Beautiful women and the men tired of f*cking them

by Mike Masters on May 11, 2010

But I thought chicks digged muscle?

But I thought chicks digged muscle?

“What the fuck does she have that I don’t?” Like a petulant child she thrust out her ridiculously large breasts and put her hands on her narrow hips. “Are you serious, you want to give up on this??” She motioned with a Vanna White hand towards a body that would capture the eyes of women as strongly as men. Neggy was unbelievably sexy but I would have preferred to force a large grapefruit up my butt than sleep with her again.

“Show me a beautiful woman and I’ll show you a man that’s tired of fucking her.”

I stopped sleeping with knockout Neggy because I met someone that actually stimulated all of me and not just my testicles. Neggy was one of these people that was so attractive that she could rely 100% on the physical, and thus never developed her mental attraction. It disturbed me vastly that I was as drawn to her as a dog would be to sniff another’s butt. I internally shook my head, I had to get control over my nuts.

As I wrestled mental control from traitorous fat hairy amigos, I met another girl that opened my understanding. She had a body like a 15 year old boy, wasn’t a knockout, was cool/funny as hell and I was stupid attracted to her. Why? Because I needed more sustenance than just dessert, I needed growth and passion, challenge and strife. The new girl was a 7-course feast and Neggy was a punch bowl full of Ben and Jerry’s chocolate cookie dough ice cream. (mmmm… makes it almost worth vomiting it back up)

My mind was ecstatically engaged with a woman that pushed and stimulated me, that could fill the sexual glut with mental gymnastics. She created a positive feedback loop that plumped my attraction to her 10 fold that of Neggy-the empty headed narcissist. (Whom I still masturbate over when I don’t feel like thinking)

If I look back on the string of women I have dated they usually are not knockouts except in the brains department. In that regard I have insisted on 9’s or 10’s all of my life. Sure I am like most men, I like a body that I am physically attracted to, but what most people don’t understand is that an amazing mind… that I can mental run marathons with… will bump a 6 to an 8… and turn a man viciously protective of that a amazing connection.

“Why is it that I am not feeling anything towards him? He is fucking gorgeous, really sweet, an amazing lover, but I want to vomit on his shoes when he tells me he loves me.”

Thank God women are wired the same but I think they are willing to put up with the mental inadequacies for eons longer. However, even the strongest female sexual loyalty is inevitably degraded if the gorilla glue of emotional tension does not exist.

“He still makes me laugh and I still annoy the shit out of him.” – my friend Anita on her marriage of 30 years

They still love each other; you can see it in their eyes and the way they sense the others proximity. They have the tension of the mind, there is struggle, there is massive mutual respect and because their intelligence graces the other, they are less of a person without their partner. A developed mind is the key here, they are both brilliant to the other, they are both intrigued by a brilliance the other respects. They have what all failing relationships lack, a perpetual source of beautiful tension created by the others mind.

Sexual selection Darwin’s missing theory

Imagine if the female of a bird species was more sexually attracted to a male with a large colorful tail, now stamp a few million years onto that proclivity. The male’s tail would get larger and larger and larger, so ridiculously large that Mindy Mounds would dwindle in comparison. This positive feedback would increase in the bird’s tail size indefinitely until it would impair the male’s survival against predation or reproduction. Click here to see a representation of this bird.

The simple reason why brains are more important than a nice ass

Now what if humans were the same but instead of a tail, men and women sexually selected for intelligence and this positive feed back system blew up our brains (heads) to the point where childbirth threatened both the mother and the fetus. Would that tell you something about humans? Would that tell you something about our sexuality? Would it possibly tell you that if you could put little white panties on our gray matter it would be hands-down the sexiest organ one could ever possess?

Sexual selection is a Darwinian theory that is ignored by all textbooks simply because it was not mathematically provable until recently. We might seem like physical creatures to you but the flashiest, sexiest part of our anatomy is that squishy jello mold in your noggin. If you are not using it to its fullest capacity in your attempts to attract the opposite sex you might as well be Cinderella wearing a potato sac to the ball.

