I love that she doesn’t put up with my bullshit

31 Responses to “I love that she doesn’t put up with my bullshit”


  1. Jules says:

    Right on! You that beautifully!

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  2. T says:

    Yes, Mike, YES!

    I love this post! My bf and I were just having this discussion last night. He was saying that he loves that I let him know when he’s being an ass. However, he admitted, he likes the way I do this. He said that he doesn’t feel as if I’m condescending. In that way, he learns from the experience rather than reacting to it. He does the same to me. He’s so gentle and honest.

    I love it.

    Great post honey!
    .-= T´s last blog ..Happy 2010/Birthday: The Night in Pics =-.

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    • Mike Masters says:

      To get a thumbs up from a great writer like yourself feels excellent. Thank you T!
      I like what you added too, it is not just about joking around and hinting at someones bad behavior but it is about communication.
      I think many of us don’t communicate because we are afraid of what we might lose. It is like playing black jack without any money. No risk, no payout.

  3. Elissa says:

    So were my answer’s correct? Did i get an A?
    .-= Elissa´s last blog ..Goodbye 2009 =-.

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  4. Jaime says:

    Nicely done mike.
    This reminds me of the conversation we has while on the hwy after the bike “malfunction”.
    This was a huge reason Shaun and I worked so well, I met an equal and when I pulled a little “Shit Fit” he called me out on it… It was refreshing and attractive because I had found an equal.

    Good topic!

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  5. Natalie says:

    This post makes sense, but I think many people confuse setting boundaries with putting up emotional walls.
    .-= Natalie´s last blog ..two things i did this weekend, and facebook musings =-.

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  6. Tammy says:

    I think you are correct in the fact that we only put up with less if that is what we feel we deserve. When one becomes secure in their own right to have someone treat them well, then they won’t put up with someone who doesn’t treat them well. In other words, they won’t put up with bullshit. Either that or they are bitter and jaded and don’t give a shit if they piss off the other persons by calling them on their behavior because they either want someone they can control or they want to get rid of them.

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  7. Dating Diva says:

    haha, how many times have I told you I get so hot for the guys who can keep me in check? It is so true.
    .-= Dating Diva´s last blog ..Dating Stories: Too Much PDA =-.

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  8. Lifebeginsat30ty says:

    What a great post! I totally agree with finding someone who will set boundaries as attractive. But I will also lose respect for someone who wont. If someone just let’s me run all over them, I just lose interest. But it also has to be done in a good way; like a previous commenter said. This is definitely on my list of what I’d like to have in a future partner!

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  9. Olivia says:

    Okay, I realize I totally need assistance understanding this. This article made me realize I am completely missing something in the dating game and it has probably bitten me in the butt many times without me realizing it…

    What is “bullshit” in a relationship and why would anyone want to give it to someone they liked? In the same vein I never understood the pushing boundaries thing, even as a child. This doesn’t mean I am passive, I am usually the dominant one in my relationships, but now I wonder, have I failed some “tests” with guys that I didn’t even know were going on?

    So, I guess my main questions are:
    1. What is “bullshit” in this context, being mean? Ignoring the other person?
    2. If you genuinely like somebody, doesn’t it really bother you to hurt them?
    3. If the person you liked pulled BS with you, why would you want any more to do with them?
    4. What is “not taking” BS? What does that even look like?

    I would love to read a scenario with a guy pulling BS with a girl, and her “not taking it.”

    I realize that this whole question sounds completely ridiculous, but this seriously is completely foreign to me. Help all of the Thai stewardesses out there!

