when it came to number of people we date or see.
That’s kind of assumptive, isn’t it?
Live your life how you chose to but don’t tell other people what they are “supposed to” do with theirs.

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7 Mike Masters May 21, 2013 at 4:38 am

It’s blog honey, it expresses opinions.
Which I might add, it is very assumptive of you to think I am wrong.

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8 Porsche March 18, 2009 at 1:37 pm

I would have preferred he’d dump me in person. But time has passed and he contacted me asking to forgive him and wanting to start over. Guys are such dummies.

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9 Janice T August 11, 2010 at 2:13 pm

If you’re going to date him again, be sure to date other guys at the same time. Better yet, date (or SEEM to date! ;) ) other people and NOT him for a few weeks or months before taking him back – and DON’T be exclusive. Someone who dumps you once will almost always dump you again.

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10 trinity November 23, 2012 at 5:48 pm

thats stuped why would u date onother guy when ur inna relay with one ur a fugen cheater

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11 CarloGabriel April 1, 2009 at 2:49 pm

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12 K.E. June 16, 2011 at 10:16 am

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13 Mendy August 24, 2009 at 10:51 pm

yes, no one ever picks up the phone. its just text . text away sad actually

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14 Janice T August 11, 2010 at 2:18 pm

Well, except the upside is that: the face time is better. If men feel more comfortable texting, AND girls can chill about waiting out texts – I say this is a win-win.

Girls can always chat among themselves, if they need it.

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15 Robin November 5, 2009 at 10:16 am

If women would follow these texting rules and take the time to read this book it will change your dating life for the better. Same principles often apply to calling men.
Robin´s last blog ..Calling and Texting Guys updated Wed Oct 21 2009 11:26 am CDT My ComLuv Profile

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16 Robin November 5, 2009 at 10:18 am

If women would read this book and take this advice I think they would find their dating success would improve. Same advice applies to calling.
Robin´s last blog ..Calling and Texting Guys updated Wed Oct 21 2009 11:26 am CDT My ComLuv Profile

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17 K.E. June 16, 2011 at 10:21 am

I agree Robin. Between Mike’s e-book,”The “Rules” book, and AskMen.com, I stopped making stupid mistakes.

Mike’s e-book is great for putting the reins on girls being too chatty, and swamping the guy with too much information.

“The Rules” basically says the same thing, but it didn’t have any info on texting, which is the real intro to getting to know people these days.

And AskMen.com pretty much clues in the clueless as to how men think. ;)

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18 Mike Masters November 5, 2009 at 11:04 am

Thanks for the thumbs up Robin!
If you didn’t realize she is talking about my textbook. http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/ebook/

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19 Janice T August 11, 2010 at 2:22 pm

Mike your book & posts on texting so saved my a**. I am generally a dating ninja/geisha – it’s all about using the right tool for the job ;) ! – but I was new to texting – no more ;)

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20 Robin November 23, 2009 at 6:49 am

Also a good rule is if you have to ask yourself should you text him, well the safest answer to follow when in doubt is NO! The one who cares the least has the power in the relationship. If you initiate all the texting you lose your power. Follow Mikes rules, keep your power.
Robin´s last blog ..Calling and Texting Guys updated Thu Nov 19 2009 12:02 pm CST My ComLuv Profile

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21 Mike Masters November 23, 2009 at 7:02 am

Thanks Robin!

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22 sharon May 9, 2010 at 7:30 am

well i want to know something.im the only one who actually starts every conversation…it goes well but i feel like im bothering them so should i just wait till they txt me or what?…..(seeking advise…..)

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23 Mike Masters May 9, 2010 at 8:09 am

The problem is that once you have established a dynamic like this it is very hard to break it.
You will be the one dragging him out, setting up dates, basically initiating everything.
You don’t want this kind of power balance, so yeah, you should wait. This kind of balance is everything in a relationship and without it you are screwed.

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24 Janice T August 11, 2010 at 10:28 am

I think it’s more useful to re-frame it in a positive way, NLP-stylee, to graduate to the desired habit:

If you NOTICE yourself following a texting dynamic that is unsatisfying, start REPLACING your texting HABITS with BETTER ones. (<= That's where you re-program yourself) ASK for advice, and MODEL the texting habits of more successful texters.