This appears to not be the case since we are biased by the fact initial attraction is very much physical and we give it WAY too much weight. The mental is really where that concrete relationship is developed and cemented, not in the fleeting physical.

You spend time at the gym, you spend time on your hair but do you spend time making your mind more attractive?

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1 gail May 11, 2010 at 9:35 am

fabulous post! LOVE it!! xo

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2 Mike Masters May 11, 2010 at 5:36 pm

Thanks Gail, hope that you take this to heart and work on that mind of yours.
hehehe…

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3 Elle May 11, 2010 at 9:44 am

Great intuitive post, and might I add accurate! There comes a time in mostly everyone’s life when we start realizing that looks and lust can only go so far. It’s what’s behind the curtains that will keep you hooked.

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4 Mike Masters May 11, 2010 at 5:56 pm

What kinda curtains are we talking about here? (only really perverted guys would get that joke)

Thanks for your positive comment. I totally agree, however I am still a fan of lust as much as I am cookie dough ice cream.

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5 Zoë May 11, 2010 at 11:12 am

Lovely, as always. Good work, Mike Masters! And good luck to you and your perpetual search for the perfect brain-with-a-pair-of-white-panties. I hope you meet her sometime.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’ve got to send in my application for Mensa…
.-= Zoë´s last blog ..Mom, I love you! =-.

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6 Mike Masters May 11, 2010 at 6:13 pm

Lovely??
ouch…
So there is a really sexy girl here at starbucks. Think I could convince her to put a pair of panties on her head?

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7 Janice T August 12, 2010 at 1:09 pm

If they’re really cute panties form VS and you tell you she can keep them, she might!

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8 Janice T August 12, 2010 at 1:09 pm

you => her

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9 Miss Alpha May 11, 2010 at 11:16 am

As a woman, this is awesome to read, especially from a good-looking man… UNLESS you want to be perceived as beautiful and sexy, and not just a plain jane who is hot because of her brain.

I did a series of posts on this a while back (private blog) airing my frustrations about a series of men who all wanted me for my brain. It’s lovely to be reminded you are smart or witty or funny or whatever but it gets old. All those push-ups seem like a waste of time. I said it before, I’ll say it again… there is no intellectual discourse during sex. No Nietzsche, no Shakespeare, no sub-atomic particles. It’s all looks and touches and sweat and groans. And those weird farts your bodies make sometimes…

Call me shallow but I want to be wanted for my looks as well.
.-= Miss Alpha´s last blog ..Miss Alpha has moved! =-.

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10 Mike Masters May 11, 2010 at 6:21 pm

I am good looking!? Kick ass…
So, you wanna go on a date? I promise to ogle your body and not your mind.
(Wear that tight skirt again)

body farts… You are funny.

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11 Charlene Jaszewski May 12, 2010 at 10:38 am

Miss Alpha, you and I are kindred spirits. I once dated a guy who every day was like, “I LOVE YOUR BRAIN!” and then try to get me to debate determinism or something. Which would be fun and all if he would be be pulling my hair while talking or something. I’ll have to read your posts, but i’m guessing it’s your contention as well that overly brainy men often have the sexual charge of a cold washcloth?

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12 Janice T August 12, 2010 at 1:11 pm

Yeah, I’m truly the sexy librarian type myself, hands down, and my man sometimes just says flat out, “shut up and kiss me!”

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13 mikaya May 11, 2010 at 12:58 pm

Really enjoyed this one Mike!

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14 Mike Masters May 11, 2010 at 6:23 pm

Hi Mikaya
Could you say something inappropriate next time?? I want to see the bad side that I keep hearing about from Amanda.
(personally I am not buying it, I think you wear a halo and chastity belt on dates)

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15 Jill May 11, 2010 at 1:07 pm

Wow-Mike didn’t expect that. Bravo. Don’t get the pic of the dude to go with the story. But, otherwise loved it.

