Today we will continue the soulmate series, last time I talked about the logical and creative, now we get to tie it all together with the Archetypes!!
- Power balance
- Feminine vs masculine
- Logical vs creative
- The Archetypes
- Compensating for power shifts
- Mental stability and unhealthy attraction
To understand who your soulmate is, you first need to figure out who you are, according to the Jung personalities types.
Nurturing, passive, logical and orderly, likes to direct things and issue commands without being the one to carry them. Characterized by wisdom, others often come to them for advice.
Confident and active, ready to dive into activity that needs to be done. Logical and orderly like the King/Queen. The Warrior is a force of defense and protection of friends and family, a force of industriousness and ambition. These are the go-to people for when there is a task to be done.
Full of emotional confidence, like the Warrior, but is very creative, adventurous, and so capable, that others might see their actions as magic. These people are performers, salespeople, and are “naturals” at making things happen. They dream big, get big results and are the center of celebration and attention.
Artistic and creative like the Magician, but nurturing and passive like the King/Queen. These are the storytellers of society, and the shy musicians and writers, they are the romantics, the poets, the loving nurturers of society, and the fools who make us laugh and cry.
Find yourself to find him
In most cases you are a strong single character leaning to one side or the other. For example: I am a Creative Lover leaning a little towards the masculine spectrum, that means I am a Lover/Magician. I am not pure Lover or Magician, I carry both and of course a bit of the Warrior and King traits.
So whop-dee-doo! I am a Lover/Magician, what does it matter?
I believe that all of us strive and need to strive to become all of these archetypes, to become a “whole person”. I know for myself, the people I most admire are the Warrior/King types, because it is something I lack and look up to. The people most like myself are the people I am least excited about. If I am in a room full of lovers, I certainly don’t feel very unique, and although we will have a lot in common we may not be able to grow much from each other.
What you can learn from your best friend
My friend Ben is the exact opposite of me, he is a warrior and the closest friend I have ever had. Ironically, Ben is a skinny guy and I am the beefy one, but if there is a brawl Ben is utterly fearless while I am busy trying to love everyone into peace. Why doesn’t Ben think I am a big pussy while I think Ben is a bit of an ass? Well he does and I do, but I also admire what Ben is, and he does the same. Ben needs to come my way and I need to go his, we have a lot to learn from one another and as friends we become a more “complete” person.
Even though the Paula Abdul song/video was extremely lame, she hit a cord. We are all seeking to become that whole person by melding with our opposite. Unfortunately, we very rarely know who WE are, and thus choose the wrong person. The first step in understanding who the perfect person is, we need to know ourselves. Take a little bit of time to figure out where you fall, and you will understand much better who your possible soulmate is.
A little help
- What archetype is the closest friend I have ever had? (Usually your opposite)
- What do I fear/wish to become? (This is usually your opposite too)
- What kind of employment do I love/excel at? Is it creative, nurturing, assertive, logical?
- What kind of People am I attracted to? Do they grace my character?
- Who don’t I get along with so well? (They are often similar in personality)
- What was I like as I child? (This is usually your true character)
Aside: I was talking to a friend of mine about this last night and she was very very resistant to the ideas. I was a little surprised at her resistance because it seemed so clearly correct in my mind. I realized that the ideas were not the problem, but it was the thought of being put in a “category” or a box that was offending my friend. Please don’t look at it this way, this is only a tool to help you grow and find what graces your personality. We are all of these traits, if we need to be and by no means are stuck in a certain role. Humans are ridiculously complex and although I could add more dimensions to this chart to be more accurate, I believe it would only confuse not help.
This concept really kicks ass and if you can embrace it without being threatened, you will have one more key to finding the perfect person.
Continue to Sexual Tension, why he isn’t into you – Soulmate 5 of 6