Comments on: Step # 15 Shut up and allow the relationship to get serious http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/keeping-him/step-15-shut-up-and-allow-the-relationship-to-get-serious/ Dating advice for women and men Wed, 01 Feb 2012 09:02:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: -NN- http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/keeping-him/step-15-shut-up-and-allow-the-relationship-to-get-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-955 -NN- Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:17:34 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=576#comment-955 Quite frankly - I want to testdrive men, since if he can't get me to orgasm, why would I want to get to know him better? If the sex doesn't work, then what is the point of developing emotions (and that takes months for me) .. If he can't deliver, he is out - why bother a rerun with someone whom I don't click with? Quite frankly – I want to testdrive men, since if he can’t get me to orgasm, why would I want to get to know him better? If the sex doesn’t work, then what is the point of developing emotions (and that takes months for me) ..
If he can’t deliver, he is out – why bother a rerun with someone whom I don’t click with?

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]]> By: jerees http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/keeping-him/step-15-shut-up-and-allow-the-relationship-to-get-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-421 jerees Thu, 23 Apr 2009 21:39:57 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=576#comment-421 Thanks! Too true. Thanks! Too true.

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]]> By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/keeping-him/step-15-shut-up-and-allow-the-relationship-to-get-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-412 Mike Masters Thu, 23 Apr 2009 05:16:41 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=576#comment-412 no, the point of this post is to control your emotions! girls tend to blow it by being too emotional! no, the point of this post is to control your emotions!
girls tend to blow it by being too emotional!

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]]> By: jerees http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/keeping-him/step-15-shut-up-and-allow-the-relationship-to-get-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-408 jerees Thu, 23 Apr 2009 04:17:35 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=576#comment-408 Wait...isn't this the opposite of the post saying that you should feel free to sleep with him? Wait…isn’t this the opposite of the post saying that you should feel free to sleep with him?

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]]> By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/keeping-him/step-15-shut-up-and-allow-the-relationship-to-get-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-351 Mike Masters Wed, 15 Apr 2009 18:23:08 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=576#comment-351 funny how it never occurred to me that she should wait! I suppose you could do that... Call me shallow but I want to know! I want to make sure I like that aspect of the relationship before I commit to more. Of course I am not looking for a notch in my belt so I don't run. funny how it never occurred to me that she should wait!
I suppose you could do that… Call me shallow but I want to know! I want to make sure I like that aspect of the relationship before I commit to more. Of course I am not looking for a notch in my belt so I don’t run.

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]]> By: Shana Dee http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/keeping-him/step-15-shut-up-and-allow-the-relationship-to-get-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-350 Shana Dee Wed, 15 Apr 2009 17:40:32 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=576#comment-350 Great post! I agree wholeheartedly with Sarah, couldn't have said it better, so I won't even try! Be patient ladies, your prince charming is out there working his way through the 'wrong ones' to find YOU. : ) Great post! I agree wholeheartedly with Sarah, couldn’t have said it better, so I won’t even try! Be patient ladies, your prince charming is out there working his way through the ‘wrong ones’ to find YOU. : )

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]]> By: Sarah http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/keeping-him/step-15-shut-up-and-allow-the-relationship-to-get-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-310 Sarah Thu, 09 Apr 2009 21:21:42 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=576#comment-310 OK, I've been meaning to reply to this one for a while--too damn busy! Here's the deal, ladies, *if* you want a serious relationship then you have to take things slowly. We know what men want and in recent years (or maybe decades--I'm dating myself a bit here) we've gotten the idea that if we give in to sex in the first place, we'll fast-track ourselves into a serious relationship. But it doesn't work that way. Ladies, one of the most powerful weapons we have in our arsenal is sex *appeal*--the promise of fabulous things to come if you just wait. Just like we don't eat desert until after dinner, we shouldn't leap into bed until the ground work is laid--that is, *if* you want a serious relationship. There is something profoundly powerful and tantalizing in the promise of the more physical side of male/female relationships, so if you wait, you attach that promise to a deeper knowledge of yourself and your future partner--and to your partner's knowledge of you. If the guy turns out to be willing to wait, then once he knows and values you, then he'll have to think a bit more about what he wants out of sex besides sex because now respect and personal connection on more than a surface passion level have been established. Of course, if he isn't willing to wait, then he isn't worth a relationship. So waiting can be a powerful test for a guy. So, remember this, you have something he wants--use that to your own advantage if you have a longer term goal. There's tremendous power in knowing exactly what you have to offer and taking your time in offering it. OK, I’ve been meaning to reply to this one for a while–too damn busy!

