Creating sexual tension
I have wanted to write about Sexual Tension forever, and after reading Jack’s most recent post on creating excellent sex I decided it was time to dive into this war-pig of a topic.
- Why do you want to fuck the bad boy? the bitch?
- Why would a man be aroused (secretly?) by the thought of his wife cheating?
- Why did your friend sleep with her married boss?
- Why is cheating as exciting as it is repulsive?
- Why is “adventurous” sex so arousing?
- Why is breakup and make up sex so incredible?
All of this coalesces down to the incredibly powerful force of sexual tension. The THC in the brownie of attraction.
18 and I learn the power of sexual tension
I was sitting in the back row of my welding class when I first saw Linda. I was only 18 and my ego still unformed, produced the word “dike.” Linda had short spiky blond hair, vivid blue eyes, a strong jaw, and a surfer physique. She rarely wore bras and her nipples guiltily drew my eyes as she removed her motorcycle jacket.
Initially I discredited Linda, she didn’t fit what I considered attractive. She was 12 years older than me, probably a lesbian, and looked at me as if I were a child deserving rebuke. Hell, I probably did since she was my professor and I her student.
I was a damn good welder, to many people this doesn’t mean much but welding is art, you have to feel the metal, the heat and flow. You must allow a fluency to develop that is nearly sexual in nature. Linda was the best welder I have ever seen, the beads she would lay down, pure perfection… I found myself admiring Linda and an intense attraction followed.
One night while completing my masturbatory ritual, Linda popped into my brain to finish the job. The next day my orgasm lingered in class and without my knowledge I made a move. She was in my welding booth showing me how to use a 10,000 degree thermalance to dig out a weld when my hand reached out and caressed the side of her leg. Linda’s hand froze; she stopped, flipped up her visor and stared at me. No words passed and she walked away expression unreadable, I nearly took a torch to my treacherous hand.
A week later she approached me, “Mike, you busy on Friday? I need some help with a few things at my studio.” Was I mistaken, or was this a verbal version of my hand on Linda’s leg? “Ah, sure…” her glance lingered for a second, giving me a glimpse into her intentions but I was too young to read the fear and excitement in her eyes.
When I arrived, there was energy in the air, a sexual ozone I could almost taste. I knew why I was there and she knew why she invited me but we danced around the intensity, allowing the awkwardness to build it even further.
After an hour of pretending I summoned the strength to approach her. While she poured me a coffee I walked smoothly behind her, holding her waist, nuzzling my face in the nape of her neck. The tension cracked with the touch and she turned violently with anger in her eyes but lust over powered it.
We made love, no… actually we fucked, for hours and hours releasing all of the month’s tension with each orgasm. Linda finally pushed me off, “Jesus, stop! Damn, I should have taken you home a month ago.” She fell back exhausted to the bed and we fell into a deep post coital sleep.
This is a perfect example of the power of sexual tension. It is also an excellent example of one that is not sustainable. This was more of a junk food, lustful form of it but in the extremes we can understand how and why this tension over powers our rational thought.
In the next few posts I would like to:
1. Explore negative sexual tension and how to circumvent it.
2. Understand positive sexual tension and how to build it
Continue to part two Negative sexual Tension – the Karaoke box
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cycles of tension/release are key. it isn’t about conflict, that’s in our marrow. it’s about resolution, that’s not as easy. getting along can be over rated as long as you know how to resolve. great stuff, fun story. looking forward to seeing how this develops.
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Jack you are so right, as usual!
Tension and release, the only problem is; the tension, is it sustainable? or is a one time release? (which can be fun in it’s own right)
I’m hot just reading this…
I will be waiting with baited breath for the next two. Their timing is impeccable.
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I got a little hot remembering it again! I should have added the fact that I might have been 17. Even more fuel thrown on the sexual fire.
Usher makes me wanna ‘leave the one I’m with….” and you make me wanna learn to weld! Bravo. Great topic, waiting for part II.
nandoism´s last blog ..The 5 Types of Dating/Relationship Bloggers
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It would seem like the act of light physical touching or kinesthetics is the key to creating that sexual tension. Probably one of the reasons seduction gurus put some much emphasis on kino early in an interaction, it starts the whole sexual tension process.
Matt Savage´s last blog ..The Erection Story
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The gurus are talking about a type of unsustainable tension. I don’t think especially highly of such tactics and I feel they are a bit cheap. However, if the situation calls for it I will touch but only after the attraction is built on healthier soil first.
How is it that every girl just falls prey to your whims? There has to have been some girl who told you no. Is it just that we never hear about them?
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No no…!
I talk about that all the time! Maybe you haven’t read those posts before?
I have had so many failures I can’t count! in fact you could count all of my relationships failures to one degree or another.
That was one sexy post! But also very much a tease post. All part of the tension, I believe
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Me??? use tension to get you to read the next post? never…
Can’t wait for part 2!
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It will be even more spicy but full of sugar and trans fats!
Yay! These blogs are gonna be fun to read. There was so much sexual tension between me and this guy, who had a girlfriend, it was unbelievable. It was great sex and so thrilling, ahh
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that is a great example of negative tension, very hard to resist!
Nice.
And the funny thing about it, you can’t predict who you’ll have it with. Funny how that works, eh?
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Experienced something like this recently. Wow… Didn’t see it coming.
Lord, this post really makes me wish that I had more sexual tension in my life. I eagerly await the post about positive sexual tension and how to build it! I don’t care that everyone says that Paris is the city of love, I have not once felt the desire to be ravished by the diminutive Parisians that I encounter on a daily basis. I’d forgotten that sexual tension exists, how sad. Perhaps I should enroll in a welding class?
I’m new to your blog, but I’m sold. I will now go back and read all your archived posts. I am clearly in need of your expertise! Keep ‘em coming!
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Man-Shopper eh?
Thanks for showing up at the blog and I hope you keep reading.
I have been exposed to some radically different cultures over the past 30 years and I can assure you that all the dynamics are the same. The problem is that you are missing a slight piece of the cultural puzzle. You are slightly out of step with the way the french dance. That of course is a tremendous amount of sexual tension in it’s own right!
I envy your position right now. Savor learning the dance and the mistakes along the way. So much fun!!!