I told him how many guys, now I am slut!?
Mike made me a slut
I feel like a slut now!
I just got a question from my friend over at sharp and fabulous
She asked,”When it comes to sex partners, how many is too many before a guy gets turned off? He’s in his mid 20’s”
Mike:
“Well that really depends on the guy but generally I would lie my ass off. I would only admit to long relationships and only a few guys. Guys would rather you lie to them anyway or… you could be like me and admit to it! Say you are a total whore and they could never match the amount of cock you have absorbed.”
:
“I should’ve talked to you before I opened my mouth. I told a guy and he got totally turned off but the thing is, he told me how many girls he had been with months ago and it was way more than me. I actually wrote about it but turns it out he hasn’t slept with half of what I have. I don’t feel bad but I don’t like being judged. I’ve learned that even if a man asks, I won’t tell, cuz obviously they can’t handle it. -Lame”
She is right, this is really lame and is a really crappy double standard. Why does he need to know so badly anyway? Not to mention the dick lied about his numbers twice and then was upset with her?! WTF??
Why would he care about how many guys she had sex with?
For the longest time I used to lie about how many sexual partners I had. It took me a long time to figure out that girls didn’t care nearly as much as I did. If a girl I was dating told me her number I got this sick feeling inside. In my mind she would suddenly morph into a cracked-out whore looking for a John. I could never visualized the truth, which was, some average sex with an average guy. What was my problem? Why did I half to know?
The rule of 3 and American pie
When I first saw the movie American Pie I was pretty surprised to hear about the rule of 3. (I thought it was only me that knew that!) You remember, when one girl tells the other girl that guys always multiply how many people they have sex with by 3 and girls always divide it. This was pretty funny and I agree with it but not to the same extreme I think it is more like the rule of 2. Girls, divide it by 2 and guys multiply it.
Why would girls and guys lie?
This boils down to DNA and it is really simple. He has sex with a lot of girls but he is still an acceptable sperm donor, in fact this might mean he is a pretty desirable guy since so many girls have slept with him. This is why guys tend to boost their numbers, it impresses their friends and – believe it or not – impresses you.
BUT If YOU sleep around, suddenly his chance to drop a load of double helices on your ovaries reduces racially. Of course he doesn’t rationally want to get your preggers but his DNA certainly does. This is why girls have a knee jerk to lie about their sexual activity.
ManWhore = Virile stud desired by many
Whore = Trailer trash, good only for sexual donations
The secret is to be a slut in SECRET!
So what do you do? Play a little verbal/emotional judo with his DNA. Either say like I do, “I will never tell you that, unless I am really really drunk.” Or just lie your ass off, remember you can’t get your cut hair any longer so don’t be afraid to keep the number LOOOOWWW.
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But what is the answer though? What do guys consider a reasonable number to appear desirable yet not give the impression that the girl sleeps with every guy that says hello?
If a guy gives me a really low number I either think 1. they are lying or 2. what is wrong with him that no one wants to sleep with him? If he gives me a high number, then I wonder if he has stock in the Pharma companies for treating his STD’s.
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I wouldn’t answer the question, it really is a pointless.
It is kinda like when I was younger always asking girls if I was the biggest guy they had ever been with.
Just stupid…
but if you have to give a number I would say 2-3 people per year you have been sexually active.
I’d offer this as a good rule of thumb:
If you’re between 25-30 and have slept with more than 10 guys: Lie.
If you’re between 30-35 and have slept with more than 15 guys: Lie.
When you lie, keep it under 10. We don’t really expect women at these ages to be chaste or virginal, but nor do we need to know details. Knowing allows our imaginations to run wild, and then we’ll assume the worst.
A guy will tell you he wants to know your number, but what he really means is “I want to know your number and I want it to be relatively low (at least lower than mine).”
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Thank you for spelling it out like that Jersey Brett. That made it easy.
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Hey Brett thanks for stopping by!
I would agree with what he said, in general a girl becomes a “slut” if she has passed 15. I know this is ridiculous since I have pulled that off in a good summer.
Also it would be a good thing to know his number first then adjust accordingly.
Sucks huh?
Especially for Dating Diva who can’t lie and is a total horn-dog.
So basically that number I told you last night Mike? I will no longer mention any higher. Good grief!
You on the other hand? At least I look like an angel with wings compared to that number.
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Like I would tell anyone my numbers
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I am not ashamed…
EEEEELLLLLLLLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEENNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!!!
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Geez Rose.
I figured you to be a little more experienced.
I will have help you out someday.
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This topic has inspired me to vent:
I just came back from a very unproductive conversation with my recent ex-bf. (Side note: yes, Mike, it was the cop from my last post that everyone warned me off dating…)
We were meeting to ’swap our stuff’ and the converstion turned unhealthy, as it sometimes can. Turns out that – even though we were highly sexually compatible – one of his key reasons for the breakup was that he ‘knew too much’ about my past.
I’d never given him the ‘number’ (which, based on comments above, I will never give to anyone again!), but he was plagued by knowledge about a certain ‘incident’ that I’d shared when we were in the early stages of the I’m-a-bigger-player-than-you dating game.
Pathetic? Infuriating? Irrational? I understand the need for discretion and the whole DNA argument… but seriously. I like my men to be man enough to deal.
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Ahh…
This is a good topic
When does a guy become man enough to be able to handle when a girl gets as wild as he would like to be.
Never?
I struggle with it myself if I am emotionally involved with a girl. If not… I could care less. For example my ex is now back on the dating scene and it is bugging the hell out of me. I am wise enough to look the other way when guys show up on her facebook but still ouch!
Maybe finding a guy that can handle your past/present promiscuity is a great indicator of emotional maturity.
hmmm…
have to think about this one.
“How many guys I’ve been with? Including girls, threesomes, making out, one night stands? Including just letting a guy go down? Including guys I tried to make out with but was too drunk to do anything and just passed out next to? Including guys that I was with for months or years but who couldn’t get it up?”
“Yeah. Including all that.”
“Oh, three or four I guess. I really don’t keep track of such things.”
It never fails. With any guy that likes sex, anyway.
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Nah, I am careful with my number these days. 11 is already slutty by many standards.
But I don’t count the number of men I have got naked with, messed around with, or had go down on me. That number, I lost count already.
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Anj
that was hilarious.
Actually ManWhore=Candidate for AIDS… that is not a double standard I’m willing to allow… I don’t do manwhore’s and if a guy, especially a whore, is too childish to accept that I, like himself, is not a virgin… he can kick rocks… he wouldn’t be mature enough to be in a relationship with anyway.
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Dear What
I think you missed the point of the article. I am not condoning that he slut around while you stay virginal. I am only explaining that men and women have a knee jerk, genetically programmed response to certain things.
And sometimes it is just better to lie.
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Jeanette raises an interesting point. I actually would be more bothered if a girl I was emotionally involved with told me she had a threesome with two guys than if she gave me a high number. In fact, I think it would probably be a deal-breaker for me. Double standard? Sure. But there it is. Not man enough to handle it? I guess not, but then again, most guys in their late 20s/early 30s can afford to be picky.
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Interesting about the threesome Brett I want to write about that. Did you see the movie chasing amy? That was a very very accurate male response to a girl more sexually experienced than a guy.
Maturity often has little control over an emotional upheaval of confusion, jealousy and insecurity.