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    • Mike Masters says:

      Very simple, BS is when you or the other person “try to get away with something”
      So for example the first time your boyfriend asks you to fetch him a beer while he is watching TV. The Thai stewardess would say, “sure honey” but feel a little bad about it. My angry ex would say, “get the fuck up and get it yourself” and feel fine about it.
      Now this doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t get something for a girl if she asked me for it. However if she asked me in the first month of dating I might be hesitant. This is because the lines and boundaries of any relationship are being forged at that time and people tend to push those lines, the pushing is the bullshit.
      Another example, the girl I am dating right now is very very tough and is used to getting away with relationship murder. This makes her feel a bit bored since she is able to walk on every guy she see. I am fascinating for her because she can’t do it with me, I refuse to put up with her bratty inner child.
      Quick example:
      I am over at her place and we are talking at the kitchen table. She gets a phone call and launches into a long conversation with her friend about her ex. I get up, grab my coat and head for the door. “Where are you going?” she says covering the phone, “going home, you look busy on the phone” She immediately hangs up and tries to plead her case. I didn’t bother to argue, I had just called her on her bullshit and she knew it.

  10. thomas says:

    Well the first thing that comes to mind is it is quite natural for humans to associate ourselves with others who are below us. It is a way to make ourselves feel better about ourselves.

    Although, there are few people out there that strive to associate themselves with people above them as a way to learn from them and become them.

    Another thing interesting about this post is that we begin to appreciate the good things once we have seen the other side.
    .-= thomas´s last blog ..Celebrities are puppets to corporations =-.

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  11. Kelli says:

    I’d like to know more about the type of boundaries. I’m typically the type to be laid back, so this would be informative.
    .-= Kelli´s last blog ..Bamenda Tote =-.

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    • Mike Masters says:

      I will be writing about boundaries again soon. I think they are extremely important.

      • Olivia says:

        Thanks Mike! That response was totally helpful. (Though it makes me a little sad that people push those that they are supposed to be behind.)

        My next questions are along the lines of…if we are always maintaining boundaries with those that we are with, when do you act “sweet”, “adoring” etc… (I am also bad with that stuff.) I sound like Data.

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        • Mike Masters says:

          I think it is very simple, you let the guy take the lead.
          Since the guy is most likely to bail out of the relationship on an emotional whim. It makes sense to let him take the first steps in the emotional direction.

  12. Fiona says:

    This is really interesting and good stuff. It all ring so true. Any tips on handling these scenarios better and setting boundaries? I was raised to be so nice and polite this doesn’t come naturally and is ruining my love life! lol I am the Thai woman! Although not literally because I am English!



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  13. No BS says:

    I just had a situation where I called a man I was dating on his bullshit. He was making some lame excuse about why he had not been calling, we are not exclusive so it really was no big deal. Then I found out he was lying about having to go out of town for work (when he was really going on another date). I told him

    “You owe me no explanation, we are both adults and can date who we want to date. However, I will not tolerate a man who lies to me, it is unacceptable and disrespectful. I informed him that when a man lies to me the first time, it will also be the last time. I wished him the best and good luck”.

    Now he will probably be all over me, but it’s too late. A man without integrity is a man who will never have my heart, nor deserve it. He is a boy amongst men.

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  14. Danny says:

    Sir mike I understand how seting boundaries is a key point to having a partner repect you. I can honestly say I haven’t done that but know it geting to a point wer she’s geting to me and I’m geting over her do to the fact that I didn’t set thos boundaries now she walks all over me and I’m starting to not care about wat she does and I’m eager to start seting boundaries . How do you go about starting to set them…?

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  15. Danny says:

    I guess I’m takin the emotion out of the situation and starting to think more clear and I’m starting to feall like I deserve better.I’m pritty much geting in touch with my self and starting to think greater of myself she does treat me like shit but only couse I let her but like I said know Im starting to get angry and think that I’m a great person and I don’t deserve this. So I’m ready to start seting some boundaries and If she can’t respect them then I don’t want to be with.her so how do I start setting those boundaries and leting her know that I’m not Gona put up with her bullshit eny longer?

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  16. LOVE this! so true =) On the surface, sometimes it seems like my husband just wants me to do what he wants in the moment. But I know that in the long run, he is so grateful that I don’t put up with his ‘shit’ and that I stick up for myself, and call him forward to meet me halfway! It preserves the life of our relationship. If I didn’t do that, he would get bored, and I would wind up resentful, and one or both of us would leave!

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