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16 Mike Masters May 11, 2010 at 7:01 pm

Well the man was actually for you but if you don’t like him I think I can get a refund. Where is that receipt…

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17 Maruska Morena May 11, 2010 at 1:39 pm

Excellent post.. Balance of mind and body. One of the reasons I refuse to date body builders, too much body and not much mind.. unless there’s a study-at-the-gym programme of which I’m not aware.

I can do stupid men.. but thats it.. its just doing. To engage me, you have to have much much more than that.
.-= Maruska Morena´s last blog ..5 Manly-Man Things I Love =-.

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18 Mike Masters May 11, 2010 at 7:04 pm

I think they do have a stud-at-the-gym program but I thought you were already a member?

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19 Lifebeginsat30ty May 11, 2010 at 4:17 pm

Intelligence is definitely an aphrodisiac in my book. I would take Clark Kent over Superman any day.

Very nice post. Why does something tell me that when Mike finds the woman for him, none of these numbers will mean a damn thing? ;)
.-= Lifebeginsat30ty´s last blog ..Moving On =-.

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20 Mike Masters May 11, 2010 at 7:06 pm

What numbers?

Perfect woman? I thought that was you?

Now where are my buddy holly glasses?

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21 Lifebeginsat30ty May 12, 2010 at 9:46 am

The 6′s, 8′s, and 10′s on your scale.

Somebody is in a flirty mood today! Lol. And I am far from perfect. I wouldn’t want to be! I think our flaws are what make us interesting.

Please refrain from the glasses. You need to leave some women fir the rest of the poor schmucks ;)

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22 Mike Masters May 12, 2010 at 11:11 am

Don’t misunderstand
The numbers only represent attraction level.
I have had a 6 go to a 8 physically because she was such an amazing lover. I have also had an 8 go to a 5 because of her idiotic behavior.
I am sure you know what I am talking about.

The fat person with the bad attitude is far fatter than their counter part.

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23 Natalie May 11, 2010 at 6:04 pm

I spend time here….is that the same as exercising my mind?!
.-= Natalie´s last blog ..five for ten: courage =-.

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24 Mike Masters May 11, 2010 at 7:07 pm

THAT WAS THE MOST INTELLIGENT THING I HAVE EVER HEARD ON MY BLOG!

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25 Skye Blue May 11, 2010 at 6:27 pm

Loved this post Mike and glad to see you blogging again (although the image of the muscled guy is GROSS!).

Laughed my guts out when I read you use Neggy to masturabate when don’t feel like thinking.

Anyway, totally agree with your sentiments. Pretty only gets you in the door. It takes brains to keep you inside.

S
.-= Skye Blue´s last undefined ..If you register your site for free at =-.

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26 Mike Masters May 11, 2010 at 7:08 pm

Inside the door… *Drool*
Me thinks I need to get laid one of these days.

Surprised that line made you laugh. I almost edited that out!

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27 Man-shopper May 11, 2010 at 9:47 pm

You speak the truth! A guy who can finish a Saturday NYT crossword without googling is automatically sexy in my book… Stellar post yet again, Mike. I love how you always serve up your wisdom with a healthy dose of funny.

But I had no idea that white panties were sexy! I don’t own a pair myself. I prefer colorful underthings. Is this my plumage? You bet!

P.S. I clicked on the “Mindy Mounds” link, and nearly choked on my breakfast. I’m not sure what I was expecting, but it wasn’t that.
.-= Man-shopper´s last blog ..Mr. Beautiful Bottom =-.

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28 Mike Masters May 12, 2010 at 9:01 am

Being call “funny” by the likes of you is such a complement.
I get the feeling that if we ever meet in person I might have to wet my pants.

Colorful panties? Are they covered with shiny things? I do think this might be your plumage and through sexual selection if you are not careful it could get a little out of control.

Isn’t that link horrible? How about the girl with nipple like hotdogs? Wow… the evils of sexual selection

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29 Janice T August 12, 2010 at 1:14 pm

A those pics looked fake tho. Not even implants, just fake.

