Soon to be extinct
“As a woman about to enter her Cougar-dome, I feel it is an enticing destination! I am fit, beginning some of the most powerful and productive years in my career and the pressures of dating are gone. I don’t want more kids, I have money and I don’t want some fat 40 year old man who has given up on experiencing life. (That being said, I would take an active 40 year old man with some pep!) I also don’t have a lot of time to devote to the work of a relationship but still like having an active sex life.
Would I take a 25 year old lover? Um…yeah. Would I go out to the bar with him and his friends?…No. Would I bring him to a work event? Probably not. Would he meet the fam? No. Would I fuck the shit out of him, make him breakfast and never call him again? That could be a possibility…”
- Cara – Comment from last post Cougar, cutting her claws on the back of change
Male domination
“NA-NI!!” (what!) I turned to aggressively yell at the older japanese man. “Everyone has to wait, be patient!” He stared at me and stopped hammering on his bicycle bell, which was good because I was about to tear it off. The girl walking next to me got a little closer under my umbrella, snorting with repressed laughter, “you conjugated the verb wrong for, be patient, but I think he understood.” The rain made the concrete appear to steam, which matched what was coming out of my ears, cooling with mild embarrassment. “but wow… I have never seen anyone your age do that,” she said. “Do what?” She looked serious, “Scold an older man.”
There is a sense of entitlement in a male dominated society, which usually fluctuates on three hinges. Age, Sex and Wealth, take away one of these, and the entitlement crumbles. This was why most of the older and slightly well to do japanese men I knew were often arrogant and outrageously irritating. Surprisingly, America still has vestiges of this prehistoric thinking, fossilized in the minds of the few dinosaurs that still practice it.
Another Dinosaur
Last week, I met another dinosaur. She was 19, gorgeous, large chested and outrageously self absorbed. At age 19 she was already finished, she had arrived and was basking in her self generated sunlight. What she didn’t realize is she is a stagnant relic soon to be extint. She is a beautiful flower, 100% relying on this temporary blossom to carry her through life. What is her destination? Since the flower petals only remain unbruised for a short time, she will get married in the next 5 years, she will marry into relative wealth, and she will stagnate… forever longing for beauty and power that once was.
Who will she marry? She is the perfect coupling for the fat man, they are the same but from opposite extremes, one is shrouded in wealth and the other the beauty of youth. What neither of them realize is that life is not a destination, she has not arrived, and neither has he. There will never be happiness found in complacency and to great irony they have pressured the other into their opposite role. This is the woman that parasitically lives off her man and this is the man that masturbates inside his trophy wife. The truth is, they are both whores.
Whores…
Why is the 30/40 something woman, leaving their husbands? Having affairs? Swooping on the younger male? because they no longer can be bought, they are no longer a whore. Is the fat man in the Lexus any better off? Fuck no! He is a whore to his mortgage, car payment, job, and the cultural lie that says “to arrive” as a male means to attain a level of money and power. This is the problem, this is why the younger pretty woman is threatened, and the older wealthy man offended. They are stagnant, they can no longer sit back and allow money or physical attraction to trump this new woman. She is no longer following the establish cultural path and she is now becoming a beautiful enigma, out flowering the younger woman and crushing the older man.
The young woman and the abandoned male.
The young woman can not compete with the older woman’s level of life experience or maturity (and often fitness). The younger man is intrigued that FINALLY god saw fit to create a woman with the same agenda as he has. (cue heavenly sounds and separation of clouds) How does the fat man feel?? He has been lied to, the American dream is not real. He has been abandon by the new woman and is left wondering, what went wrong? For those threatened, the solution is simple, and in the long run these two groups will see that competition and change will be a wonderful thing.
Embracing change and the fluidity of life is probably one of the greatest things we will ever practice. I believe this is what is happening with the new woman because they are finally free, they don’t share the baby agenda of the younger woman or the career agenda of the older man. They are allowed to twist in the wind, and they are a beautiful model for the younger woman to follow and the older man to keep up with.
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I swear the next post will be funny, I am dying here. I can’t be this serious for so long!!
This post was enjoyable as always! Can’t wait to read your next, less serious post. Keep up the great work!
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Wow. I’m stunned. I’m left with no words. (This is a good thing!)
I love where you’re going with this. I never gave it that much thought but yeah… I think you’re really on to something, Mike.
Good stuff!