Here’s the deal, ladies, *if* you want a serious relationship then you have to take things slowly. We know what men want and in recent years (or maybe decades–I’m dating myself a bit here) we’ve gotten the idea that if we give in to sex in the first place, we’ll fast-track ourselves into a serious relationship. But it doesn’t work that way. Ladies, one of the most powerful weapons we have in our arsenal is sex *appeal*–the promise of fabulous things to come if you just wait. Just like we don’t eat desert until after dinner, we shouldn’t leap into bed until the ground work is laid–that is, *if* you want a serious relationship. There is something profoundly powerful and tantalizing in the promise of the more physical side of male/female relationships, so if you wait, you attach that promise to a deeper knowledge of yourself and your future partner–and to your partner’s knowledge of you. If the guy turns out to be willing to wait, then once he knows and values you, then he’ll have to think a bit more about what he wants out of sex besides sex because now respect and personal connection on more than a surface passion level have been established. Of course, if he isn’t willing to wait, then he isn’t worth a relationship. So waiting can be a powerful test for a guy. So, remember this, you have something he wants–use that to your own advantage if you have a longer term goal. There’s tremendous power in knowing exactly what you have to offer and taking your time in offering it.

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]]> By: Bebe http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/keeping-him/step-15-shut-up-and-allow-the-relationship-to-get-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-300 Bebe Sat, 04 Apr 2009 01:38:45 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=576#comment-300 I agree with Queen Lindsay on this one. Women in our society (and most societies) are led to believe that their worth depends on what men think of them. Pick up a cosmo and you'll see what I mean. Every article somehow relates to making themselves more appealing to men. Also, because it's not socially acceptable for a women to "act like a man" and have sex for the sake of having sex, they feel as though it should "mean something." I assure you boys, there are exceptions. I agree with Queen Lindsay on this one. Women in our society (and most societies) are led to believe that their worth depends on what men think of them. Pick up a cosmo and you’ll see what I mean. Every article somehow relates to making themselves more appealing to men. Also, because it’s not socially acceptable for a women to “act like a man” and have sex for the sake of having sex, they feel as though it should “mean something.”
I assure you boys, there are exceptions.

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]]> By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/keeping-him/step-15-shut-up-and-allow-the-relationship-to-get-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-297 Mike Masters Sat, 04 Apr 2009 00:34:17 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=576#comment-297 I agree most women are not gold diggers. I have not met anyone anyway! I agree most women are not gold diggers. I have not met anyone anyway!

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]]> By: lily http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/keeping-him/step-15-shut-up-and-allow-the-relationship-to-get-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-293 lily Fri, 03 Apr 2009 13:40:41 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=576#comment-293 Women are not gold diggers generally -_- Maybe you've encountered the bad apples, but we have alot of things more higher up on the priority list. We do want stability, but that just simply means the guy has to have a stable job. Doesn't necessarily mean 6 figure digits. Women are not gold diggers generally -_-
Maybe you’ve encountered the bad apples, but we have alot of things more higher up on the priority list. We do want stability, but that just simply means the guy has to have a stable job. Doesn’t necessarily mean 6 figure digits.

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]]> By: Queen Lindsay http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/keeping-him/step-15-shut-up-and-allow-the-relationship-to-get-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-290 Queen Lindsay Thu, 02 Apr 2009 23:26:14 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=576#comment-290 Dammit, one thing I don't like about this whole "being a woman" think is the emotional attachment that comes after sex. Why can't I just have sex with no attachments. I mean, it's possible, I've done it before but it took hella work. I never EVER would blurt how "Did it mean anything?". But some girls do this, they need some sort of validation. Dammit, one thing I don’t like about this whole “being a woman” think is the emotional attachment that comes after sex. Why can’t I just have sex with no attachments. I mean, it’s possible, I’ve done it before but it took hella work. I never EVER would blurt how “Did it mean anything?”. But some girls do this, they need some sort of validation.

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]]> By: tom http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/keeping-him/step-15-shut-up-and-allow-the-relationship-to-get-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-288 tom Thu, 02 Apr 2009 13:29:11 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=576#comment-288 But you know what, the first example you gave is funny yet it happens a lot, i would say both men and women, probably mostly women get married for money, or are well gold diggers pretty much and its not their fault necessarily. If the guy doesn't stand up for himself well that's his fault too. But you know what, the first example you gave is funny yet it happens a lot, i would say both men and women, probably mostly women get married for money, or are well gold diggers pretty much and its not their fault necessarily.
If the guy doesn’t stand up for himself well that’s his fault too.

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