Some guys do dig that lactation thing tho. Go figure.

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30 Jenn May 12, 2010 at 8:45 am

Is it really true? is it? Oh, my! I am so relieved…now if only I could find guys offline who think this way… ;)
(Great post!)
.-= Jenn´s last blog ..Because stupid e-mail exchanges are fun =-.

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31 Mike Masters May 12, 2010 at 9:07 am

All guys are like this but most don’t even have the most remote clue it is the case.

I think the reason it doesn’t seem to appear in “reality” as much is because there are certain types of intelligences that are preferred. This means that if you are a physicist it really isn’t going to help you very much. but if you are a dark mysterious playwright you will have men chaffing for your panties.

This is why I push wit and digs so aggressively. These things communicate intelligence so much more strongly than that Ph-D on your wall.

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32 Charlene Jaszewski May 12, 2010 at 10:57 am

but I don’t think we’re talking about straight up smarts anymore – I think you’re talking about ATTITUDE. and spunk. and sass.
.-= Charlene Jaszewski´s last blog ..Mother’s Day Cards For Law & Order Plots =-.

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33 Mike Masters May 12, 2010 at 11:14 am

absolutely but it takes a level of social intelligence to get that level of behavior. This is what most people don’t get, they are too fearful to develop this and in their ignorance they pout and say, “I hate people like that.”

So I disagree, straight up smarts is a lot more complicated than an IQ test.

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34 Charlene Jaszewski May 12, 2010 at 11:28 am

OOH you just hit upon something I was thinking about – there are tons of online dating profiles where the guy says “I don’t like to play games” and 99% of the time the guy sounds like a boring dumbass. He’s either lazy or hasn’t developed that social intelligence yer talkin about. Also the kind of guy that doesn’t fill out his profile, and says “I hate writing these things (i.e. “i don’t have anything interesting to say about myself”) or “ask me anything!” (i.e. too lazy to fill this out, will be lazy dating you too).
I don’t know if you do the online dating thing, have you seen women’s profiles with this on it too?
.-= Charlene Jaszewski´s last blog ..Mother’s Day Cards For Law & Order Plots =-.

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35 Mike Masters May 12, 2010 at 12:13 pm

I know exactly what you are talking about. In fact I recently had an interaction on twitter with someone who said she was tied of “sparing” with me. Translation: I am too intimidated/lazy to think of something funny or intelligent to say. I am sorry to say that if you can’t impress me with the written word I am not going to fucking waste my time with you. (it was too bad too because she was pretty funny)
This level of social intelligence is something that is extremely hard to develop because it is fraught with painful failure and social ostracism. But once someone breaches this barrier it really is quite sunny on the other side.
So I don’t know a lot about online profiles but I certainly know the type and if they cant take the time to challenge me a bit I won’t bother to get to know them.
(are we on the same page here?)

36 Charlene Jaszewski May 12, 2010 at 8:51 am

A pretty man trying to pick me up once asked me, “what’s the first thing you think of when you see an attractive guy?”
When I said, “I wonder if he’s interesting to talk to,” he looked at me like Paris Hilton being shown some quantum entanglement theories.

It’s really rare to find someone who wants to fuck your body AND your mind.
.-= Charlene Jaszewski´s last blog ..Mother’s Day Cards For Law & Order Plots =-.

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37 Mike Masters May 12, 2010 at 9:08 am

Oh god, I think you just made me quiver a little but with intellectual lust.

I could so go for a mind fuck…

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38 jackie May 12, 2010 at 9:39 am

Maybe I’m weird but I’m totally with Mike on this one; I only want to fuck someone who intrigues me intellectually. A woman who can’t stimulate my mind is like a man who can’t find your clitoris.

Just sayin.
JFB

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39 Mike Masters May 12, 2010 at 9:48 am

This fabled “clitoris” actually exists?
I can’t seem to find mine so I am a little bit confused.

