Comments on: Why Valentines day breaks my heart

By: Sacha

Sacha — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 23:41:53 +0000

Just an anecdote, but maybe a glimpse of the future too.

My mother never gave up on love and family. She got married FOUR freaking times! Her last marriage was when she was 60 and he was 59, he never had children. She died, very suddenly, five years later and was still silly in love with #4. After her funeral, I was walking with my step-father and he said “Oh my God, I’ve become a single father at 64!” I always thought he was a pretty good guy, but right then, I loved him to pieces and haven’t stopped.

Maybe we give up our dreams, and maybe we just give them up for a while. He would have been a terrible father to me as a little girl (yeah, I’m positive on this) but he is a perfect one for me now. He came along when he did, equipped to have a family…it was a LOT later than he intended, but there we are, his family.

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By: PrincessT

PrincessT — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 01:29:46 +0000

Hey Mike, very touching post. You should follow your dreams, and I hope they all come true! You deserve to get everything you want out of life. Just be thankful you’re not a girl, and still have as much time as you want to decide to settle down and have a family if that remains part of your plan

Good luck!
PrincessT´s last blog ..Friends with Benefits

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By: THE CREDIT CLEANER

THE CREDIT CLEANER — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 01:22:57 +0000

We are definitely similar because I love this HARD ass road too, and I definitely wouldn’t have it any other way because I REFUSE to have ANY regrets at the end of this life… if I am ever in Cali I’m gonna look you up… I never met anyone that reminded me of myself before.

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By: Mike Masters

Mike Masters — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 20:26:35 +0000

Excellent comment!
It sounds like we are very similar, I am also a self help junkie and I understand very well the concept of “happiness is not a destination”
With that said I am not really looking for something to complete me but I am suffering the delightful consequences of following a different path. Sometimes this is wonderful and I love the challenge but at other times I feel and acute pain that another life would have given me.
Do I truly regret leaving this wonderful woman? No, I had to. I am okay with that and happy with it. Only in times of weakness do I look back and say, “what if?”
I am on the right path and it sounds like you are as well. It sometimes is a lonely path because radically changing your life and growing exponentially leaves you somewhat lonely in a sea of TV addicts, going through the dull-drums of life in an effort to ignore the passions they are too fearful to follow.
I know when I come out the other side of the current water slide I am on I will be ready for something else. At the moment though, very few people are on this ride and therefore are not really compatible with me. (or you)
This is a road of self improvement, discovery and passion. I love the road I am on but things like Valentines day, remind me of what I have given up. It stings but I would have it no other way.

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By: THE CREDIT CLEANER

THE CREDIT CLEANER — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 19:26:20 +0000

and yes, YOUR DREAMS ARE TOTALLY WORTH IT!!!!!

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By: THE CREDIT CLEANER

THE CREDIT CLEANER — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 19:25:43 +0000

I despise this stupid day too Mike(somehow I knew you would which is why I am here on the day seeing what your saying)… and I too thought everything would have fallen into place by 30… (especially since I am so pleasant to look at and so much fun to be around)…so know that you are not alone… I rarely publicize my age as I actually look 10-12 years younger but since you guys can’t actually see me, I will loudly say that I am 38 and I too have never been married… I would think it was me but I KNOW that I have yet to meet someone that I would consider worthy of even saying that I would be committed to them for the rest of my life… that’s a long time (I hope), and I want to at least feel that we are compatible… the thing is that being a self-help junkie, I am constantly growing as a human being and unless I am with someone who is the same kind of junkie… I usually out-grow the person and then we are no longer compatible… I could quit learning but then I would be miserable… I have actually gotten use to the idea of being single (I refuse to settle for less than what I want)… now if only I could bring myself to engage in casual sex…

Let me just add, you said, “my drive for exploration, to find what is missing”

Have you considered the idea that nothing is actually missing? I use to feel exaclty the same way until I decided, whatever the f*ck is missing is just going to be missing because I am tired of picking myself apart… I am still a self help freak(I just love information-I’m probably more of a info-junkie), but after 2 years of purely accepting myself, flaws and all, I now, for the first time since a child, feel like a WHOLE person…

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By: Loverville

Loverville — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 18:13:00 +0000

You sound like a smart, wonderful guy, and I’m confident that you’ll find someone fabulous at some point — as you know, you just have to be patient.

And if you still want kids: as a 36-year-old guy, you still have plenty of time.

I’m 40 and single, and would really like to meet someone special. But I also realize that there’s so much more to life than just being part of a couple, so until that happens, I’m living the best life possible: enjoying times with wonderful friends, traveling, and just living it up.

Sure, I get dismayed by the dating process at times — you just have to stay positive.
Loverville´s last blog ..Date #156… and an apology.

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By: Robin

Robin — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 17:56:07 +0000

I was in the grocery store this morning and the back ground music of course was one love song after the other. I felt some sadness as well and a few tears welled in my eyes, not for love I have lost, but for love that I have not yet found. While listening to these songs though, I also felt hope. It’s a journey and at the young age of 36, yours has just begun.

I have 10 years on you, still single as well, but so much better prepared for when love does finally find me.
Robin´s last blog ..From my heart to yours

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By: Mike Masters

Mike Masters — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 14:53:05 +0000

Wow… That sperm bank story is interesting. I have actually thought about getting some of my boys frozen and getting a vasectomy. (seriously)

Glad you enjoyed the post. I really came from a heart felt place. I was in tears the whole post and it isn’t well edited because I didn’t want to read it again and again.

I know I am making the right choice but often that choice is painful.

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By: Lifebeginsat30ty

Lifebeginsat30ty — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 18:33:14 +0000

Wow Mike, I think this is my favorite post of yours because it is so honest and heart-felt. First of all, sucky to you for letting a created holiday for letting it make you feel shitty about your life choices. Speaking as someone who got married when they were 24, had the house with the 2-car garage, etc and is now divorced at 31: it is not worth it unless it is with the right person.

But the question of children is a tricky matter. When i did decide to get divorced, it was really at the time when it was stay and have a kid or leave and set that choice off for a while. I think it’s a much more time-limited issue for women. A woman at 36 is an entirely different thing than a man. I have a friend though that got to 36 and wasn’t any closer to finding Mr. Right, so went down to the sperm bank and now has a beautiful daughter. I thought it was the most courageous thing I’d ever seen. That’s my plan B

So my message is: you can always impregnate someone, you can play house with someone but if it’s not with the right person or you have to give up your dreams to do it, then what’s the point?
Lifebeginsat30ty´s last blog ..Mr. Fish Strikes Again

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By: Mike Masters

Mike Masters — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 16:14:16 +0000

Thank You J
Hope you and your sexy hair have a good VD day.

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By: Jillian

Jillian — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 15:49:10 +0000

Here is to making your relationship your friendships, your journey, your family and the passions that make up your life. You are loved.

J
Jillian´s last blog ..Living in a Snow Globe

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