Comments on: I am a maneater, how do I stop my addiction!?

By: Guest

Guest — Sun, 14 Nov 2010 18:56:49 +0000

Especially when a girl is well liked by a lot of other guys, a good guy will not even approach her. He’ll assume she’s a sleaze and that there’s too much competition from other guys for him to deal with. And yes, girls suffer more from new partner addiction than guys but a lot of them won’t talk about it because of social shame and possibly violence against them, although though they are biologically programmed to have more partners than guys, even when they are older too (Yup, older women even have lots of guys chasing after them! And they do hop from guy to guy.). But it can do girls a lot of biological harm like STDs and unwanted pregnancies which is the bad part, though.

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By: Mike Masters

Mike Masters — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 22:58:57 +0000

damn… don’t stop!! feed my needy ego!

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By: CREDIT CLEANER

CREDIT CLEANER — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 03:21:25 +0000

I’ll be damned if this isn’t right on the money… damn it Mike, you’ve done it again… where the hell was this blog 10 years ago, I could have saved myself a looooooot of energy.

@ lifebeginsat30ty I assure you this isn’t a problem that you really want to have it can be quite paralyzing.

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By: lifebeginsat30ty

lifebeginsat30ty — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 16:18:37 +0000

Oh to have this problem, lol.
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By: Rose

Rose — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 12:39:47 +0000

Nah it didn’t sound busy.

Yeah those privileges, you get so used to them, you forget that others don’t get them.

And yeah, better to be picky. I think in some ways the more choice the woman can have, the higher on the league she is, the more she is seeking to find a male equivalent – and there are less of them!

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By: Princess T

Princess T — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 09:16:28 +0000

BTW the first part of my comment was supposed to be sarcastic, but I think it just came out bitchy reading it back… sorry.

Anyway, we’re all going to be old one day! :-S
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By: Princess T

Princess T — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 09:01:14 +0000

Either that or it will result in her getting old, not getting attention anymore, and then settling for any man who still pays her the attention she so craves and had become used to in her beautiful youth…

I know what you mean about the attention – I enjoy the privileges afford to the beautiful women. My favourite is not waiting in line to get into any bar, or standing in line to get a taxi… I hate line-ups!

I think when it comes to men I’m just picky so I don’t have a string of boyfriends because I won’t date just anyone. And then I get frustrated because all these “average” girls have boyfriend after boyfriend, but then I realise that these are guys I would never look at (I mean, they’re short, or they have low-paying jobs, or worse – they’re students!) so I shouldn’t be surprised that I’ve only had a small number of boyfriends in my life, while they seem to always have a guy on their arm. I just won’t settle for anything but the best.
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By: Rose

Rose — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 02:49:35 +0000

God I totally empathise. I wouldn’t say I am mega attractive, I think I’m a charismatic friendly and relatively witty 8, as I explained before. But yeah I can say tick tick tick to all those things you listed about this blonde. Totally empathise.

I think sometimes it can be a reflection of body dysmorphic disorder. Google it. There actually seem to be a lot of people who suffer from it who are above normal attractiveness, but striving for absolute (impossible) perfection. I do the whole jumping from guy to guy thing too, and keep my adoring fans, sorry, male friends, around because they soothe my ego when it gets bruised.

I notice myself that I don’t necessarily feel too ugly to leave the house without being done up any more, but I think I have gotten addicted to the attention I get when I do have nice (well-fitting, fashionable, not slutty) clothes and make-up on. I get that daily boost of being hit-on that she is speaking about. It is also about how everyone treats you: service staff being extra helpful, people wanting to give you work, people letting you first on the bus, people not charging as much for services because they like you, cars stopping so I can cross the busy road, people letting you on transport for free… All this, would I have it if I wasn’t done up? Ah, maybe it would. I’ve trialled it a couple of times in attempting to self-therapy myself. Perhaps it has more to do with the fact I’m a relatively naturally pretty, busty, friendly woman. Either way, I’m ADDICTED to the positive feedback. After years of feeling low receiving insults every day at school, now I don’t really know what it is like, or want to know what it is like, to receive no feedback at all.

I get what you mean about going cold turkey… Yeah, she’s on a slightly different stage to me. I say get pickier, but going cold turkey will never work. It is a problem that will resolve itself when you find someone truly compatible.

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By: Princess T

Princess T — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 00:07:25 +0000

Men have become too soft these days…
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By: Mike Masters

Mike Masters — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 23:42:37 +0000

Ha! and girls wonder why guys are too afraid to approach them sometimes!

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By: Princess T

Princess T — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 22:38:36 +0000

I think this is interesting, and sort of confirms what we were discussing about approachability. She is approached a lot because she craves the attention and is therefore much more receptive to the attention. Of course, being stunning AND going out craving attention is a winning mix to get a lot of attention. I bet she has very little bitch shield… and people can pick up on these vibes we all give out. While we all crave some attention sometimes, most women, in reality, only want a certain kind of attention from certain types of men (the type varies from one woman to another, but the concept is still the same). Hence the “bitch shield” is formed, as you say, filtering out undesirable forms of attention.

So I guess the exception to your observation that prettier girls have stronger bitch shields is the man-eater. It seems your options with the prettiest girls are either to be immediately, and sometimes brutally, rebuffed, or chewed up and spit out. You guys have it pretty tough sometimes…

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By: Mike Masters

Mike Masters — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:21:06 +0000

That would be the sock draw answer I gave right?
However, I really don’t think she is on that quest. Anyone that truly challenges her is probably not going to be very healthy because she doesn’t seem that healthy right now.

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By: Jersey Brett

Jersey Brett — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 16:27:24 +0000

Also, to get back to some of your earlier advice, it could be that if she is really all that in demand, she may be having trouble finding someone who really challenges her. I’ve also found myself drawn to the new relationship euphoria in the past. Now I’m with a girl who challenges me daily (in a healthy way – I’ve been with the unhealthy kind too), and I find myself completely uninterested in looking for something new, even though we’ve been together awhile.

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