My morality is inversely proportional to her hotness – A cheater’s story

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  1. Man-shopper says:

    Watching this show would make me so uncomfortable. Such a blatant and unadulterated display of the tawdry bits of human nature is not something that we, as moral beings, want to be confronted with, even in the context of “entertainment”!
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    • Mike Masters says:

      I thought the same thing at first but honesty I was incredibly fascinated. It is really interesting that such an emotionally repressed society would have such fucked up shows.
      Correct me if I am wrong but I think you are saying that, we as “moral” beings have a very hard time seeing that we don’t have as much control over that morality as we think we do. I imagine, that is why we love and hate a TV show like this?

      • Man-shopper says:

        Exactly! Love and hate. Feeling that constant tug of war. Fascinated, but not wanting to be fascinated. Nobody likes to be that conflicted and out of control, especially of their own moral compass.
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        • Mike Masters says:

          This is what I call the arrogance of the conscious mind. It is the only one of the “minds” that is self aware and because of this, it thinks that it is 100% at the tiller. However, the ocean and the wind are powerful forces and cannot be overcome.

          Whew… that was a tiny bit esoteric. Maybe I am trying to sounds smart because you used the word “tawdry”

          I think this is why we are so drawn to reality shows, we are intrigued by the sex and lies. We enjoy sitting on the sidelines and saying things like, “What a fucking whore!” Is this because the conscious mind revels in criticizing others to give itself a pseudo sense of control, rightness? Is this why we don’t say to ourselves, “I’m a fucking whore!” because even though we have committed a similar crime, the conscious mind is severely resistant to admitting that the wind and the ocean exist?

          Sorry, thinking out loud.

          • Man-shopper says:

            I love the word tawdry! I also love other words in the same genre, like lurid, saucy, salacious, cheeky, pert, lascivious, lewd, lecherous, libidinous, and debauched. They just sound exactly how they mean!

            Don’t apologize for thinking aloud, you make perfect sense. It’s much easier to condemn someone else for being a whore than it is to acknowledge that we lost control of our own moral compass. I’ll be the first to admit it, when I watch reality TV, it’s because it makes me feel better about myself. I can say to myself, “Hey, at least I’m not as messed as THAT chick on the screen right now.”
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  2. FeistyWoman says:

    This reminds me of a Nickelodeon show gone really bad erring on the side of nightmarish. It’s pretty atrocious that preying on peoples’ weaknesses has become the butt/crux of reality TV. That’s why I don’t watch it. It’s vultures circling dead slaughtered pigs.

    As far as temptation, it’s illogical to weigh the consequences when we are so overtaken by chemical lust. But it isn’t impossible. I had a GORGEOUS guy I worked with up close and personal for 2 straight years that I managed to resist. But it doesn’t mean that it wasn’t excruciating. In fact, it was the biggest most painful cruel joke of my life. All that man, and none for me.
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    • Mike Masters says:

      Yeah I am with you, I want to vomit on most of them. The Stinger though was so intense and wrong that I couldn’t pull away.

      Yes one can resist if there is a great enough pain to do so but what if you met him alone at a bar, and had a couple of drinks. Would you be able to resist?

      So I assume you are married and that i why you needed to resist?

      • FeistyWoman says:

        Indeed, I am married. I can admit that if we were alone at a bar, chances would definitely be greater. The thing is, it wasn’t so much because he was gorgeous but because the attraction was so intense. The chemistry was unbelievable. He was the thunderbolt- the one that doesn’t come along but once in a lifetime, who just happened to be hotter than a MFer.

        That’s why if I was in that girl’s situation facing down the Stinger, hot or not, if I wasn’t crazy physically attracted to him, I would easily resist. I’ve met a lot of hot guys that did absolutely nothing for me attraction wise. So the Stinger must’ve been completely effing sensational for her to want to go out and drop trou and get on with it in 10 sec flat. Seems more like she’d do it with anybody that was hot anyway. She shouldn’t have been engaged.
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  3. Mike Masters says:

    The fact that you are/were married had a lot to do with that chemistry, I would argue. The inappropriate nature of “flirting” with infidelity is a form of negative sexual tension and is very arousing to both parties. The other negative tension was the fact that you worked with him. The third thing was the because you constantly were “rubbing shoulders” there was non stop, rhythmic, tapping on the clitoris of arousal. I think I would have just separated from my husband for a week, fucked this guys brains out, and then got back with my husband.

    The reason the Stinger did so well is complicated by Japanese culture. It would take far too long to explain, but yes, if this were an American girl she probably would have slowed the process of cheating down but she might have still gone for it. If you are curious as to why I would be fine answering.

    • FeistyWoman says:

      I’m not going to lie. I wanted that guy so bad, I could taste it every rotten day of my life I had to be around him. I dreamed for months on end of doing what you suggested, even after I ceased working with him (he was why I had to quit the job in the first place). For months I couldn’t eat, drink, sleep or do anything without thinking about it, even though I was determined to put him out of my mind. It was one of the sickest things I’ve ever had to endure in my life. I could have balled him alright, but I think I could’ve also fallen for him. And he, much like you do to your unsuspecting victims, would’ve shaved down my heart like hot lava seeping through trees down a hillside.

      Perhaps you could explain the intricacies of the Japanese culture and how it played a hand in this. I know it’s an entire world unto itself. Their game shows are off the effing chain- in fact, they’re well beyond the realm of what we consider strange. Do tell….. ;)
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  4. Lance says:

    Mike, great post, and great convo going on in the comments. FiestyWoman had an interesting and tough situation. @Feisty, I would have nailed the guy!! I hate to think about going to my grave and missing out on fantastic sexual experiences. Who knows when we’ll meet another partner that we have amazing chemistry with and the sex is off the charts? Those connections are not particularly common.

    Of course, I’m not married and I’m not a big proponent of monogamy, either, so it would have been easy for me.

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  5. Just READING about the show made me uncomfortable! It reminds me of that show, “Cheaters” on TV now. Although, Cheaters isn’t quite as contrived as “Stinger” was. My dating experiences have taught me that women aren’t as unlikely to cheat as I thought they were. They’re just (often) sneakier about it. I met way more married women ‘out’ than I ever expected to.
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    • Mike Masters says:

      Amen!!! What women don’t realize is that they are so much better than men at lying AND because of that they don’t realize it!
      Women are probably more angry at men, not because they cheat but because the lie worse than women do…

  6. Bree Talon says:

    My little bro lives in Tokyo and he’s always telling me about crazy stuff like this. Being somewhat acquainted with Japanese stoicism myself, I can appreciate why this show was so popular.
    I especially enjoyed the moral dilemma you pose, and my response is that you can never know the measure of your fortitude or resolve until you’ve been tested.
    I agree with you, the key lies in being honest: with ourselves and with our partners, not always an easy task when we’re confronted with that animal part of our brain that likes to try to take over the driver’s seat.
    My good friend says he “tells the machine what to do” not the other way around, in dealing with his animal ‘urges’ haha perhaps he’s an exception to the rule but I still think you don’t know how you’re going to behave until confronted with the right provocation.

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  7. Married Chick says:

    Why am I so turned on by that show?

    I know I could resist only because of my lack of experience. I’ve only ever kissed/slept with my husband and while my desire and sexual fantasies I have are out of control, my lack of experience stops me from tasting another sexual experience. I know if I tried one other male, I wouldn’t/couldn’t stop.

    I would love the world to accept polyagomy because my husband bores the shit out of me right now.

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