You can start by keeping busy with more productive activities, instead of dwelling on texts. You can also try ignoring any negativity in their texts, and instead replying back with something funny, that has nothing to do with their (boring, cranky, or whatever) text.

Smart comedy is almost always a really good idea. Not only in texting , but everywhere. It's a good tool for dialing down negative dynamics.

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25 Robin June 23, 2010 at 11:15 am

I swear if I get one more dull, lame text message like “How is your day?” I just might scream. I really wish every guy would read this book. Most of them suck at this.
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26 Janice T August 11, 2010 at 10:21 am

Ladies, may I suggest the following:

1) Date more than one guy – it dilutes the oxytocin-fueled one-man-obsession. Plus, guys will sense that some other guy is in the picture, and that just makes YOU look more desirable. Guys always want to cock block other guys, if only to be jerks. It’s hard-wired.

2) take improv comedy classes. Apply what you learn there to texting (especially the “yes, and” game: Whatever lame ass thing he negs you with, you own it and up the ante.) Your confidence will go UP, and you be be oh-so-more of a challenge. Touche’, dude! En garde!

3) Stage work also does wonders for your confidence, which is so key in all of this. Find any sort of class, amateur or even pro group to perform with: local theater troupes, dance troupe, music, written word, comedy, I don’t care, just DO it. Get rid of whatever inappropriate awkwardness or shyness that may be killing your game.

DO keep a little of the femmy shyness tho – it’s cute & prevents you from being all sharky. Innocence is sexy – don’t lose it all, and regenerate it if you can.

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27 Aplus September 27, 2010 at 12:02 am

You do make a lot of sense, but that is just how women are, they are emotional lovers, and you know something, I can tell you now that some men would not want it any other way.

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28 Caleb November 16, 2010 at 12:55 pm

Good call, Mike. I won’t reiterate anything you said, but I would add a tip for women who have an insatiable need to text and just can’t listen to reason. Text something funny or interesting! Mike’s example of a story about your boss is completely typical; we don’t care, and it’s just a problem to fix. One girl I’m dating has this issue right now and I just never respond.

In fact, sometimes I will respond (much later) with something that completely disregards her text- just to hint that I am not going to respond to lame, whiny texts that are mostly designed to show her neediness. I responded recently to some work complaint with the following text:

“Just ordered a L’il Ceaser’s Hot-n-ready sausage pizza. That’s dirty, right?”
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29 K.E. June 16, 2011 at 4:59 pm

When Caleb said, “I am not going to respond to lame, whiny texts that are mostly designed to show her neediness”, I agree he shouldn’t bother answering, but for different reasons.

Most women just aren’t conscious that they’re being whiny – they think they’re sharing, or communicating. Trust me, girls do NOT want to advertise their neediness! When they advertise it, it’s just by mistake – but men are right to flag it.

So Caleb’s right not to answer, because that just rewards whiny texting. And funny texts are good too. So right on, Caleb!

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30 Queenie November 16, 2010 at 1:19 pm

I wish someone would cut my fingers off so I would be left with nothing but little knubs and the inability to TEXT. Ever had an argument over texting with your boyfriend? Rather interesting,…needless to say, I wish texting were illegal because it makes it too easy to avoid ‘true’ communication which is face to face and not hiding behind some iPhone. Now, if you’ll excuse me, me and my knubs have a text date.

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31 K.E. June 16, 2011 at 5:05 pm

I never argue over text. I just stop texting. It’s more powerful, overall.

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32 Newbie June 8, 2011 at 1:53 pm

I was texting with this for a week before our date, like all the time and he typically initiated the texts. When we finally made it on our date, it went well. He texted right after saying he had a fun and would luv to see me. I texted him, I felt the same way tha tsame night. I didn’t hear from him for a day after he texted (night of our date)…said he ate something bad. We text a bit for the next few days, he initated the texts. Then this past saturday he stopped texting. So, later in the evening I text him…how’s your day? He texts, tough, see I was waiting for this girl to text me and she finally come through at 7pm. nah, it’s been a good day. So flirty and cute that text was. He kept asking my thoughts about our date and we agreed we both dug it. We agreed to go on a second date but he wasn’t sure if this weekend would work. Then suddnely he stops texting. So I read mike’s book on text appeal and send him a text today….Hey Blue Eyes, too busy to text, are you?…that’s just too bad, cuz I thought you were cute! ;-) Then 2 hours later he texts somethin like, Hey it’s been a crazy week. A emergency with family, training and a dick of a new boss. It’s not excuse I should have made time to text. It’s been a few hours and i have not responded….I don’t even know what to say to that. It’s like what???? Dont’ ask me how I’m doing???? Like didn’t send the text intending to make him feel back for not texting so I didn’t need him to acknowledge he didn’t make time. I just wanted to see if he was interested. What do you all think?