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40 Charlene Jaszewski May 12, 2010 at 11:12 am

So your blog is a great place to hang out while I’m avoiding work!

Realized I didn’t mention the fact that it’s great to hear this sentiment from a hot guy. :)

Also “panties” is a sexxy word.
.-= Charlene Jaszewski´s last blog ..Mother’s Day Cards For Law & Order Plots =-.

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41 Mike Masters May 12, 2010 at 11:16 am

I am embarrassed to say, I am doing the same. I need to be editing a book but I keep finding things to avoid that task with.

BTW, I love you for your brain. (and your red hair)

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42 Lifebeginsat30ty May 12, 2010 at 12:21 pm

Tired of sparring?! Sparring is to me like catnip is to my feline friends. I recently put a ‘maybe’ online guy into the ‘YES’ category because boy did he give good email!

Can you tell I’m avoiding work too?

Ps. What happened to the video blogs? Never did get the promised one of you getting out of the shower.

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43 Charlene Jaszewski May 12, 2010 at 12:35 pm

mmm sparring. with garlic.
I love a good spar but it’s like dessert. I love it on a regular basis but I don’t want to eat it ALL THE TIME. Sometimes if a person is ALL SPAR then I wonder if they have any deep thoughts.

Like deep thoughts ABOUT MIKE GETTING OUT OF THE SHOWER!!!

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44 Mike Masters May 12, 2010 at 3:24 pm

Ha…
I am embarrassed now.

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45 Mike Masters May 12, 2010 at 12:35 pm

That is kinda what I thought! but I probably came on to strong and it was hard for her to keep up.

I love avoiding work.

Oh I did the shower one but I never posted it. Would you like me to send it to you?

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46 Lifebeginsat30ty May 12, 2010 at 12:51 pm

Is that like a real question? He. Or will I get in trouble for watching it at work? ;)

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47 Mike Masters May 12, 2010 at 3:25 pm

I don’t think you will get into trouble at work unless you have some sort of reaction to it.
In that case I would be up for a skype session.

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48 Lifebeginsat30ty May 12, 2010 at 6:41 pm

Oops, had to go to a pub quiz. I was just kiddin’. Send it over! Better yet, why not post it on the blog?
.-= Lifebeginsat30ty´s last blog ..Moving On =-.

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49 nandoism May 12, 2010 at 1:55 pm

the post was quite a digestive piece–for me at least. great insight and disclosure on your part! I feel like this is something I’d read in Psychology Today! Your insights on: The simple reason why brains are more important than a nice ass were brilliant–nice work Mike!
.-= nandoism´s last blog ..How Much Control Do You Have? =-.

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50 Mike Masters May 12, 2010 at 3:26 pm

Nando, your thumbs up is very much respected and appreciated.

Thanks for the look see.

Talk to you soon buddy.

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51 Something She Dated May 13, 2010 at 3:49 pm

Such a good post! In a post about intelligence etc. I’m dying to have something witty and thought provoking to say…sadly I was up all night working out my…brain…and am now too tired…so I’ll just say brilliant post. Glad to know guys work like this too.
.-= Something She Dated´s last blog ..The Sunday Profile: They Call Me Chubby Bunny =-.

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52 Mike Masters May 13, 2010 at 4:15 pm

I know how you feel. I think I spent my wad on that one.
:)

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53 Denise May 16, 2010 at 5:05 am

Where can I find the ‘mike getting out of the shower’? Is it a thread, article or photo? Bit new to this…ta…

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54 Mike Masters May 16, 2010 at 10:16 am

There is no me getting out of the shower, rather more of a joke.
I imagine that it would be wonderful fodder for Moxie though.

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55 Denise May 18, 2010 at 12:27 pm

Aawwww! Never mind. Have re-read with my glasses on – very funny!

