Sometimes I find myself in the grocery store walking down the cleaning supplies isle wondering where the peanut butter is when it occurs to me that I was following a shapely bum I had seen earlier. I try to shake off my butt tracking stupor only to find it physically hard to drag myself over to the correct isle. My brain has to verify that the bum is indeed as shapely as I had originally thought. This mental hijacking unfortunately was happening to me at the party. I would find myself needing to talk to people in the vicinity of this girl even though my conscious mind was screaming to go the other way.
Now I want to emphasize that I in no way shape or form think that we cannot control our urges and drives. Nor are we just the vehicle for the animal mind to drive around whenever it wants but…! I do believe very strongly that the animal mind can be very tricky and will find a way to sneak in it’s desires in a way that the thinking mind can get on board with. This is about the time I spotted my favorite type of tequila.
The animal brain saw it’s opportunity instantly and fed my thinking mind a few lines in rapid succession. Just have one! You can control yourself. We are going to leave in an hour, don’t worry. How often do you see this great tequila in Japan! I was already pouring myself a shot as my thinking mind went to sleep. Wisely I pulled my friend aside, “Ben, don’t let me go home with that girl!” Ben had already had a few shots of the same tequila and was probably not the best person to be accountable to but I am sure my animal brain knew that. About 8 shots later me and busty gnome girl where in a taxi heading to my place. The second we got in to my place clothes came off and I was buried in breasts. My subconscious mind was ecstatic.
Morning hit and along with it my thinking mind woke and my animal went back into hibernation after gorging itself. It had left me with the mess. I woke up to her soft slightly obese snoring, horrible smokers breath, and really bad BO… I cringed in pain. Of course she was even less attractive by daylight. I made a face of someone with severe constipation as I tried to figure out how to get her out of the house. I shamefully created a job I needed to be at around 6:30 am and bustled her out of the house to a taxi that I had already called. I never got her number but she got mine, to my later horror. After she left, I burned my sheets and peeled my skin off with boiling oil.
Now that you most likely hate me I will add that I was not quite this bad. I ended up meeting her for lunch and explaining that I was not interested in a relationship. She answered quickly that all she wanted was sex and left me confused and speechless. Me being a blunt honest guy stammered something lame about an ex-girlfriend. (never believe this one) We parted and I feeling like the most horrible guy in the world went to drink some more tequila.
Sexual hijacking is normal and I believe that it is one of the strategies the human body uses to spread its DNA. I think we are programmed, with contradictory instructions and are not always conscious of our choices. This does not mean we are a puppet of our desires but our desires often have a way of sneaking past our best intentions. Understanding this concept will SOOO help you understand men and why they do what they do. Perhaps more importantly it will help you understand your own confusing drives and help you learn to rein them in positively.







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Would men have sex with women they’re not into over and over again?
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Ouch… Honey…
You need to get out of that relationship!
Yes they absolutely would. It is just a slightly more creative way to masturbate.
I could be wrong about your situation but I don’t think you would ask that question unless you suspected you were getting used.
Sorry…
would a guy play the chase game with a girl for weeks if he was not interested?
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