Today we will continue the soulmate series, last time I talked about the logical and creative, now we get to tie it all together with the Archetypes!!
- Power balance
- Feminine vs masculine
- Logical vs creative
- The Archetypes
- Compensating for power shifts
- Mental stability and unhealthy attraction
To understand who your soulmate is, you first need to figure out who you are, according to the Jung personalities types.
The Archetypes
The King/Queen
Nurturing, passive, logical and orderly, likes to direct things and issue commands without being the one to carry them. Characterized by wisdom, others often come to them for advice.
The Warrior
Confident and active, ready to dive into activity that needs to be done. Logical and orderly like the King/Queen. The Warrior is a force of defense and protection of friends and family, a force of industriousness and ambition. These are the go-to people for when there is a task to be done.
The Magician
Full of emotional confidence, like the Warrior, but is very creative, adventurous, and so capable, that others might see their actions as magic. These people are performers, salespeople, and are “naturals” at making things happen. They dream big, get big results and are the center of celebration and attention.
The Lover
Artistic and creative like the Magician, but nurturing and passive like the King/Queen. These are the storytellers of society, and the shy musicians and writers, they are the romantics, the poets, the loving nurturers of society, and the fools who make us laugh and cry.
Find yourself to find him
In most cases you are a strong single character leaning to one side or the other. For example: I am a Creative Lover leaning a little towards the masculine spectrum, that means I am a Lover/Magician. I am not pure Lover or Magician, I carry both and of course a bit of the Warrior and King traits.
So whop-dee-doo! I am a Lover/Magician, what does it matter?
I believe that all of us strive and need to strive to become all of these archetypes, to become a “whole person”. I know for myself, the people I most admire are the Warrior/King types, because it is something I lack and look up to. The people most like myself are the people I am least excited about. If I am in a room full of lovers, I certainly don’t feel very unique, and although we will have a lot in common we may not be able to grow much from each other.
What you can learn from your best friend
My friend Ben is the exact opposite of me, he is a warrior and the closest friend I have ever had. Ironically, Ben is a skinny guy and I am the beefy one, but if there is a brawl Ben is utterly fearless while I am busy trying to love everyone into peace. Why doesn’t Ben think I am a big pussy while I think Ben is a bit of an ass? Well he does and I do, but I also admire what Ben is, and he does the same. Ben needs to come my way and I need to go his, we have a lot to learn from one another and as friends we become a more “complete” person.
Opposites attract
Even though the Paula Abdul song/video was extremely lame, she hit a cord. We are all seeking to become that whole person by melding with our opposite. Unfortunately, we very rarely know who WE are, and thus choose the wrong person. The first step in understanding who the perfect person is, we need to know ourselves. Take a little bit of time to figure out where you fall, and you will understand much better who your possible soulmate is.
A little help
- What archetype is the closest friend I have ever had? (Usually your opposite)
- What do I fear/wish to become? (This is usually your opposite too)
- What kind of employment do I love/excel at? Is it creative, nurturing, assertive, logical?
- What kind of People am I attracted to? Do they grace my character?
- Who don’t I get along with so well? (They are often similar in personality)
- What was I like as I child? (This is usually your true character)
Aside: I was talking to a friend of mine about this last night and she was very very resistant to the ideas. I was a little surprised at her resistance because it seemed so clearly correct in my mind. I realized that the ideas were not the problem, but it was the thought of being put in a “category” or a box that was offending my friend. Please don’t look at it this way, this is only a tool to help you grow and find what graces your personality. We are all of these traits, if we need to be and by no means are stuck in a certain role. Humans are ridiculously complex and although I could add more dimensions to this chart to be more accurate, I believe it would only confuse not help.
This concept really kicks ass and if you can embrace it without being threatened, you will have one more key to finding the perfect person.
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Ok, you know me, so I need you to tell me which I am and who I need to look for so that I stop chasing my tail.
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You are a magician babe.
What is your opposite? The King! I know you don’t think you get along with a king but I am sure you can find some examples in life, where you had a strong connection with a king.
Don’t like receive orders? I am guessing that you were with a dysfunctional king in the past and now you have negative associations with it.
Love the blog, but I can’t understand your graph there with the 4 archetypes, along with the feminine/masculine, logical/creative. I seem to be all over the shop. When I read your descriptions, I would classify myself as a mix of Queen and Magician, but then I look at the chart and they’re basically on opposite ends of the spectrum. It’s all very confusing… and yet intriguing! So what would the opposite of Queen/Magician be – Warrior/Lover? That sounds hot, and yet completely impossible at the same time. This explains a lot…
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All you have to do is this,
Am I more passive or assertive?
am I more creative or logical?
Which category is that?
If you are still confused I imagine that you have learned the behaviors of other archetypes.
Your true nature is what you were born with and often get glazed over with time and baggage.
Does this help at all?
Ya I see what you mean… I guess I’m more passive, but I tend to be a bit balanced in the creative/logical spectrum, but probably slightly more logical. So Queen with a bit of Lover…? I guess makes sense. And we all have a little bit of each category really, since we’re most complex than a flow chart.
Thanks, it’s very interest
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I’m definitely a warrior with a little bit of the magician thrown in. My only thing is I’m so used to being in charge and bossing people around and having to make the decisions and busting my ass, that when i get into a relationship- I don’t want to do any of that. I just want someone just to make the decision for me, so that i don’t have to think for once.
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That is the problem with a warrior, they are often so strong they take on the kings role and bulldoze their match the lover. What a warrior needs to do if turn down the volume a bit and try to find a strong, intelligent, powerful Lover. (someone like me!)
The strong lover is able to set boundaries and keep the strong warrior/magician in check.
The other option is to train a lover how to deal with you and make your expectations very clear. Be very cautious with this though, if you are too strong the lover will run. (I ran all the way to Japan, I was so frustrated with American warrior women)
You know why I am a magician? You know what is magical about me? LOL.
Anyway, I agree with you. I am chaotic and I need to be with someone orderly. Yes, bad associations with a King type (except the person wasn’t so nurturing.) I also realize that I dated one this year and now I understand why we got along so well.
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Pretty soon I will talk about the dysfunctional attraction to our opposite. I used to love fucked up warriors and I created a negative bond more times than I can count. Soon after, I met a healthy lover/queen and although the relationship was dull, she taught me the wonder of a healthy person. Now I am searching for a functional warrior/queen!
Don’t let the negative block your happiness.
Wow! This really changed my outlook on dating and made me realize that I was falling for guys that were totally wrong for me. It makes so much sense to find someone who can make up in areas where you lack because dating really is about teamwork. How can a relationship work out when you have two people with the same strengths and weaknesses?
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Interesting theory, I agree with most but…I find myself falling into the Warrior/King rold but I find that I can’t respect guys who are wiffy/waffy. I’d like a guy who is stronger than me and can defend me if necessary.
Maybe what I am saying is I like a guy who is strong outside of home (warrior/King like me) and who is a Lover/Magician with me. Does that make sense?
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Awesome, awesome stuff! Very easy to pick myself out of the group and obviously, I am anxious to read about why I have a dysfunctional attraction to fucked-up warriors as well:) Good stuff.
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