I am a cougar in need of prey, help me!
cougar attacks young man and devours his genitals
From the question bag!
Mike,
Hey, I’m in need of your expertise. I’m 25 years old stuck in a 35 year old body, even though I don’t think I look 35. Anyway, I just got out of a 10 year relationship (long story, but we’re still friends). After being out of the dating world for so long, I’ve completely lost all clues of how to date & where to even start. HELP!! Where do I go to meet guys, esp.. younger than me? Yes I am a cougar, but I like to think of myself as a blonde Demi Moore.
I just don’t want to look pathetic when I go somewhere alone. All of my friends are married homebodies & refuse to go out to play. Just to make matters worse, I got laid off from my job, so funds are tight. With that being said, should I stay out of the single world until I’m able to land another job? I really want to get back out there & meet new people. Online dating is not for me. OK I know that I sound like a pathetic loser but I’m really not. I’m just clueless!
Hey Cougar,
I know what you are talking about since I have recently had to do the same thing.
I recently was dropped in a small town in Michigan and after 2 months of no female contact. (I was biking across the US and Canada and let me tell you there are not many single girls doing the same thing)
In under 2 weeks here I was able to meet a girl I actually liked, this is how I did it:
Set the intention
The first step is probably the most important. What was my intention? I wanted to meet a fun, intelligent strong girl, in her mid to late 20s, that was cute. I knew what I wanted and my brain started to seek out opportunities.
This is something that most people don’t understand or underestimate, they think they need to make a conscious decision to do something when if they just trust the sub/super conscious mind it often will take care of the problem for them.
Be prepared to fail
Want to learn how to do anything? You got to be prepared to suck at it first. Getting back on the horse for me was a bit scary and I messed it up initially. I had to remind myself of what I wanted instead of being led by my genitals into a fucked up situation.
I met a girl way to young for me and the situation turned into a HUGE mess. However, it is already water under the bridge. The sooner you can accept that the garbage is a necessary part of finding something wonderful.
Be around the type of people you wish to meet
I wanted to meet someone fun and attractive, so I tried to figure out where these people hung out. This is part of when the law of intention kicked in. I somehow ran into some cool guys in their late 20’s and we hit it off. They invited me out that night and I met a bunch of cool people. This put me in the right place at the right time and to my surprise quite a few attractive women fell into my lap.
I was attracted to many of them but all where too young. I am the same age as you and feel the same way about myself. However, I really can’t dip below late 20’s if I do I find that I can’t handle the way they think. If I were you I would aim for this age, mid to early 20’s will be fun only for a little while.
Playing mind games with yourself
I know you are not into online dating but it really helps you get back into the groove. Put a profile of yourself up on plenty of fish (it’s free) and start to interact. Make sure that you make it clear what you want in your profile. This will help with the law of intention, and will help you have the courage to push away the guys you are not interested in.
I am NOT telling you to go out with any of the people that contact you on POF all I am telling you to do is interact. Get your head back in the game, remind yourself how you used to be. Practice being a playful bitch and don’t be shy to say NO.
Recap:
- Set the intention, and make it clear to your brain what you want
- Don’t be deterred by some mistakes, this is inevitable
- Find out where the type of people you wish to meet hang out
- Get back in to the groove with some online banter
- Energy out equals, energy in; It is going to take some action to make this happen
BTW: You will figure out the money thing, most guy don’t really care anyway
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OK, I’m going to try it out. Sounds like some good advice.
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Hey Jules!
Glad to help out. I hope that we get to hear form other people!
Getting back on the horse is something a lot of us have done and I would love to hear other suggestions.
Well i am 24, and when it comes to relationships with older women, such as the “Cougar” in this post, few things are crucial.
For starters, you have to be sure what you want, do you want just hang out, fun, sexual, committed, etc.
Lets face it, when a guy my age hooks up with an older women, it is usually for sexual reasons but there are exceptions. Other things to consider is, if you want something committed, you need to figure out what sort of qualities in the person you can stand and which ones will just drive you up the wall. But this issue is somewhere down the road, the objective here is to meet new and interesting people.
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I think an older woman can do very well with a younger guy. I have seen a lot of younger men enthralled with an old woman simply because they bring so much more to the table.
Real good advice here. I really like the idea of signing up on POF just to get her head back in the game. Coming off a long term relationship and trying to find some guys just by going to the bar is no good. Get back into the hang of the attitude you need to possess to find a younger guy. It’ll come, but you can’t act desperate.
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Thanks AJ
Getting you head into the game is huge. I think POF is a great, non intimidating way to meet and interact with the opposite sex.