Don’t allow texting sex talk – You know how men start sexting dirty right away, or look for some lame excuse to text something nasty? This is because men need to filter women, is she sex material or relationship material? If you respond overly soon with sexual messaging, guess which category you will fall into. I imagine if you are reading this you want to be considered relationship material NOT sex material. This is why you need to ignore or even get upset with his constant sexual pushing. Resisting in this area does two positive things: you are taken more seriously and pushed into the relationship category AND believe it or not sexual tension is built simply by resisting it. So even if you want to rip his clothes off and devour every sweaty inch of him, error on the side of caution! and never virtually flash your boobs. There are so many better things that you can be doing to increase the attraction, and using sex is bound to backfire.
How guys think differently about texting
This of course is not all men, but I would have to say the majority of men think along these lines and you could apply this to the real world as well as the virtual one.
Text me back!
Your phone is a tool – most men do not see texting as entertainment, of course men enjoy getting to know a woman but so often he is clueless that you are the one he needs to get to know. If he is SMS-ing you back one-word answers or not answering, it is possible he either hates texting or really isn’t that interested. This is where you need to make him interested! Something I spend a lot of time talking about in, TextAppeal
Guys are fixers – This ties into the one above, guys don’t gossip (well not as much). They don’t process information the same way that women do. A guy isn’t nearly as interested when you text about your boss as your friend might be. Most men see your processing of information as something he needs to change to win your approval. Don’t confuse him and yourself by sending him things that he will feel required to fix.
Stop IYHS – In your head syndrome, is without a doubt the biggest mental gap that men and women possess. (Once again I apologize for my bluntness) You think this guy is the one? You just met him a few days ago yet you have wrapped a huge fantasy around him? He rarely texts you back, he has a girlfriend but for some reason you cant see this. IYHS is a deal breaker when texting guys. He will see pretty quickly that you have created a fantasy around him that he will only put up with until he can sleep with you. Then he will disappear. This is one of the failings of texting since your communication is really really brief and you must fill in the gaps of his thinking with yours. PLEASE, Let him prove to you that he is madly in love, don’t ever assume it!
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Next blog post – Don’t make these typical texting mistakes when texting guys .