Cheese monkey
In the previous post I talked about how dating and sales are so similar. If you understand a little bit about sales it makes it quite simple to emulate in the dating world. BUT like I said before this topic has a knee jerk bad feel about it. In fact when I told a friend only about the TITLE of the post she said, “it seems kinda angry.” Why? Because of your perception of a sales person? Because it is somehow distasteful or dishonest to try to sell yourself? In media the sales person is made out to be a dishonest manipulative person but in reality it is not like this at all. The sales person has a simple job, to sell their product/service and make you happy about buying once and many times in the future, dishonesty does not lead to repeat sales. (I would imagine this is why I have ex’s from 10+ years ago still contacting me but I am not supposed to talk about stuff like that because my mom says it make me sound like a “male slut”)
Here is the list from the previous post
• Good sales people are confident
• Good sales people never kiss butt for a purchase
• Good sales people NEVER bring up the negative
• Good sales people INFLATE the positive
• Good sales people create demand for a product by limiting the supply
• Good sales people realize that they can choose who they sell to.
Good sales people are confident
I know from experience that if you don’t believe in your product it is very very hard to sell it. I learned this working in a Fitness/Nutrition store. Now when I was a young body builder this would have been no problem but being little older with a lot more nutrition knowledge it was really hard to sell a pile of protein to people. I felt like I was selling people cancer (read the book The China Study). This came across in my approach no matter how I tried to mask it. Eventually I had to quit the job, this was humbling since the new guy, a huge 250lb, muscle bound, stretch marked, steroid filled 19 year old beat my sales in less than a week!! Shit! in concession people really appreciated my honesty and I had a pretty good following. But still, ouch…
Meat Chop, the 19 year old body builder believed in his product to a ridiculous degree. Hell, after listening to him I almost wanted to buy the junk I detested! This was confidence! He believed so strongly that he made my belief wavier! My extra 15 years of experience and a ton more education was shaken by his incredible belief.
Recently I had a younger girl make fun of my age. Happens a lot being single and having many younger friends. “Hey, that hurts me,” I said smiling wryly. “whatever, you have an ego the size of a house” she retorted. Even if it was not exactly true I was very happy that this was her perception. My ego and my confidence has gotten me in the door so many freaking times I can not tell you!!! This is HUGE!!! Now, after the ego house (sounds like a good bar name) comment I said it was not exactly true. I am just as fragile as the rest of us, it bummed me out a bit getting teased about being older. BUT… I flipped it. I made the age a positive not a negative, ready? “Okay little girl, I know your ego is small because you don’t have a lot of life experience, I will be happy to teach you some.” There is a lot communicated there, confidence is reestablished by making age a positive. Not only that there is a challenge and a sexual one at that.
bullets:
• Maintain confidence at all times (fake it until you make it)
• Be congruent, sell what you believe in, sell your best qualities.
• Always reframe or flip the negative into a positive
• Challenge the customer in a playful way
• Nothing beats unwavering belief in yourself YOU KICK ASS
They guy in the picture is a BAD Salesman BTW.
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