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33 K.E. June 16, 2011 at 5:03 pm

Just keep it light, reply back with something like: Poor sweetie! Well, when your problems are over, let me know – I’d love to cheer you up! ;)

Something like that. Then STOP texting unless he texts. Keep it all cheerful, light, and LESS than his.

And date someone else in the meantime!

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34 Robinincarolina June 14, 2011 at 9:33 am

Hey Newbie,
He offered up an explanation more than likely because he figured you like most women expect one. Sad but true. Men are often conditioned this way because of the drama mamas in their past. No need to even worry about that, just over look the explanation.

It’s very soon in your dating and at the moment that is all it is, dating. Just send back a smiley or a one liner acknowledging his text.
My reply by the way on the night of the date would have just been a smiley, nothing more, nothing less. Hold back something, be a bit mysterious, it’s what draws them and compels them to want to know more, hence getting you that second date.
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35 beth June 29, 2011 at 10:39 pm

I really like your website. You share your knowledge about dating topics freely. Unlike other sites where they keep making you read on and on waiting to get to the real point and in the end, they tell you to sign up and pay… I won’t mind paying buy why keep me reading on and on and creating suspense and wasting my time? Nkt!
Thanks. very informative and very sober site.
beth

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36 emily October 4, 2011 at 1:41 pm

I have a question.. I met this juggalo named Jordan at this party about 6 months ago now and I got his number a month after I met him texted him and told him its the girl from the party well first I added him on Facebook n told him who I was then he gave me his number. We talked for a couple of months and the first time we hung out at his apartment he asked me out then I was going to move but I changed my mind so I gave it some time and told him I want him back but it took quite awhile. Since I’ve met him we nearly texted he’s was on some drugs but we still kept in contact and hung out. All we would do is kiss and cuddle and waited for sex well eventually we went out again but I asked him out and he said yes but he put himself in rehab so I waited a month visited him every week and we wrote letters to eachother he was saying he loved me and he’d be devestated if he lost me the day he gets back he only texted me at night and didn’t even give me attention…then I got drunk and confronted him and I never talked to him since he never texts back anymore. What should I do I really like this Guy.

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37 Robinincarolina October 6, 2011 at 12:55 pm

emily,

You are doing all the work in this. You are texting, asking him out, adding him on facebook, etc…., stop! Now he is on drugs, been in rehab. Boy he sounds like a real winner. Sorry to be so blunt, but I think he may have lied about the missing you or being devastated. If this was the case he would not only answer your texts, but initiate some of his own.
Robinincarolina´s last blog ..The Real Truth Why Men Disappear updated Sun Oct 2 2011 11:39 am CDTMy ComLuv Profile

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38 Carla October 12, 2011 at 6:21 pm

Ok, so i WAS texting this guy that i have never met before (you see my friend set us up, but he doesn’t live down here so we can’t see each other…i know it’s a bit weird), but anyway we used to text all of the time and although he is 2 years older than me, he was saying some really nice stuff about me. And he was always calling me cute and telling me that he wanted to kiss me and everything. However, i later found out that he has this huge crush on this girl, and that he has had this crush for quite some time now!
And then all of a sudden out of the blue he just stops texting me, like full stop. I tried to get him to start texting me again by like texting him first and asking question and shit, but nothing was working as he would just reply with one word answers.
And then the other day my friend (the one who set us up) told me that he was talking to her on facebook about me, and saying that he missed talking to me and how he feels like such a prick because he hasn’t been texting me because his phone broke. So i was like, oh yeah, so i text him, and he sent me back a one word answer.

So do you think my friend lied to me? or do you think that he was just stringing along in the first place, with no actual interest?… he is coming down this month and we were supposed to catch up but i don’t know if we should anymore…what do you think?

