Are you avoiding me?
Setting you up
This one makes me laugh when it happens to me. The person into me all of a sudden gets very interested in setting me up with their friends. This is because the interested person is either in a relationship or is too nervous to go for it.
One of the most memorable times for me was when someone I was very attracted to set up a double date for the two of us. We ended up ditching the other two and going home together. Ironically so did the other couple.
Being openly angry and combative with you.
I love this one because it is so much fun to spot.
“What is your fucking problem??” I felt a bit taken aback because the response was so much stronger than stimulus. Two hours later she attacked me in the hallway on the way to the bathroom and it was not with her fists.
If I had not experienced this a few times before I would have been a bit confused. This usually happens because the person attracted does not like their attraction, it conflicts with their beliefs and they lash out. The other I see is when two people take up the same ecological niche in a group. In other words they are too similar and butt heads. This kind of attraction is a whole lot of fun and usually leads to good sex that rarely lasts.
Avoiding you every chance they get
Quite the opposite of the above reaction and is very very hard to read since they very well might just dislike you. This usually occurs when they are in a relationship or have a morality clash with you. They avoid you simply because they don’t want to temp the donut eating fat person inside by walking past Krispy Kremes. Once you figure this one out all you have to do is show up with your luscious self and radiate the temptation.
Sex talk/sex stories
I think this is more of a guy thing than a girl one. If a guys is into a girl he will often discuss his fantasies in the open by sharing inappropriate stories. Little does he know that this is often as attractive as him having dog poop on his shoe. However if you understand what he is doing and your reciprocate that attraction you can ride it out until he becomes a little more sane. If you are a guy… she is probably either really perverted or very into you.
I like to have fun with this one by pointing it out. “Do you really think talking about sex all the time is going to turn me on and get me to sleep with you??” This role reversal comment usually leads to a punch and some pretty heavy eye rolling. Bring on the game!!
Pointless questions
The first time I encountered this one was walking on my college campus while reading a book. A guy with a lean medium build and dark features walked up to me, “excuse me, do you know what time it is?” He stared at me with an intensity that made my soul blush. I glanced back after looking at my watch “about 2:30” I said oblivious. He stared at me a little longer as if the judge whether or not I understood, then walked away. This is when I caught he was wearing a watch.
I figured out later that the question was more of a safe test to see if I would respond to him the same way he responded to me. Since I was not gay it didn’t work very well but it saved both of us the discomfort of rejection.
When he or she walks up to you to ask you something they are either not interested in or know the answer to they have an agenda. Granted it may be just to be friendly but more often than no they are being wrestled into speaking by their genitals and genitals never know what to say.
Using the opposite sex to draw you in
This takes on multiple guises but the most common is talking to an attractive member of the opposite sex in your vicinity. This is a bit easier to spot but you have to be aware that they might kinda sorta be into you. There is someone I used to date that would constantly pull this on me. I already knew she was into me but she would do silly things like call guys when she was with me or tell me about guys she was into when we went out. I remember once she proudly told me she showed her breasts to my roommate. Apparently this was in response to me talking to and laughing with a pretty blond.
This tactic can be very confusing because it seems to communicate the opposite. However they are clearly trying to inspire interest by creating possible loss. They are showing you how popular the are with the opposite sex and you need to step up to keep them!
I have always spotted this one by the other person monitoring my reaction, which of course was only a smile.
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I like the telling of an embarrassing story to judge whether or not they can get a laugh. For example, “I watch iCarly.”
No, for real, I do. It started as watching it with my son, but if it’s on, I’m half tuned in now.
You are all totally into me now, right?
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I was into you before you ever told the story
Me and all the other folks here you big flirt!
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Ha! In my part of Chicago, if someone stops you with a pointless question–like asking the time when they have a watch–it’s because they want to mug you (or worse–ladies be *very* careful!). I guess that’s just a different kind of attraction–they’re checking to see if you’re as gullible as you look and stupid enough to stop!
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Wait a second–that guy who asked you the time was at *Westmont*???? Man, he had cojones in choosing that school if he was gay. And on top of that he has good taste!
Gotta respect someone like that…
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No shit about chicago!? that sucks, well I am talking about a little more of a safe environment.
Was it as Westmont? Nope, it was at UC Davis. A little more accepting than Westmont for anal sex and sausage fencing.
No shit, really–at least about the South Side, where I live. And, of course, being naive, I learned the hard way (but not the worst way, thank God!!!), but he only got seven bucks and that was years and years ago. I learned quickly and don’t stop for stupid questions anymore. It would be *much* less scary if someone cute asked me the time in a bookstore or cafe, except that I don’t wear a watch… Hmm, I suppose that should tip me off, huh?
UC Davis makes way more sense! I was having trouble wrapping my head around Westmont for that community.
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This is fuckn awesome! The guy I like is shit [in a gud way if that confuses you
] he knows i like him and flirts wit my friend bestie, but i just smile which pisses him off most the time but its funny to me! Plus she doesnt like him anyways shes got two guys [i luv my hoe friend]
AHA! and the poinless questions LMAO my philosophy!
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That sounded so gay when I said my pholosophy was that BUt I meant LIKE LITERALLY i ask pointless questions to see if he will answer anyways.
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