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56 brenda May 17, 2010 at 1:37 pm

Mike,

I was just recently on a lunch date with a guy and this topic came up…he was telling me he was interested in something more etc., and we joked about this and how looks only go so far, as he proceeded to look up and down my body as we spoke. …. see… .. i want to believe you, but i think it must be a man who has reached a certain maturity level and can handle the challenge this type of relationship brings… I have had some dating experience lately that points to the fact that while they like the mental piece, they still want to jump in bed with women like Neggy….so i guess I am skeptical. It is another one of those things men say and women love to hear! And… Mindy Mounds.. Hmm.. disturbing at best :)

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57 Shans May 31, 2010 at 8:07 am

Recently I met a man who is both beautiful and brainy… his mind makes my knees weak and his body sends me running straight to the bedroom – after admitting this to a girlfriend she had the following comment for me, “He’s a Unicorn!” I’m thinking huh!? “Only the very few and incredibly lucky will ever see them… and most people don’t think they exist!” Isn’t it sad that to find a man with a sexy body and a brilliant mind can be associated with finding a mythical creature??

Cudos to you Mike for admitting that a sexy brain beats out an incredible pair of fun-bags any day, great post.

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58 Linda August 19, 2010 at 8:59 am

Not to be cocky – but speaking for myself and several of my friends we’re all 8+ in the looks department and are riduculously intelligent and accomplished individuals, funny as hell, adventuous, kind… But the men we meet seem to only notice our physical attributes.

we have yet to find a man who can handle us. once they find out there’s a brain in our pretty little heads (and one that’s possibly more developed than theirs) … they wuss out or ass out.

Depressing really.

So I’m not doubting that your Neggy was rather vapid. And many beautiful women don’t develop their intelligence or character. But unforunately there are many beautiful, intelligent women who wind up having to seriously compromise their own needs just to find some level of connection with a man. And idiot blogs like this one just reinforces stereotypes.

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59 Mike Masters August 23, 2010 at 4:32 pm

Linda, if you were actually intelligent you would understand that this wasn’t about “pretty women” but alas, you are too busy developing your angry idiocy to get that.

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60 Aplus September 27, 2010 at 1:36 am

I guess looks aren’t everything.

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61 rob October 8, 2010 at 5:31 pm

im 50 years old and the sad truth is that sexual attraction to females has guided every decision in my life i dropped out of arizona state to become a stripper , every …… i mean ever woman i ever dated or married needed rescued in some way and … they were so damn hot !!!

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62 Vannessa April 8, 2011 at 1:11 am

Well, what thoughts might you share when a woman– a beauty queen, academic, accomplished classical pianist, cancer-survivor, mountaineer, and even a double-black diamond snowboarder just like him; who is also independent, funny, sweet, and kind, and a great kisser, because he kissed her over and over and over again and couldn’t get enough of her mouth and lips (at least for that one night) — likes this man because he seems “square” just like her, but then he doesn’t pursue her further after the incredible night of kissing; but instead, months later the woman sees him on a date with a Plain Jane– she’s not a knockout, and is non-remarkable in stature, but she is pretty, and always smiling, and appears to have a sweet, bright demeanor. Did the man feel inadequate next to this woman, who is regarded by all who meet her as the “whole package”? Admittedly, the man and the Plain Jane made a cute couple standing side-by-side. They looked like a good match. But did he not find the snowboarding beauty queen who beat cancer and has trekked the Himalayas interesting or stimulating at all??? And no, she doesn’t boast or toot her own horn, and is rather socially aware and graceful to realize that those aren’t attractive qualities. She is never intrigued by a man who doesn’t stop talking about himself and brags about his accomplishments and how much property he has, and homes he’s bought, and exotic cars he’s collected. So, no, she doesn’t rattle off about herself, but is quite interested to learn more about this man; except the man never gave her the opportunity. 

Any thoughts? Enlightenment? Funny jokes?

Entertaining post, by the way, Mr. Masters. Thank you for the read, and the platform to air my consternation. This is my first visit. I Googled, “why is it that the man you like goes for a plain Jane?” and I arrived here.