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39 Annie October 24, 2011 at 7:22 pm

Well this guy and i have been texting over a year, it all started really well. We texted daily and for such a long time mostly by him and him calling me princess giving me few hints. I asked him after a while what do u mean to him? his reply was youll know everything soon. and i had to wait but continued it texted normally. His dad knew about me and when i asked him what does he knew his reply was i cant tell no. Then i asked him what did your dad say then, and all he said is that he smiled and huged me. We never talked on the phone though. and after a long while after all these texts i heard that hes dating and when everyone asks him he keeps denying it so im not really sure. He used to start texts and checks on me. However lately he hasn’ t and its been me hows doing all the texts here, i try to stay for weeks not to text but after few days i do and when i do he treats me very well, but sometime i keep missing him so much that it shows that im very needy to him, Which is a big mistake huh? But now i really dont know how to fix beeing needy to him and get him attracted to my texts, how can I? Ill feel good and more confident if i fixed the way i look needy infront of him i guess. yet i dont want to stop texting but i can keep it once or so a week. By the way since we havent been texting these days much coz im the one who starts we keep it short “2-3 texts a day in a week” please help with adcive here. Thank you
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40 Nikita November 21, 2011 at 7:54 am

I luv a guy who live in different state . We were in relationship for a month and now he says he want break- up but I can’t live without him help me to get him back

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41 Nikita November 21, 2011 at 9:00 am

I luv a guy who live in different state . We were in relationship for a month and now he says he want break- up but I can’t live without him help me to get him back and the most important thing is we always used to talk on phone for half hour . He says he want k

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42 natalie December 4, 2011 at 10:50 am

What if a guy texts you mostly but calls you too?

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43 Jen January 14, 2012 at 10:04 pm

I am texting guy guy as a write this, I do believe that you have just saved me.

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44 Shelbie February 12, 2012 at 7:19 am

Hey Mike,

I went out with my girls a few weeks ago and met a cute guy. Turns out he was friends with one my girls and he came to hang out with us. Different times I noticed him looking at me, but I didn’t think much of it. He talked to me quite a bit, just small talk pretty much, again didn’t think much of it. When I was leaving (I was the first to leave), my friend told me he thought I was cute and wanted to know if I was single. She said I was (gee thanks). He also gave me two long hugs when he was saying goodbye to me. After I left, he took her phone and got my number. When I was driving home, he texted me. I wanted to make him sweat, so I didn’t answer till the next day. When I did answer, he asked if he could add me on facebook. I received a friend request a few days later. About a week went by, so I texted him to see how he was. He answered right away, and kept the conversation going. 2 weeks went by, same thing. He needs to pick up and text me now. I’ve done my part. He still talks to me through facebook using winking faces and stuff, but why won’t he text me first? Help!

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45 Some guy March 14, 2012 at 4:46 pm

There are no rules to texting. I’ll give you a tip, be yourself

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46 Mike Masters March 28, 2012 at 12:28 am

Moron…

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47 myra April 30, 2012 at 3:14 pm

Thanks you made me feel a lot better. In your honest opinion and coming from a guy why do guys give girls their phone numbers and tell them to call or text and when you do they dump you?

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48 shannon March 16, 2012 at 1:58 pm

There is a guy that i like and when he texts me it is like he is like distant. We used to be so close and he used to make it so obvious that he liked me but now he doesn’t. he sends short texts instead. Sometimes i manage to distract myself and stop myself texting him for a day and then text him the next day. this is probably where i am going wrong. But he used to respond to that and sometimes he actually spoke to me everyday. It is like he enjoys ignoring me. We have been friends for about 3 years. I get annoyed when he doesn’t answer me. Once he wasn’t happy for me not to text him straight away but sometimes it takes a week or somert for him to text back. I don’t understand anymore and don’t know what to do. Any advice?

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49 Tia April 10, 2012 at 6:39 am

OK ladies, let’s get something straight, if a guy likes you, he will find a way to talk to you, to communicate, now we know that guys in general don’t like talking in the phone for long periods of time, some of them are just not good on the phone period. but never let someone make texting the main form of communication, its lame. What is he doing so important that he can’t pick up the phone for 5 minutes and hear your voice. why does he not want to hear your voice?you deserve a phone call., no if and or buts about it. as long as we enable men to send us lame ass text messages whenever they want and not respond until they feel like it, we are fueling this shi#@! behavior. Don’t be afraid to make some sort of demands on a person, if they care about you they will step up and do what needs to be done, if not, he can go elsewhere

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50 Anonymous July 14, 2012 at 2:24 am

This is the smartest thing I read so far! I don’t allow anybody to ask me out through text,it’s lame and not manly at all!! Shows you the difference between a real boy and a real man.

