Comments on: The book He’s just not that into you annoys the hell out of me http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/ Dating advice for women and men Wed, 01 Feb 2012 09:02:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: The Blue Lotus http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-6088 The Blue Lotus Mon, 22 Aug 2011 14:41:45 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-6088 I agree with what Mike is saying about the book and I'd like to add... It's a giant over simplification! @QTMama... I have to give LC some credit. I have found it to be a real bitch telling a guy I'm not into him. My personal experience has show that atleast 80% of the time the guy says something nasty and mean after you tell him. Those great big fragile male egos we have all heard about, I guess... But I keep doing it because it's the right thing to do, I hate it when guys Houdini on me and... Of course it's how I would like to be treated as well. I agree with what Mike is saying about the book and I’d like to add… It’s a giant over simplification!

@QTMama… I have to give LC some credit. I have found it to be a real bitch telling a guy I’m not into him. My personal experience has show that atleast 80% of the time the guy says something nasty and mean after you tell him. Those great big fragile male egos we have all heard about, I guess… But I keep doing it because it’s the right thing to do, I hate it when guys Houdini on me and… Of course it’s how I would like to be treated as well.

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]]> By: 25 signs to know, he is NOT into you - part 1 : MasterDater http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1520 25 signs to know, he is NOT into you - part 1 : MasterDater Wed, 02 Dec 2009 18:24:18 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-1520 [...] BTW if you would like to read what I thought of the really shitty book He’s just not that into you, click here. [...] [...] BTW if you would like to read what I thought of the really shitty book He’s just not that into you, click here. [...]

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]]> By: Cara http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-574 Cara Wed, 06 May 2009 04:03:27 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-574 Okay, I was busy for a few days and may be hopping on here late, but I may be like the gal that's just not that into you. During that time I was raising my son, working full time and going to school full time. I knew that I didn't have the time to fully develop a relationship that would be meaningful. I had also gone through a major heartbreak and knew that I needed time to come back to myself. But a gal's gotta have fun too, right? So I kept it vague, returned calls if I was bored and only saw a guy at my convenience. Not one met my son or "stayed over" or anything like that. The guy was never a true contender for my heart, no matter if he was hot, rich and nice (and I did let one go who fit all those). Sometimes it is true that they may just not be that into you regardless of your perfection! Okay, I was busy for a few days and may be hopping on here late, but I may be like the gal that’s just not that into you. During that time I was raising my son, working full time and going to school full time. I knew that I didn’t have the time to fully develop a relationship that would be meaningful. I had also gone through a major heartbreak and knew that I needed time to come back to myself. But a gal’s gotta have fun too, right? So I kept it vague, returned calls if I was bored and only saw a guy at my convenience. Not one met my son or “stayed over” or anything like that. The guy was never a true contender for my heart, no matter if he was hot, rich and nice (and I did let one go who fit all those). Sometimes it is true that they may just not be that into you regardless of your perfection!

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]]> By: Amanda http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-569 Amanda Mon, 04 May 2009 23:08:05 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-569 @roadtripmama LOL... I'll have a copy of that checklist when your done! @roadtripmama LOL… I’ll have a copy of that checklist when your done!

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]]> By: Amanda http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-568 Amanda Mon, 04 May 2009 23:07:00 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-568 @Mike Oh I don't intend to give up.. retreat and regroup maybe but not give up. :) Hmm gotcha loud and clear about the man leading just slightly. Can't help myself sometimes.. I do the leading at work and it flows over. @Mike Oh I don’t intend to give up.. retreat and regroup maybe but not give up. :) Hmm gotcha loud and clear about the man leading just slightly. Can’t help myself sometimes.. I do the leading at work and it flows over.

