Does he want to nest or breed?
There are a lot of things I believe that I admit might or might not be true. Like, the world trade center was blown up internally, we never landed on the moon and Michael Jackson is still alive. So, since I am far to lazy to do any research to discover if my theory about men is true, I will just assume it is.
I first considered this theory due to my extreme fear of marriage and commitment. Granted most guys are like this but I seemed to have it a little worse since I am mid thirties and still view marriage as a criminal views prison rape. Not only that but I have always had a mildly disturbing sex drive which amazingly led to crude jokes from my Christian family about me have bastard children all over the world. Ouch… I hope not.
Recently in a bout of drunken male bonding with my father I learned that this horrible fear of commitment cursed my father and his father with nearly the same vengeance! Was I from a long line of breeders? Did I need to proudly carry on this line?
The nester is a timid tie wearing type that migrates to the world’s offices and dreams of purchasing kitchen appliances for his prospective mate. He is a very stable guy that may not have a whole lot of excitement in life but he does have money and he does have stability. He builds a nice beautiful nest for a pretty girl to lay her eggs in and protects her from the breeder. He is clearly a nester and is disgusted with the breeder.
Then there is the other type, he is a partier, and he is a live by the seat of his pants loner. He works in bars and any job that doesn’t drug test, he might settle down to a normal job but it makes him restless and he wants nothing more to be out stalking women and excitement. Women fear him and try to run but he has almost a vampiric like attraction and they consider and often do screw his brains out. He is the breeder and would love to kick the nester‘s ass. (me too!)
I think that we see a reflection of a past DNA traces in our behavior from successful breeding strategies from a 100,000 years ago. These strategies have ducked their head under the cover of a desire to be in control but they still exist simply because they have led to offspring and thus strengthened this behavior. The two strategies of the breeder and the nester both work, they both produce offspring.
Am I telling you to avoid people like me? YES! but I am sure you can change me… you are different, you are special. =)
BTW the ultimate breeder is the one that has nesting potential. This is Charlie on 2 and ½ men, He lives to breed not to nest.