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51 nikki April 18, 2012 at 4:02 pm

So my boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago and we still text but we got into a couple huge fights. I’ve been initiating the texts but he always answers except when i try to talk about us he either says “stop” or doesn’t reply. But yet he still tells me he likes me but that we’re not going to do this which I don’t understand because if he still liked me why wouldn’t he want to talk about it and work things out?

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52 Myra April 23, 2012 at 6:27 am

Here’s my story. I met a guy through a dating site. We talked for three weeks through this site. He gives me his phone number and tells me to call or text him. Not aware of his work schedule I thought that texting would be better until I knew what his work schedule was. For a few weeks he text me and I text him. He then asked me if I would come to Chicago to meet him. I was planning on going because I have family in Chicago, but do to my great uncles medical condition I thought that I needed to be home with him. I told this man about what was going on and that I would let him know when it would be a better time for me to come. Well my uncle was rushed to the hospital and we were told that he was not expected to live. On April 14, 2012 my uncle passed away and his funeral was set for last Friday April 20, 2012. Well last night I called him and he did not answer so I text him. About 1:45 am he text me back saying that he didn’t want to talk to me anymore and that he was tired of texting. For one thing he’s a coward because he had my phone number and he could have called me at anytime. The jerk didn’t even have the respect to call or text me to send his regards to my uncles death or illness. Well he called me low scum because I told him that I pray for his daughters everyday that no man treat them the way that he treated me. I don’t by that I’m bored crap by no man because if they truly care about you as a woman they would do anything to keep her. Even if that means coming out of your comfort zone to meet her, calling her instead of waiting for her to call you, offer your condolences when she loses a loved one. Not walk away when she needs you the most. Karma could be a BITCH and one day he is going to wish he had stayed with me.

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53 myra April 30, 2012 at 3:10 pm

I got dumped by a guy who told me that he was bored with texting. Well why in the hell did he give me his number and told me to text or call him. If he were that damn bored then he could have called me or told me to call him. What a moron I hope and pray that the next girl he ends up with breaks his damn heart something serious. Karma will follow him that’s for sure.

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54 Beauty with in May 28, 2012 at 6:44 pm

k, I just recently met this hottie at the club. He gave me his card so ofcourse i had to message him first. I normally never call men that i meet in the clubs, just cause I don’t think there date able. I just txted him for the first time yesterday and he responded instantly. He told me that his never been intrigued at first glance, honestly i felt the same way. But he hasn’t txt or called today. I know i’m probably being weird about the hole thing but I’m used to men chasing me. Even the super hot ones. Should I txt him hello or should i wait for him to contact me?

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55 Lee May 29, 2012 at 8:50 pm

Well I wish I would have saw this sooner. I was getting irritated with him so I just straight up asked if he was still interested in me and he never replied back. I don’t understand why there are rules to dating. Every time I go to look up some advice on dating I see that I have already broken every rule so I’m just like fuck it. I see the situation as you like me, I like you. Bam. Nothing complicated about that. I don’t like playing games. It’s absolutely agonizing to have to wait for a guy. To hell with that. If you don’t want me, grow a pair and tell me. Don’t avoid me because it pisses me off. Hell hath no fury like a women scorned. I know what I want and I don’t have time to wait for you for weeks to figure it out.

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56 Dakota Anne July 3, 2012 at 8:40 am

So me and this guy have been talking for about a week and then we went on a double date. He flirts ALOT over text and he sometimes talks about having sex with me. But anyway on the date he kissed me a bunch and cuddled with me at the movie but then afterwards we were texting and he said he doesn’t know if he wants a relationship right now. But he made sure that i knew that he just hadnt decided if he wants one at this time. So I’m kinda confused. Because he talks about how perfect we are for eachother and talks about spending all this time with me but then he said that… So what do I do to get him to want to be in a relationship with me?

