I think I would have liked a swimsuit more
- He is jealous of you (projects his guilt)
- Affections can become very strong (based out of guilt or heightened sexuality)
- Affections can become very weak (his attractions are elsewhere, none left for you)
- Change in appearance, starts caring about his body (trying be more attractive for “her”)
- Starts seeing “friends” that you don’t know and can’t check on
- Uses the word friend more often (so he can minimize lying)
- Repeats the same story or assumes he already told you
- Gift item shows up like underwear, cologne, watch, wallet, etc ( standard guy gift)
- Starts calling you more often (guilt based and also to make it seem like he is giving you your attention quota)
- Can’t answer or talk on suspicious evenings like Fri or Sat night (huge indicator)
- Drops a new female friends name by accident (she is on his mind and he can stop thinking about her)
- Strange behavior in sleep! Sleep talks about strange things (also another huge indicator, points at obsession with someone new)
- Has condoms that are disappearing (is he trafficking cocaine??)
- Has condoms in strange places, like travel bag or business trip (can mean he is seeing prostitutes but also could be seeing a few girls)
- Texting, IMing “friends” more often than before
- Reduction in eye contact when asking about suspicious situations (like the weekend he was supposed to be skiing with “friends”)
- He started password protecting his phone and or computer (smart enough to know you will snoop)
- Has a new “guy” friend he talks about (probably a her and his mental obsession needs an outlet)
- Dirty clothing in hamper smells of another girl (easy one to spot since he wont think about covering up dirty clothing)
- The obvious, foundation on his shirt, lipstick, hair clip, etc (the girl he is messing around with subconsciously wants to send you a message)
- Body marks, bites, scratches in odd places that he couldn’t reach (be careful here, I scratch myself all the time and it looks very suspect)
- Has seen movies already that you haven’t seen with him especially new releases
- He is on ashleymadison.com or adultfriendfinder.com or any dating site (some guys so stupid to use their real name)
- Passenger seat in his car is different but not “guy” different
- Turns off his phone when he is with you (he probably does it when he is with her too)
This list works for guys or girls!
The reason I know so many of these is because I have been on both sides of the equation.
As much as you may hate to hear it, cheating is pretty common. It does not bother me anymore and I almost expect it. With that said, I also value knowing when it is going on.
I DO NOT approve of digging in personal things and will NEVER look in someone’s phone or computer but more on that the next post…
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wow, awesome points made here Michael and most are very accurate.
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Most are accurate!?
hmmm
I’ve experienced #2, 3 with my guy. He turns his cell phone ringer off when ever he’s with me, but then again, I do the same, so as to not be disturbed. He also has a land line phone that he uses a lot & usually has the ringer turned off as well.
I can’t say for sure, because I’m a very suspicious person by nature, but I figure if he’s seeing another girl, he must be doing a lot of explaining to her. I usually see him at least once a during the week and I am with him usually all weekend. When we see each other either him or I are staying over at one another’s place and we live almost an hour from one another. We both go to the gym a lot, so I know on the nights I don’t see him, he heads to the gym…but, there are definitely nights he can get away with seeing someone because I don’t talk to him every day.
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Hi i have a question to ask. i had my boyfriend over lastnight and while i was making dinner he was getting txt messages i asked him who it was and he said it was (the name) a friend of his. I said oh ok. Although he didn’t pause when i asked him but i still got a bad feeling about it. Well this morning at about 5:30 or so he got a message again I know for a fact it wasn’t his alarm that went off because i know the sound of his cell phone alarm and i know it wasn’t his mom that called or txted him either because his mom has a different ring tone. It was the same ring tone that was ringing lastnight when he was getting txted by this person. Although he says he would be honest with me i have my doupts cus the other night he told me he had this feeling that i was thinking that he was cheeting on me. I noticed that after he started and durring the txting he started getting really affectionate with me he usually can’t take his hands off me but i don’t know it felt for so lastnight and the last past few day’s too.
What is going on can you help me…. thanks Hanna
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Tough one Hanna, sounds like he is showing a few of the signs I talked about!
The problem with this is that you really don’t want to make an assumption so dangerous. If you are wrong it could damage the relationship.
I would ask myself something first, “am I a drama queen? am I creating this? if you can answer no to that, then ask yourself, Is he being dishonest about something? If your knee jerk is “yes” than you might have something.
I would back off for a little while, if he pursues you to find out what is wrong I would confront him with it and watch how he reacts. If he remains a bit suspicious ask him to show you the text and explain your fears.
If this is done well and without too much emotion, it can create a stronger bond than what you currently have.
Good luck!
The reason why i have had my doupts is because he kinda backed off for a while then the holiday’s came around and he was not around at all (family issues), although him and i would talk alot on the phone but still i didn’t see him at all. Then he sees me for the first time since 2 day’s before christmas and he is all over me. I kinda feel that he is feeling bad bout something and who knows maybe he was or even is seeing someone else and maybe he found out that he didn’t care for her as much as he does for me and now he is trying to make it up to me by treating me really good cuz he screwed up. I’m also thinking that maybe he did see someone else and just doesn’t know how to get rid of her. i don’t know i just feel like he is being to hands on with me as if he did do something wrong and doens’t know how to make it up for it with my, “you know”. Also when i txt him it takes forever to txt me back but lastnight when this so called friend (so and so) txted him he was quick to answer. this morning also. Although after the txt this morning he was like i said all hands on with me….
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