Comments on: We just broke up – It hurts so badly, how do I fall out of love with him? – Part 1 of 2 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/we-just-broke-up-%e2%80%93-it-hurts-so-badly-how-do-i-fall-out-of-love-with-him-part-1-of-2/ Dating advice for women and men Wed, 01 Feb 2012 09:02:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Anamika http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/we-just-broke-up-%e2%80%93-it-hurts-so-badly-how-do-i-fall-out-of-love-with-him-part-1-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-6462 Anamika Wed, 21 Dec 2011 06:18:51 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1110#comment-6462 The emotional turmoils of Breakups are extremely difficult to handle, but then one has to deal with it and move on with life. Breaking all contacts and clearing up all reminders of your ex should be the first things one should do after the break up. It is not that easy especially if it was a long term relationship and you have several good memories together. But that has to be done if you want to be happy again and attract love to your life. Concentrating on new hobbies is a very good idea to deal with a break up. However, I do not believe in Rebound Relationships to deal with the pain of a break up as it would only bring more hurt and pain later. I am of the opinion not to date again till you heal your self completely and is ready to move on with life. The emotional turmoils of Breakups are extremely difficult to handle, but then one has to deal with it and move on with life. Breaking all contacts and clearing up all reminders of your ex should be the first things one should do after the break up. It is not that easy especially if it was a long term relationship and you have several good memories together. But that has to be done if you want to be happy again and attract love to your life. Concentrating on new hobbies is a very good idea to deal with a break up. However, I do not believe in Rebound Relationships to deal with the pain of a break up as it would only bring more hurt and pain later. I am of the opinion not to date again till you heal your self completely and is ready to move on with life.

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]]> By: Janice T http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/we-just-broke-up-%e2%80%93-it-hurts-so-badly-how-do-i-fall-out-of-love-with-him-part-1-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-5347 Janice T Wed, 11 Aug 2010 20:43:31 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1110#comment-5347 Hi there. I would like to contribute to the healing here. My I remind everyone: that there is a very specific chemical involved here, and that chemical is oxytocin. Look it up - it's the chemical that makes you fall for someone (he's got you at that kiss, which starts releasing it), and when that someone is gone, it makes you feel like your throat's been ripped out (girls, mostly. Guys, not so much.) Now, all those ideas in the article are gat, but what if you can't even go to work, or you're not eating? is there a magic bullet? Why, yes Virginia, there is! It's called: testosterone. Testosterone? Whaaa? Yup. That's the reason why guys bond less and have fewer break-up psychoses (sorry girls, it's true, we get psycho a lot with oxytocin overload). testosterone competes with oxytocin for receptor sites. Now, where can you lay your manicured mitts of some of this stuff? Wel fist, you're going to need to see an endocrinologist. try to pick one whose specialty is older women and transvestites - they're more open minded and sympathetic to women using T. They'll check you out, and give you a prescription for a tiny, lady-sized dosage therapy. It might be a skin patch, it might be a skin gel, or they might put a tiny, mini T pill under the skin on your butt. Results: a clearer head, more energy, less debilitating sadness over dude face, and a far lustier libido! Suddenly, you'll understand guys much, much better: you'll want sex 3 -4 times a day! Now there's a problem worth having! You're welcome. ;) Hi there.

I would like to contribute to the healing here.

My I remind everyone: that there is a very specific chemical involved here, and that chemical is oxytocin. Look it up – it’s the chemical that makes you fall for someone (he’s got you at that kiss, which starts releasing it), and when that someone is gone, it makes you feel like your throat’s been ripped out (girls, mostly. Guys, not so much.)

Now, all those ideas in the article are gat, but what if you can’t even go to work, or you’re not eating? is there a magic bullet? Why, yes Virginia, there is! It’s called: testosterone.

Testosterone? Whaaa? Yup. That’s the reason why guys bond less and have fewer break-up psychoses (sorry girls, it’s true, we get psycho a lot with oxytocin overload). testosterone competes with oxytocin for receptor sites.

Now, where can you lay your manicured mitts of some of this stuff? Wel fist, you’re going to need to see an endocrinologist. try to pick one whose specialty is older women and transvestites – they’re more open minded and sympathetic to women using T. They’ll check you out, and give you a prescription for a tiny, lady-sized dosage therapy. It might be a skin patch, it might be a skin gel, or they might put a tiny, mini T pill under the skin on your butt.

Results: a clearer head, more energy, less debilitating sadness over dude face, and a far lustier libido! Suddenly, you’ll understand guys much, much better: you’ll want sex 3 -4 times a day! Now there’s a problem worth having!