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T left with no words? That is like me feeling I have direction in life.
Always happy to have you here.
this is brilliant, Mike! Especially like the line about the man who masturbates inside his trophy wife. Younger women take note it might not seem like you’ll fall into the trap but it can happen to strong intelligent extremely competent women if they aren’t careful. Mike is sooo onto something. This is a cautionary tale. And while this isn’t funny funny… it made me laugh to see the older man and the younger woman as mirror images, dinosaurs, whores… did I say brilliant already?
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You are awesome Gail and as you know people like yourself are an inspiration for this post.
I really hope that younger women can see this is a non threatening and use it as fuel to bypass the trap culturally laid for them.
Hilarius. Sooo after reading the article I went out with my girlfriends Saturday night, and put on my brand new cougar hat on. Next thing I know this gorgeous brazilian guy about 27, takes me to the dance floor. I swear that was the best foreplay I had in years. At one point I took a pee brake (it’s a girl thing) and as I get out of the bathroom this pretty young girl is waiting outside the door. She looks at me with poisonous eyes and asks “are you Paolo’s girfriend “?.
And I am like…Who the hell is Paolo?
And she goes ..Paolo is my boyfriend, he asked me out last week.
And I said… well, good for you honey,good luck getting him.
The paradox of this parody, is that I have a daughter the same age as the girl, and that gave me about 3 seconds of guilty pause.
And I was out again, for some more foreplay. I didn’t take the kid home because he could only say
Dance?
Are you ok? and …. Come on.
But it was a good learning experience.
By the way…I think the fat guy in the picture is my ex husband.
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Oh… God…
You kick ass, I think we are going to have to interview you for the book. That was a great story and I thank you so much for sharing it.
Going to drop you an email right now.
As always, this is a true gem. More material that will serve as the seeds for that new book, no? I sense a best-seller in the works…
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I think you are right, I really do think this could hit a best seller list. Thank god the right people have recently come into my life to make this happen.
I have a feeling though that this material is a little much for my audience to comment on. Tough concepts…
That is why next week I am digressing to talking about penises again!
It’s a lot to tackle in comment forum, but it’d be great round-table or dinner party discussion though. We’ll just have to wait for the book!
I look forward to the upcoming penis posts. No one can say no to the penis. And yes, that sounds terribly inappropriate, but I’m going to leave it up.
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I hear ya. I’m equal opportunity, though. I love cougars, but likewise can find no faults with the big-breasted, 18-year old bimbo.
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Don’t get me wrong! I would have loved to have slept with the bimbo but just like Cara quote I would have to kick her out in the morning.
Oh, come on. Not every cougar is like, fit and amazing. And not every 18 year old is a big breasted bimbo. I find that I like most older guys because they have more experience more often than not. The guys my age are either too weak to be a man, or out drinking, starting drama (but blaming it on the girl), or trying to be someone who they aren’t or what public peers pressure them to be, or to do and not do. Sure, there are 40 year old losers who never learn shit, and who do end up driving a lexus (or worse, a honda; or even worse, a prius). But what about that almost 40 year old guy who actually learned something in his life, and can express more feelings, more thought, and more support than someone who is confused and drunk all the time?
There are exceptions, obviously.
Personally I feel kind of mature for my age, and I often would rather hang around older people who still like to have fun – in a real kind of way. Not a LETS PARTY BITCH! I’MA GET FUCKED UP! kind of way.. if that makes any sense.
Ever heard the term “Kit”? Yes!
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Excellent point, not all cougars are in shape, not all 19 year olds are hot and big breasted and not all older men are fat and wealthy.
What I am attacking is more of a cultural icon, a belief system that many, many people feel they need to pursue.
The new woman, is breaking this pattern.
A lot of women like yourself find a better match with an older man, I think that kicks ass.
There are many patterns of behavior in society. I am only pointing out one.
I always thought it would be the 19 year old blonde bimbo with the never-growing up fratboy! But I like this perpetual trophy wife with the ‘tool’.
Favorite line: ‘allowed to twist in the wind’
Just love the image that creates!
A new woman, taking the good from each stereotype and making it her own in a completely new package. I’m down with that
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Thanks for telling me your favorite line. I probably said that because that is often how I feel about my life.
It is a wonderful thing to be a leaf in the stream. This is where a lot of true joy comes from.
stupid sexist men like this bimbos
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Proof your writing before you use the word stupid