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63 Jane August 13, 2012 at 8:55 pm

This a beauty queen, academic, accomplished classical pianist, cancer-survivor, mountaineer, and even a double-black diamond snowboarder is indeed intelligent, perhaps in a different department. this beauty queen needs to use her brain to realize that not every man who sees this beauty queen will fall in love with her just because she is a beauty queen, academic, accomplished classical pianist, cancer-survivor, mountaineer, and even a double-black diamond snowboarder. The mind are like puzzles that needs to fit together, perhaps there is just something this beauty queen doesn’t have the other man want.

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64 lowrads May 9, 2011 at 8:20 pm

Makes sense. A chemical attraction lasts long enough to ensure a succeeding generation. That’s not very long when the age at which half the population expires is less than a third of what it is today. About eight years ought to be the median value regardless of the era.

Perhaps if the utopian experiment of monogamy is to be given any consideration by rational people, we should expect to approach partners the way a chess master approaches his devotion. We should expect (and demand) some endlessly resurgent capacity for exploration. As far as we know, a mind is an emergent property of a brain’s complexity. We should be willing to surprise ourselves with things that are more than the sum of their parts.

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65 Erin June 30, 2011 at 4:10 am

Hate that saying, that if you see a beautiful woman there is always a guy tired of fucking her. It’s pretty much saying men are better then women and “haha haha..guys are tired of fucking you no matter what you look like but *I’m* such a great guy that if you don’t have the body I LOVE, I might fuck you anyway because you make me laugh.” It’s a mean horrible phrase and only selfish men that hate women use it.

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66 Jane August 13, 2012 at 8:51 pm

awww this is why I am ridiculously attracted to super smart guys.. instead of guys with just giant dicks with small brain. Soon natural selection will weed out the big dicks with the small brains. If i were pregnant with the next Einstein, i’d keep his baby

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67 Chris January 30, 2013 at 8:56 pm

God, you sound like a pathetic douche! What drivel you put out there for the world to read…just plain embarrassing!! (So are the fake praise comments!)

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68 Danielle May 11, 2013 at 5:21 pm

Mike!! I’ve read text appeal. I’ve read it twice. I keep making the same mistakes by seeming desperate. Even the most recent with my ex bf. I wanted him to see I was worth the fight. But it turned out to be a text war where I lost control And my bf. How long should I wait to txt him? It ended sadly but he still wanted to be friends. How do I get him back thru txt without seeming desperate?

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69 Bob Wilbert July 12, 2013 at 7:26 am

Wow Mike, I think Erin and Chris hit the nail the on the head. Aside from the fact that you have the maturity of a child (as does anyone who professionally refers to their testicles as “fat hairy amigos”) this sentence ” She had a body like a 15 year old boy, wasn’t a knockout, was cool/funny as hell” makes it sound as if you’d rather date a man then a woman.

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70 Mike Masters July 14, 2013 at 12:33 am

According to your IP address you must be the husband, friend of plain Jane or her signing in under another computer.
So… I know you are not a random commentor and that you have a grudge because I yelled a Jane for being an idiot.
Well, it has been three years and NOW she comes back to bitch and moan? Fuck me, don’t you have anything better to do in Florida?
Oh, and go fuck yourself. I didn’t write for you or the remarkably insecure Jane.

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71 Diane August 7, 2013 at 7:38 pm

One of the best things a man said to me while playing on online “mind” game was… “You’re beautiful, you’re supposed to be dumb”. I found it very amusing :-)

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72 Erin August 16, 2013 at 7:40 am

That’s so creepy of him Diane! There is a lot of misogynism
in our world.

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73 Blue Dahlai August 24, 2013 at 1:45 pm

Love this post Mike… I read an article once that was titled, “Which do men prefer, the athlete, the knockout or the college girl?” In the end, it was the smart girl because apparently we talk more during sex…

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74 Andrei October 13, 2013 at 6:54 am

This book has a few stories I can identify right off the bat on the first chapter after once living in Asia. Amazing isn’t it? Then it gets more interesting and good to read. Definitely this book so far is a real key opener in many ways.

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