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]]> By: roadtripmama http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-567 roadtripmama Mon, 04 May 2009 18:38:22 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-567 You're right, women have dishonesty issues as well. But going back to what you said, how could I be "forewarned"...Do I hand the guy a checklist upon meeting him and ask him to fill it out? And who is to say if he would be honest on THAT? What does the list ask...Does your father lie to his mother? Do you really like chick flics? Define the word "love". And if I were forewarned, how do I determine if this guys is worth the work? So much does not come out in a personality for the first 5 years, and then your in it up to your ears - invested - and see, wow, this is going to take a lot of work. What was I thinking? What do you do at that point? I don't think forewarned would help. Jumping with both feet not knowing might be better - You’re right, women have dishonesty issues as well. But going back to what you said, how could I be “forewarned”…Do I hand the guy a checklist upon meeting him and ask him to fill it out? And who is to say if he would be honest on THAT? What does the list ask…Does your father lie to his mother? Do you really like chick flics? Define the word “love”. And if I were forewarned, how do I determine if this guys is worth the work? So much does not come out in a personality for the first 5 years, and then your in it up to your ears – invested – and see, wow, this is going to take a lot of work. What was I thinking? What do you do at that point? I don’t think forewarned would help. Jumping with both feet not knowing might be better -

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]]> By: Sha http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-566 Sha Mon, 04 May 2009 17:33:10 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-566 "Ultimately though it’s about “you can’t change others; you can only change yourself.” Love it love it! “Ultimately though it’s about “you can’t change others; you can only change yourself.”

Love it love it!

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]]> By: Jillian http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-565 Jillian Mon, 04 May 2009 16:11:45 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-565 As long as you give me credit for being brilliant and gorgeous, I'm all for it. Mainly the gorgeous part. I just like to hear it. I already know I have a brain. As long as you give me credit for being brilliant and gorgeous, I’m all for it.

Mainly the gorgeous part. I just like to hear it. I already know I have a brain.

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]]> By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-564 Mike Masters Mon, 04 May 2009 14:58:25 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-564 okay got access to a wifi! @tqween/mom @jillian The cowardly lion, that is really good. I think I might use that. Isn't fear interesting? both men and women are paralyzed by it. I think you could boil down about every relationship problem to fear. I have to admit I fight it all the time too. Should I stay with her, should I break up??? I get stuck in the middle because I am afraid of what I might lose. So I will force myself to choose. You all might hear about it soon. @QT I heart my mom too @roadtripmamma If a man is an axe murderer I would not ask you to excuse his behavior, I would however encourage you to stay away from him! Unfortunately though so many men have honesty issues when it comes to relationships. So my point is that if you are forewarned of this inadequacy you very might very well be able to catch him in his BS. If this is so you might also be able to teach him to be a better man. In defense of men though women have just as man dishonesty issues! but in this particular area men reign. @Amanda The balance might take a while to feel. I would let the man lead just slightly. I am guessing that you giving up might be part of the problem. Are you beating him to the rejection? (P.S. it is totally okay to suck at something but not okay to give up) okay got access to a wifi!
@tqween/mom
@jillian The cowardly lion, that is really good. I think I might use that.
Isn’t fear interesting? both men and women are paralyzed by it. I think you could boil down about every relationship problem to fear. I have to admit I fight it all the time too. Should I stay with her, should I break up??? I get stuck in the middle because I am afraid of what I might lose. So I will force myself to choose. You all might hear about it soon.
@QT I heart my mom too
@roadtripmamma If a man is an axe murderer I would not ask you to excuse his behavior, I would however encourage you to stay away from him! Unfortunately though so many men have honesty issues when it comes to relationships. So my point is that if you are forewarned of this inadequacy you very might very well be able to catch him in his BS. If this is so you might also be able to teach him to be a better man.
In defense of men though women have just as man dishonesty issues! but in this particular area men reign.
@Amanda The balance might take a while to feel. I would let the man lead just slightly. I am guessing that you giving up might be part of the problem. Are you beating him to the rejection? (P.S. it is totally okay to suck at something but not okay to give up)

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]]> By: Mikethemaaterdater http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-562 Mikethemaaterdater Mon, 04 May 2009 06:41:17 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-562 I really want to respond! But I am in San diego about to go to sea world! I will respond soon when I have something better than an iPhone! Take care everyone! I really want to respond! But I am in San diego about to go to sea world! I will respond soon when I have something better than an iPhone! Take care everyone!