You’re welcome. ;)

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]]> By: Please help me, How do I fall out of love with her? | MasterDater http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/we-just-broke-up-%e2%80%93-it-hurts-so-badly-how-do-i-fall-out-of-love-with-him-part-1-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1975 Please help me, How do I fall out of love with her? | MasterDater Thu, 28 Jan 2010 18:01:23 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1110#comment-1975 [...] So Cal and in a lot of pain. Didn’t have to edit his letter, bright guy. I read your article My Heart Is Broke, How Do I Fall Out of Love?, I loved it but I need some further [...] [...] So Cal and in a lot of pain. Didn’t have to edit his letter, bright guy. I read your article My Heart Is Broke, How Do I Fall Out of Love?, I loved it but I need some further [...]

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]]> By: Jillian http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/we-just-broke-up-%e2%80%93-it-hurts-so-badly-how-do-i-fall-out-of-love-with-him-part-1-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1297 Jillian Fri, 06 Nov 2009 05:56:41 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1110#comment-1297 @Betty "Keeping the hope" is his way of keeping you on the backburner until he decides he is ready to move on. You don't have to allow him to do the decision making here. You move on when you are ready. Not him. I like that you used the word fantasy. It signals to me that you understand that a coming back together of the two of you as you were isn't realistic and a change would have to take place for that to happen. Awesome thoughts there. @Shannon Reframing is a cognitive behavioral term and it's one of my favorites. A way of finding the silver lining in the pile of poo, so to speak. No relationship is a waste and it sounds like you have already grown tremendously. :) .-= Jillian´s last blog ..<a href="http://blueshelled.com/2009/11/05/thats-my-boy/" rel="nofollow">That’s my boy</a> =-. @Betty “Keeping the hope” is his way of keeping you on the backburner until he decides he is ready to move on. You don’t have to allow him to do the decision making here. You move on when you are ready. Not him. I like that you used the word fantasy. It signals to me that you understand that a coming back together of the two of you as you were isn’t realistic and a change would have to take place for that to happen. Awesome thoughts there.

@Shannon Reframing is a cognitive behavioral term and it’s one of my favorites. A way of finding the silver lining in the pile of poo, so to speak. No relationship is a waste and it sounds like you have already grown tremendously. :)
Jillian´s last blog ..That’s my boy My ComLuv Profile

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]]> By: Betty http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/we-just-broke-up-%e2%80%93-it-hurts-so-badly-how-do-i-fall-out-of-love-with-him-part-1-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1263 Betty Thu, 29 Oct 2009 23:28:21 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1110#comment-1263 Mike, I'll look forward for that article, because that's what happened to me. I did want some form of commitment, but he wouldn't have it. And as I know we can't change people nor control them, I had to take the painful decision of breaking up, eventhough I -still, stubbornly- love him. He was my first love, so I'm having a hard time moving on and letting go the fantasy of him coming back to me. Luckily, I'll feel better following your advice. Mike, I’ll look forward for that article, because that’s what happened to me.
I did want some form of commitment, but he wouldn’t have it. And as I know we can’t change people nor control them, I had to take the painful decision of breaking up, eventhough I -still, stubbornly- love him.
He was my first love, so I’m having a hard time moving on and letting go the fantasy of him coming back to me. Luckily, I’ll feel better following your advice.

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]]> By: We just broke up – It hurts so badly, how do I fall out of love with him? - Part 2 of 2 : MasterDater http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/we-just-broke-up-%e2%80%93-it-hurts-so-badly-how-do-i-fall-out-of-love-with-him-part-1-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1261 We just broke up – It hurts so badly, how do I fall out of love with him? - Part 2 of 2 : MasterDater Thu, 29 Oct 2009 21:04:12 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1110#comment-1261 [...] This is a continuation click here for part 1 [...] [...] This is a continuation click here for part 1 [...]

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]]> By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/we-just-broke-up-%e2%80%93-it-hurts-so-badly-how-do-i-fall-out-of-love-with-him-part-1-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1252 Mike Masters Tue, 27 Oct 2009 16:24:49 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1110#comment-1252 Hey Lily I think this might be a good topic for a post. When is it time to move on? Guys often don't want to take the next step and women must be prepared to let them go if they don't receive what they deserve. Good luck with moving on and remember you owe me another comment! Hey Lily
I think this might be a good topic for a post. When is it time to move on? Guys often don’t want to take the next step and women must be prepared to let them go if they don’t receive what they deserve.
Good luck with moving on and remember you owe me another comment!

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]]> By: lily http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/we-just-broke-up-%e2%80%93-it-hurts-so-badly-how-do-i-fall-out-of-love-with-him-part-1-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1251 lily Tue, 27 Oct 2009 01:22:56 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1110#comment-1251 Oh yeah please post part soon lol. I wish humans had an off switch, cos atm, I really want to just switch off my emotions. Just for awhile. I have finals this week and I can't concentrate at all (that's why I'm putting off the break up until after exams...Is that sad or what?) Oh yeah please post part soon lol. I wish humans had an off switch, cos atm, I really want to just switch off my emotions. Just for awhile. I have finals this week and I can’t concentrate at all (that’s why I’m putting off the break up until after exams…Is that sad or what?)

