What do I text this guy?
Texting is a wonderful dating tool! BUT there are some rules.
Positives of texting a guy from the last post
- You can really craft your response before you send
- You can use EMOTICONS! ／(.^.)＼
- If you are busy you don’t have to respond right away
- Texting is a lot less scary than calling someone
- A lack of response can be very powerful
You can really craft your response before you send
When I was first trying to learn Japanese, texting was a god sent. I could spend 30 seconds or 10 minutes on a text and no one would be the wiser. More often than not I was spending the ten minutes. Most of which was used trying to figure out what the hell someone just sent me! Feeling a bit like I was working with a Captain Crunch decoder ring rather than a dictionary I slowly unraveled my text messages. ONLY TO REVEAL! Something very similar to a cereal box message, “mike san, are you happy today?” Of course I would be the creative foreigner and try to use characters I didn’t know. “yes, I am dance at the store yesterday.” This was usually when the other person would respond in English and I would feel a bit silly.
*He’s not texting you back? Asking you out? Not madly in love!!?? FIX THIS NOW!*
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Another language
This is going to be very important if you are to bring your texts to another level. You must, like I did in Japanese become fluent in another language of texting. Now you are probably thinking that you already are at that level. I imagine you are the Shakespeare of texting and how is some guy masterdating all the time going to help you?? I can take about any girl’s phone and get the guy they are most interested in to text back immediately and in a positive way. I am extreamly good at texting, a master if you will.
You can use EMOTICONS! ／(.^.)＼
What do these texts communicate?
- Those were some pretty tight jeans
- Those were some pretty tight jeans
- Those were some pretty tight jeans, lol
I like the happy face but that is probably because I was beaten into cuteness living in Japan so long. I am embarrassed to say I had to resist sticking a poke’mon head over the gear shifter of my car last week. The above examples look similar but each communicates something slightly different. Maybe you don’t think this will be picked up by the guy but I promise you it will be subconsciously. What do these communicate? The first example is a bit cold but it leaves more to the imagination which can be fun depending on his response. The happy face and lol are both softeners and leave the reader with a feeling that they just got nudged in the ribs with a smile. (^_-)-☆ do not underestimate how small signals can get your point across!
If you are busy you don’t have to text him back right away
Don't text this gu
Girls are ALWAYS asking me what it means when he does not text back. Well it simply means that he is in control of the conversation whether he knows it or not. Just recently I sent a few texts to a friend and finally a phone call since I got no response back. I was a bit concerned that my buddy was upset with me so I stopped by his house. (granted this is a guy friend and multiple texting, calling is allowed) Standing in the front door was a grotesque elephant man like version of Bryce. His face was swollen like a boxer with a nose that looked more like it belonged on an alcoholic, punch drunk, elephant seal.
Turns out Bryce got a flesh-eating bacteria in his sinuses, which he dramatically told me could have killed him. While I dearly wish I had a picture of nearly consumed Bryce to put on this post, I more dearly want you to understand the message. USUALLY his lack of response means absolutely nothing and you giving attention to it creates a mess that never needed to be. It would be far better for you to be the one that is “too busy” to text the guy back. Keep the power in your court as long as you can.
*He’s not texting you back? Asking you out? Not madly in love!!?? FIX THIS NOW!*
Check out TextAppeal – the Ultimate Guide to Texting guys Getting EXACTLY what you want is easier than you think.
Texting is a lot less scary than calling someone
So you are interested in an incredibly attractive guy that intimidates the hell out of you. Texting is the perfect solution to that! Or maybe:
- You want to test the waters with someone you just met
- He is super busy and you don’t want to appear needy by calling him
- You want to keep in touch with multiple prospects without wasting time
Texting is a safe way for you to be who you want to be without the pressure of a face to face conversation. Take advantage of this and take the time to really say it right. Unlike face to face conversation were you only feel witty after the conversation, because you are thinking of all the things you should have said.
When texting a guy lack of response can be very powerful
Ever notice how much it bugs you when someone does not get back to your text right away? You need to know an answer to a question but they leave you hanging! Often the guy is oblivious to your need for a text but… sometimes he isn’t. Silence is also a form a communication. But you don’t get it! and you send a 2nd text back or a 3rd or maybe you just get on the phone and scream “I am needy!!!! Give me the freakin answer!!!!”
If he is using pauses with you match him until you can ascertain whether or not it is intentional. If he pauses a day, YOU pause a day! Match his or her rhythm or better yet set the rhythm yourself. This can be done at anytime just make sure your pause is longer than his. This seems petty but!! It communicates very clearly who is in better control of their needs. This is not a game (well it is… but so is everything). It is more of a test that each of you put the other through. Imagine that your needing a text is just like them trying to kiss you and wont give up, not too attractive…
Bullets:
- Him not texting back usually means nothing but match her pattern initially to be on the safe side
- Test his maturity level and “into you factor” by letting him wait for your response
- NEVER fall into the trap of assuming something is wrong due to a lack of response (shut off your fricken brain!)
- Use texting to practice a confident playful persona and eventually let it seap into real life
- Expect to mess up while you experiment with texting guys, it is normal and part of learning anything
Still have questions?
I wrote the book Textappeal because I kept getting tons of questions from readers and friends on the subject of texting. I meant it to be just a short guide but to my surprise a 50 page ebook came flowing out of my head! I realized that I had information that very few people understood, I also realized that I had the solutions to so many texting issues that girls have when texting guys. Not only did I find success here but I also was able to publish Text Appeal on Amazon with excellent feedback, take a look. The book rocks and you will rock at texting after reading it.
Hope you take a look, Mike Masters (BTW that is me on the right)
Want to really Rock at texting? Check out TextAppeal – the Ultimate Guide to Texting guys Getting EXACTLY what you want is easier than you think.
Next blog post – Learn some more tips and rules for texting guys, bad mistakes!
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