Comments on: Guy code and Chlamydia – Why does it hurt to pee??

By: Melster

Melster — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 19:33:16 +0000

You did the right thing! It was not your place to get involved, unless you were better friends with his wife. She was obviously of less concern to you. All you could do was give him advice. Maybe it wasn’t the best advice, but the guy was desperate and dumb. You had no way of knowing whether he would follow through or seek alternative advice. Although, he did seem too ashamed or scared of getting caught to talk to others. What would he have done if you said nothing to him? I’m thinking something a whole lot worse may have occurred. Also, not her fault really but she was dumb enough to marry a cheater and bear his child. So, if anything you saved her. I guess the real moral of the story is only offer advice you are certain about and get all the facts before saying anything.

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By: BWARD

BWARD — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 23:29:02 +0000

Found this info on the internet… If you are still able to tell them about this, I would.

Chlamydia and gonorrhea are described as the two most preventable causes of infertility. Unfortunately, these sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) present no symptoms in most women, and therefore may remain untreated for a long period of time. This is why getting annual screenings, which consists of a simple urine test, is of the utmost importance. Both gonorrhea and chlamydia can be treated with oral antibiotics. However, by delaying treatment a person runs the risk of becoming infertile.

Delayed treatment can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease (PID). Symptoms of PID include lower abdominal and pelvic pain, pain during urination and sex, vaginal discharge, vaginal bleeding, fever, chills and a foul odor. Pelvic inflammatory disease is essentially an infection on a woman’s reproductive organs. In its progressed state, scar tissue damages the fallopian tubes, uterus and ovaries. This can cause infertility or lead to a potentially fatal ectopic pregnancy.

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By: The Girl

The Girl — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 00:17:35 +0000

well i can say u did both the right things and wrong things. well the wrong thing you did was was always turn the cheek when ur friend at the time was doing wrong instead of advising him to stop and think about his family.

Now the good thing was that makes you a man was that u thought about what would happen with the wife and child and helped save the unborn bby. and also by laughing in his face about how big of a moron he is and in the future down the line stoped being his friend. that’s something a wife would apprecite from a husbands friend.

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By: Sarah

Sarah — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 12:29:12 +0000

Wow–here’s a possibility: maybe it doesn’t bother her that he cheats? That would bother the hell out of me, but she’s not me, now is she? He’s got fidelity issues, and she is either a victim or totally OK with polygamy. But if it works for them and they’re happy, who are we to say?

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By: Mike Masters

Mike Masters — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 04:52:17 +0000

Just heard from someone that his wife caught him literally in bed with another girl. It amazes me that she didn’t leave him years ago.

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By: F. McDonald

F. McDonald — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 04:19:06 +0000

I know EXACTLY who you are talking about. Crazy stuff, man!

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By: Mike Masters

Mike Masters — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 04:13:14 +0000

So… Frisco…
Do you know who I am talking about??

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By: F. McDonald

F. McDonald — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 03:11:14 +0000

Hmm. This is definitely a tough one for all parties involved. I definitely think it was the right decision to stay out of it, as on balance it would merely complicate things more. The only alternative would have been to do some anonymous tipping, but you didn’t have the kind of relationship with her whereby that would have been a viable option.

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By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 18:28:21 +0000

Oh OK–looking forward to the next post!

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By: Mike Masters

Mike Masters — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 18:16:30 +0000

Naw I was working on another post! these comments take time!

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By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 15:25:19 +0000

@Mike–What a sweet son you are. But hey! Have you ducked out of our fascinating conversation here????

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By: Mike Masters

Mike Masters — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 03:17:18 +0000

Hey guys, I just encouraged my mom to start a blog. It is a sweet blog about the funny stories she has growing up in the 50/60s
http://tqween.wordpress.com/
Visit her and say hi!

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By: QTMama

QTMama — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 18:17:45 +0000

@Rosalyn – I think that you handled that situation with class and grace. Nice job girlie.

@Sarah – Agreed, 100%

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By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 16:41:44 +0000

@QTMama–Amen! No meds for to-be-mamas and there is indeed divine justice in jerks getting STDs (though no justice in passing them on to wife and child)!

@Mike–I wanted to add that my last response was about ethics and codes of conduct in general, not about the particular ethical pickle you describe in your post. I can’t put myself in your shoes with Jack and his wife, I just question statements of “it is what it is and don’t try to change it”. Too black and white when the world is messy, soupy grey!

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By: QTMama

QTMama — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 16:24:41 +0000

Dudes. The thing that gets me, as a mama, is that I was specifically not allowed to take any type of meds during my pregnancy without first consulting my OBGYN. No antibiotics, no cold medicine, not even my allergy pills because there wasn’t enough testing done to see how it could possibly affect my baby. While I’m glad Mike talked to a doctor, I think what bothers me MORE here is that the D-Bag tricked his wife into taking it. Ugh. That makes me feel sick. I’m glad their son is healthy.

And if he cheats that much? I’m glad he got an STD. I for one, do not think Mike should have been the one to tell the wife. Hearing something like that should come from someone who cares about the person, not from some stranger. But that’s just my two cents.

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By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 13:44:25 +0000

@Jillian, Rose, & RTM–I agree with you ladies whole-heartedly in this. My husband and our best male friends put ethics first and yet have–and *are*–extremely close and trustworthy friends whole are loyal to each other through thick and thin. Part of that loyalty is calling each other on the carpet when they fuck up ethically.

To blindly follow any code is to shut off the mind, not think for oneself, and refuse to grow and mature in person and intellect (sounds like orthodoxy, and we know how you feel about that, sir). By saying that the code is what it is and that it won’t change and that we ladies have to accept it for what you say it is, is like saying that men are frozen, that there is no room for growth, change, and choice–and I *know* you don’t believe that’s true (recall our phone conversation about neuro-plasticity and domain specificity?). Please don’t lock men into an unchanging and inflexible position and then ask women to accept them as they are–doing so asks women to accept that men will potentially hurt them in order to protect other men. That’s just plain misogyny and I don’t believe you’re that kind of misogynist. Do you really want us to accept that that’s just the way it is????

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