Comments on: A Sweet guy and Karen’s terrible fear of commitment

By: F. McDonald

F. McDonald — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 03:16:21 +0000

Wow…at your post (though jogging 6 miles is also impressive)!

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By: Mike Masters

Mike Masters — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 04:26:49 +0000

I spent the day at the beach! Jogged 6 miles in the sand. So nice to be able to do that sometimes.

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By: Sarah

Sarah — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 16:19:16 +0000

guess I’m exclamation point happy this morning–it’s gotta be the sun. it *finally* came out today. Forgive the over-excitement

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By: Sarah

Sarah — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 15:03:17 +0000

Good morning Love–thank you for clarifying! Yes, we do agree (and thank you for the challenge on the phone–I needed a good argument to clear my foul mood!) We don’t want to scare Karen into thinking this is too tough! The hardest part for her, I’d bet, will be getting out of Sis’s shadow and using her perfectly good mind to decide what she wants and then following through on it!

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By: Mike Masters

Mike Masters — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 14:44:08 +0000

@tom I am curious!? what do you get now??

@Sarah
Hey sweetie,
The two of us actually talked about this on the phone and we only disagree over semantics. Let me clarify what I mean about the brain hardening at certain ages. It is just like age and weight gain, by no means is mandatory! I personally plan to attack Chinese this year and I am over 35 so… it really is up to the user whether or not they allow their brain to stiffen.

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By: Sarah

Sarah — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 19:24:04 +0000

Ok, I know you don’t want to make things complicated, but I gotta dig into the pysch research you cite here. The end of the critical period (the point after which it’s harder to learn language) and the ability to change other cognitive behaviors aren’t necessarily related–unless you’re a staunch neo-conservative male (True story–male neo-con brains appear to be more rigid in brain scans than liberal brains of either sex, according to a study by the University of Illinois department of psychology, with the result being that liberal minded people seem to be able to change their thoughts and behavior fairly easily no matter their age). I think it’s too easy to say the brain gets rigid–there are so many factors that figure into this and no one outcome is true for the majority of the population–it’s usually some combination of brain biology, sex (of the person, not the act itself!!!), social and physical environment, and upbringing…. It might not be so hard for Karen to change as the work you cite implies…. I agree that she needs to be aware of going on in her own head if she wants a different relationship life, though. That’s true for all of us!

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By: tom

tom — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 15:45:48 +0000

Mike another great post and in fact in shun some light for me, and I finally get it.

Appreciate you sharing the story here, look forward to more.

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By: Mike Masters

Mike Masters — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 15:05:51 +0000

So why is this post not as interesting to comment on?
i wonder….

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