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]]> By: Amanda http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-561 Amanda Mon, 04 May 2009 04:59:04 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-561 BTW I did like the movie, as a movie though, not as a dating bible! BTW I did like the movie, as a movie though, not as a dating bible!

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]]> By: Amanda http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-560 Amanda Mon, 04 May 2009 04:57:11 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-560 Oh hell. I just have a problem with this whole relationship balance thing... pull back, go forward.. pull back. If a guy likes me, 9 times out of 10 I don't like him. If I like a guy then things seem to go ok and then he pulls back after a few dates and I usually just give up LOL. It gets confusing.. when to pull back and when to go forward. I think it is human nature this relationship balance struggle but I find I suck at it! hehe my two NZ cents worth. Oh hell. I just have a problem with this whole relationship balance thing… pull back, go forward.. pull back. If a guy likes me, 9 times out of 10 I don’t like him. If I like a guy then things seem to go ok and then he pulls back after a few dates and I usually just give up LOL.

It gets confusing.. when to pull back and when to go forward. I think it is human nature this relationship balance struggle but I find I suck at it!

hehe my two NZ cents worth.

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]]> By: tqween http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-559 tqween Mon, 04 May 2009 04:55:46 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-559 Oh yes, truly it is about honesty. You are right. Mike! Why should we have to accept a guy's dishonesty? Are you making excuses for men not taking responsibility? I think you're saying don't try to fight it, just understand it, that men are really wimps inside and it's tough for them. But it's tough for us too. Maybe men have to understand how ripped up we feel and accept this and understand it? Ultimately though it's about "you can't change others; you can only change yourself." Oh yes, truly it is about honesty. You are right. Mike! Why should we have to accept a guy’s dishonesty? Are you making excuses for men not taking responsibility?
I think you’re saying don’t try to fight it, just understand it, that men are really wimps inside and it’s tough for them. But it’s tough for us too. Maybe men have to understand how ripped up we feel and accept this and understand it?
Ultimately though it’s about “you can’t change others; you can only change yourself.”

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]]> By: roadtripmama http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-558 roadtripmama Mon, 04 May 2009 04:15:03 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-558 mens inadequacies are not an excuse for their behavior (dishonesty in relationships), and while we can't change them, they are capable of changing themselves...if they really are invested. We need to be willing to walk from the relationship and see ourselves as not dependent on the guy. I am most upset about what you said about traffic in LA...I've been yelling all this time and it's not doing me any good????? mens inadequacies are not an excuse for their behavior (dishonesty in relationships), and while we can’t change them, they are capable of changing themselves…if they really are invested. We need to be willing to walk from the relationship and see ourselves as not dependent on the guy.

I am most upset about what you said about traffic in LA…I’ve been yelling all this time and it’s not doing me any good?????

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]]> By: tqween http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-557 tqween Mon, 04 May 2009 04:08:55 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-557 Ninety year old men haven't grown their balls and we haven't grown ours either, whatever the equivalent would be (Ovaries?) No matter how old we are. I think it's kind of human nature to not want to step up and do the really responsible but difficult thing don't you? It's tough to leave a bad relationship and tough to be the one to break up. Funny, it's easier to leave a bad job but then maybe our hormones aren't as involved. Ninety year old men haven’t grown their balls and we haven’t grown ours either, whatever the equivalent would be (Ovaries?) No matter how old we are. I think it’s kind of human nature to not want to step up and do the really responsible but difficult thing don’t you? It’s tough to leave a bad relationship and tough to be the one to break up. Funny, it’s easier to leave a bad job but then maybe our hormones aren’t as involved.

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]]> By: QTMama http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/attraction/the-book-he%e2%80%99s-just-not-that-into-you-annoys-the-hell-out-of-me/comment-page-1/#comment-556 QTMama Mon, 04 May 2009 02:30:49 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=671#comment-556 Also, I have to throw in there, I let out a big ass sigh when I read that even sixty year old men don't haven't grown their balls yet. Sheesh. Also, I have to throw in there, I let out a big ass sigh when I read that even sixty year old men don’t haven’t grown their balls yet. Sheesh.

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