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57 Beauty with in July 18, 2012 at 1:25 am

Dokata, I would let him lead, hes telling you in his own way his not ready to be in a relationship. But he likes you a lot take your time and only give the same that he gives.

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58 *** August 23, 2012 at 1:00 pm

I have met this guy a few months ago but his in the army he came back for the Olympics and recently we have been getting closer and texting more, however now it seems to have died out i text him but he takes ages texting back, im meant to be meeting him next week but i feel like he is losing interest how do i get him interested again?

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59 Lind at Drop of Pink October 2, 2012 at 3:33 pm

lol this has just saved me from screwing up with the guy i am just texting know! haha Thanks! :) xxx

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60 Amber October 28, 2012 at 6:05 pm

Okay so normally I don’t care if a guy texts me after we’ve hung out or not, since I am rarely genuinely interested but this guy in particular I really liked. We hung out a couple times and last night I made the mistake of giving him nookie too soon, now today wont text me back. I know he’s been on fb posting stuff but he can’t take the time to text me back. The ones I fall for are the ones who give me the least attention. Why is it we adore who ignore us?

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61 Rosie November 4, 2012 at 7:03 am

I got into an arguement with this guy. At first he was replying in sentences the. It just became one word replies like ok. I asked for a truce and he said ok. I haven’t heard from him and he ignored my text :(

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62 Anonymous January 14, 2013 at 12:48 am

So how do you deal with the fact that dozens of women are probably falling all over you because of this blog? I know I find you bold upfront approach extremely attractive.

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63 louise January 22, 2013 at 3:06 pm

Im into this guy alot. We had a thing for about 2 months then it died out, he slowly stopped texting and talking to me so I did the same. Even though we had stopped talking he never left my mind for months, so I decided I would start talking to his best friend who I am friends with too, knowing it would get his attention. And a few days later I did receive a text from him I replied to late so no answer. I sent him anther text again a few days later but still no answer, I just would like to be talking to him again and have his attention.

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64 cameron February 8, 2013 at 7:48 am

you are a traitor to men, problem is girls don’t need advice about relationships they are the ones who choose who to be with while were always stuck wondering if she likes us or not. guys don’t text you girls because they have to be a challenge because sub consciously thats what they want. the reason why you are here is because you like the guy and are confused why he isn’t texting you. He is odiously being a challenge and an attractive man. Don’t listen to this guys bs…..woman watch him start flooding you with texting and see how much u like them then. Why are woman so damn confusing. what you say you want and what you really want are two totally different things.

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65 LeeLee March 23, 2013 at 3:03 am

So HOW do you recover if you make the grave mistake of allowing yourself to be placed in the “sex material” category with a guy? Or do you just chalk it up to lesson learned and holler, “NEXT!” ensuring that you don’t make the same mistake the next time around?

This dating stuff is hard……**SIGH**

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66 That sexy thang April 28, 2013 at 8:58 am

So I’m 18 years old and still in highschool .. This guy who goes to my school seems to like me but he told everyone but me so I didn’t really care.. Then this one time him his friend and my friend were chillin in his room and we decided Ti get drunk and we made out. After that he took my number but never texted me, I dent care then a week later we met at a party and he was stuck on me like we were together, we made out again and it was nice. He seemed jealous whenever I danced with other guys.. And I kinda have very tiny feelings for him what do I do?

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67 C. H May 5, 2013 at 8:59 pm

Ok, so I have been texting to this guy (for reference now we shall call him Kurt) for about a month, and I thought everything was going great, he was even calling me sweety and such. We had made plans to hang out (or at least the idea of plans), but with conflicting schedules its hard to get anything out. We had made a plan to go to the movies next week, and there is a lot of similar interests, but I just don’t understand why he out of the blue stopped texting me back, considering the day before he texted me first as soon as he woke up (which is rare; he usually doesn’t text until about 3 or 4) so was it something I did?? Its been a week and I don’t know what I did.

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68 Nadeena May 13, 2013 at 2:11 am

hi im nadeena well i had a crush on this guy since i met him my parents and his parents where seprated in 2009 and 2013 we meet.and i had to stalk him threw fb to no him more coz we both havent spoken to eachother much bt since i talled my friends about him.He left me alone we both use to text eachother and he started to stare at me from the begining till now and i really like him bt i dnt no if he still likes me thats wht i want to no

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