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]]> By: lily http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/we-just-broke-up-%e2%80%93-it-hurts-so-badly-how-do-i-fall-out-of-love-with-him-part-1-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1250 lily Tue, 27 Oct 2009 01:19:02 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1110#comment-1250 It's ironic you posted this posted just when I'm needing it the most. I haven't yet ended the relationship yet, but am planning to. Sad thing is I still love him as much as ever, and it's my decision to end it due to my realisation that nothing will change, and I don't want to be stuck in the same cycle again and again. Circumstances can not be overcome, so I'm just going to let go (I've tried quite a few times...But this time I'm determined to move on). It's going to be one of the hardest things I'll ever have to do... And will hurt so much. Oh god... I'm feeling horrible just thinking about it, but it's for the best. Hope I can take your advice and use it to move on with life. It’s ironic you posted this posted just when I’m needing it the most. I haven’t yet ended the relationship yet, but am planning to. Sad thing is I still love him as much as ever, and it’s my decision to end it due to my realisation that nothing will change, and I don’t want to be stuck in the same cycle again and again. Circumstances can not be overcome, so I’m just going to let go (I’ve tried quite a few times…But this time I’m determined to move on).
It’s going to be one of the hardest things I’ll ever have to do… And will hurt so much.
Oh god… I’m feeling horrible just thinking about it, but it’s for the best.
Hope I can take your advice and use it to move on with life.

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]]> By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/we-just-broke-up-%e2%80%93-it-hurts-so-badly-how-do-i-fall-out-of-love-with-him-part-1-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1249 Mike Masters Tue, 27 Oct 2009 00:30:10 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1110#comment-1249 Excellent comment Shannon. It is much better to have loved and lost, there is so much we gain in the process. Excellent comment Shannon. It is much better to have loved and lost, there is so much we gain in the process.

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]]> By: Shannon http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/we-just-broke-up-%e2%80%93-it-hurts-so-badly-how-do-i-fall-out-of-love-with-him-part-1-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1248 Shannon Mon, 26 Oct 2009 23:38:27 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1110#comment-1248 Hi Mike, It's been about 4 months for me and although the pain is less, it is still very hard. :( But I do have to say that with all of the breakups I go through I definitely use "reframing." Basically I look at everything in the relationship and figure out what it has taught me--fears I overcame, new hobbies I picked up, people I met because of it, etc. It definitely helps to make me feel like that despite the breakup, the relationship was not a waste. .-= Shannon´s last blog ..<a href="http://agirlsgottaspa.com/blog/2009/10/stephanie-sharp-breast-cancer-survivor/" rel="nofollow">Stephanie Sharp: Breast Cancer Survivor</a> =-. Hi Mike, It’s been about 4 months for me and although the pain is less, it is still very hard. :(

But I do have to say that with all of the breakups I go through I definitely use “reframing.” Basically I look at everything in the relationship and figure out what it has taught me–fears I overcame, new hobbies I picked up, people I met because of it, etc. It definitely helps to make me feel like that despite the breakup, the relationship was not a waste.
Shannon´s last blog ..Stephanie Sharp: Breast Cancer Survivor My ComLuv Profile

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]]> By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/we-just-broke-up-%e2%80%93-it-hurts-so-badly-how-do-i-fall-out-of-love-with-him-part-1-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1247 Mike Masters Mon, 26 Oct 2009 22:31:00 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1110#comment-1247 Glad you came by Betty, I hope that others will give you some of their sage advice! Glad you came by Betty, I hope that others will give you some of their sage advice!

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]]> By: Betty http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/we-just-broke-up-%e2%80%93-it-hurts-so-badly-how-do-i-fall-out-of-love-with-him-part-1-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1246 Betty Mon, 26 Oct 2009 21:31:38 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1110#comment-1246 Thank you for this article :) I really needed some advice for dealing with my breakup. I broke contact with him just after the breakup -deleting him off my messenger and Facebook because I know myself and I didn't want to be looking for him, but still I wrote him three emails (no more, I swear). He wasn't very responsive although he was the one asking me to "keep the hope", so I get the hint, he's no longer interested in me. That should make things easier for me, but it still hurts. I'll be sticking to your advice and let time do its thing... Thank you for this article :)
I really needed some advice for dealing with my breakup.

I broke contact with him just after the breakup -deleting him off my messenger and Facebook because I know myself and I didn’t want to be looking for him, but still I wrote him three emails (no more, I swear). He wasn’t very responsive although he was the one asking me to “keep the hope”, so I get the hint, he’s no longer interested in me. That should make things easier for me, but it still hurts. I’ll be sticking to your advice and let time do its thing…

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