The best way to text a guy, the rules you are breaking

by Mike Masters on January 7, 2009

What should I text a guy I like?

What do I text this guy?

Texting is a wonderful dating tool! BUT there are some rules.

Positives of texting a guy from the last post

  • You can really craft your response before you send
  • You can use EMOTICONS! /(.^.)\
  • If you are busy you don’t have to respond right away
  • Texting is a lot less scary than calling someone
  • A lack of response can be very powerful

You can really craft your response before you send

When I was first trying to learn Japanese, texting was a god sent. I could spend 30 seconds or 10 minutes on a text and no one would be the wiser. More often than not I was spending the ten minutes. Most of which was used trying to figure out what the hell someone just sent me! Feeling a bit like I was working with a Captain Crunch decoder ring rather than a dictionary I slowly unraveled my text messages. ONLY TO REVEAL! Something very similar to a cereal box message, “mike san, are you happy today?” Of course I would be the creative foreigner and try to use characters I didn’t know. “yes, I am dance at the store yesterday.” This was usually when the other person would respond in English and I would feel a bit silly.

Another language

This is going to be very important if you are to bring your texts to another level. You must, like I did in Japanese become fluent in another language of texting. Now you are probably thinking that you already are at that level. I imagine you are the Shakespeare of texting and how is some guy masterdating all the time going to help you??  I can take about any girl’s phone and get the guy they are most interested in to text back immediately and in a positive way. I am extreamly good at texting, a master if you will.

You can use EMOTICONS! /(.^.)\

What do these texts communicate?

  1. Those were some pretty tight jeans
  2. Those were some pretty tight jeans ;-)
  3. Those were some pretty tight jeans, lol

I like the happy face but that is probably because I was beaten into cuteness living in Japan so long. I am embarrassed to say I had to resist sticking a poke’mon head over the gear shifter of my car last week. The above examples look similar but each communicates something slightly different. Maybe you don’t think this will be picked up by the guy but I promise you it will be subconsciously. What do these communicate? The first example is a bit cold but it leaves more to the imagination which can be fun depending on his response. The happy face and lol are both softeners and leave the reader with a feeling that they just got nudged in the ribs with a smile. (^_-)-☆ do not underestimate how small signals can get your point across!

If you are busy you don’t have to text him back right away


Don't text this gu

Girls are ALWAYS asking me what it means when he does not text back. Well it simply means that he is in control of the conversation whether he knows it or not. Just recently I sent a few texts to a friend and finally a phone call since I got no response back. I was a bit concerned that my buddy was upset with me so I stopped by his house. (granted this is a guy friend and multiple texting, calling is allowed) Standing in the front door was a grotesque elephant man like version of Bryce. His face was swollen like a boxer with a nose that looked more like it belonged on an alcoholic, punch drunk, elephant seal.

Turns out Bryce got a flesh-eating bacteria in his sinuses, which he dramatically told me could have killed him. While I dearly wish I had a picture of nearly consumed Bryce to put on this post, I more dearly want you to understand the message. USUALLY his lack of response means absolutely nothing and you giving attention to it creates a mess that never needed to be. It would be far  better for you to be the one that is “too busy” to text the guy back. Keep the power in your court as long as you can.

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Texting is a lot less scary than calling someone

So you are interested in an incredibly attractive guy that intimidates the hell out of you. Texting is the perfect solution to that! Or maybe:

  1. You want to test the waters with someone you just met
  2. He is super busy and you don’t want to appear needy by calling him
  3. You want to keep in touch with multiple prospects without wasting time

Texting is a safe way for you to be who you want to be without the pressure of a face to face conversation. Take advantage of this and take the time to really say it right. Unlike face to face conversation were you only feel witty after the conversation, because you are thinking of all the things you should have said.

When texting a guy lack of response can be very powerful

Ever notice how much it bugs you when someone does not get back to your text right away? You need to know an answer to a question but they leave you hanging! Often the guy is oblivious to your need for a text but… sometimes he isn’t. Silence is also a form a communication. But you don’t get it! and you send a 2nd text back or a 3rd or maybe you just get on the phone and scream “I am needy!!!! Give me the freakin answer!!!!”

If he is using pauses with you match him until you can ascertain whether or not it is intentional. If he pauses a day, YOU pause a day! Match his or her rhythm or better yet set the rhythm yourself. This can be done at anytime just make sure your pause is longer than his. This seems petty but!! It communicates very clearly who is in better control of their needs. This is not a game (well it is… but so is everything). It is more of a test that each of you put the other through. Imagine that your needing a text is just like them trying to kiss you and wont give up, not too attractive…


  • Him not texting back usually means nothing but match her pattern initially to be on the safe side
  • Test his maturity level and “into you factor” by letting him wait for your response
  • NEVER fall into the trap of assuming something is wrong due to a lack of response (shut off your fricken brain!)
  • Use texting to practice a confident playful persona and eventually let it seap into real life
  • Expect to mess up while you experiment with texting guys, it is normal and part of learning anything

Get the control back, get him to take the lead and create massive attraction

I am a guy that is 100% on your side, I don’t pull any punches not because I want to be right, but because I want you to get the guy! This is a win/win because creating and maintaining this kind of attraction is exactly what he wants as well. This is why I wrote the book below, to give you what you want as fast as possible! This is not an advertisement for someone else’s material but a book I personally wrote for YOU, to get the GUY!

Look, it really isn’t that hard to control the situation over text, to really make a difference in the way he perceives you, to shift the balance in your favor. If you are not getting what you want from him, why not use some killer texting strategies to get into his head and launch the relationship to the next level?? Take a look below, you are only a click away from getting what you want.

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Next blog post – Learn some more tips and rules for texting guys, bad mistakes!



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1 Jen March 29, 2012 at 7:33 pm

What to say in text to a guy you like??? When he ask you to a beach party and says he can’t wait to see you in a bikini???

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2 Isamery July 9, 2012 at 7:01 pm

Ask him for his bank statements!!!

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3 Ashley June 25, 2013 at 12:34 pm


I just came across this article while I am panicking waiting for a response from a man. Thanks, it’s a good read. I met him 2 weeks ago outside a club, and asked for his number, which he gave me. I text him the day after and he replied very fast, but then I noticed he was matching my response times. Our last communication was 3 days ago, I text him today and 4 hours later, still waiting for a reply! He said he would know about something we had discussed on Monday (yesterday) but he never got back to me. We haven’t arranged a proper first date yet, although he has mentioned “we should go out so some weekend”
Is he expecting me to ask him out now, or what?

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