Comments on: The myth of casual sex – What were you thinking? part 2 of 2 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/ Dating advice for women and men Wed, 01 Feb 2012 09:02:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-6497 Mike Masters Sat, 14 Jan 2012 12:15:12 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-6497 Could not disagree more, but thanks for the comment regardless. :) Could not disagree more, but thanks for the comment regardless. :)

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]]> By: Dolly Davies http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-6496 Dolly Davies Sat, 14 Jan 2012 06:27:02 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-6496 "It is very difficult if not impossible for women to act like a man with casual sex, something that a women is responsible for communicating to a man when her expectations in the relationship change over time." Not so fast there. The oxytocin hormone and its effects are still being debated to this day, with some saying that while it may facilitate attachment, it can also go the complete opposite way as well. I understand it seems to be considered common knowledge that women are more likely to get attached where casual sex is concerned, but I honestly think that it has more to do with the woman's personality/mindset than anything, as there are a lot of desperate women out there!! I think everyone (men and women) goes through a time in their lives when they're really just up for the sex and are not willing and/or able to put in the time and effort needed in cultivating a romantic relationship (eg; those with blooming careers, those that just got out of a stormy relationship). So we go for it. Some women can handle it better than others, just like some men can handle it better than others. I'm not exactly going to declare one sex more susceptible to getting attached than the other, though. Just my opinion on that matter. Good article anyway, and true, it would be better if people would just be upfront about what they feel, and go from there. Peace. =] “It is very difficult if not impossible for women to act like a man with casual sex, something that a women is responsible for communicating to a man when her expectations in the relationship change over time.”
Not so fast there. The oxytocin hormone and its effects are still being debated to this day, with some saying that while it may facilitate attachment, it can also go the complete opposite way as well.
I understand it seems to be considered common knowledge that women are more likely to get attached where casual sex is concerned, but I honestly think that it has more to do with the woman’s personality/mindset than anything, as there are a lot of desperate women out there!!
I think everyone (men and women) goes through a time in their lives when they’re really just up for the sex and are not willing and/or able to put in the time and effort needed in cultivating a romantic relationship (eg; those with blooming careers, those that just got out of a stormy relationship). So we go for it. Some women can handle it better than others, just like some men can handle it better than others. I’m not exactly going to declare one sex more susceptible to getting attached than the other, though. Just my opinion on that matter.
Good article anyway, and true, it would be better if people would just be upfront about what they feel, and go from there. Peace. =]

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]]> By: fitness girl http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-5756 fitness girl Tue, 01 Feb 2011 02:55:35 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-5756 hi, Sex is the man's beauty of life..... Nice post ........ hi,

Sex is the man’s beauty of life…..
Nice post ……..

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]]> By: Sam http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-5585 Sam Tue, 26 Oct 2010 00:55:45 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-5585 hahahahahaaaa! casual sex is the basis of our existence! its where we came from! the cradle of life shows this, anthropologically. and when i say we i mean homo sapiens. female or male. It seems doubtful to me that in the beginning women were jealous over their mens emotional indescretions and men were overwrought with ill feelings towards their women due to infedelity jealousy. It didnt happen because males and females fucked whomever they were emotionally connected to. Furthermore, children were raised, no joke - by the group. titty fed by as many women were lactating... casual sex is where it was at. until agriculture! if women and men act differently now its due to the brainwashing government, agriculture, and religion has bestowed upon us over the past ohhhh 10,300 years. stop assuming marriage/monogamy/and baby making (heteros ONLY PLEASE) is the way God intended it. thanks but no thanks jeebus, but as Eric Hoffer said, "IDK if God exists, but, it would be better for his reputation if he didn't." Ill casually fuck whom i like and not feel bad about it just because the government gives that awesome extra what- $1000 dollar credit to married heteros? hahahahahaaaa! casual sex is the basis of our existence! its where we came from! the cradle of life shows this, anthropologically. and when i say we i mean homo sapiens. female or male. It seems doubtful to me that in the beginning women were jealous over their mens emotional indescretions and men were overwrought with ill feelings towards their women due to infedelity jealousy. It didnt happen because males and females fucked whomever they were emotionally connected to. Furthermore, children were raised, no joke – by the group. titty fed by as many women were lactating… casual sex is where it was at. until agriculture! if women and men act differently now its due to the brainwashing government, agriculture, and religion has bestowed upon us over the past ohhhh 10,300 years. stop assuming marriage/monogamy/and baby making (heteros ONLY PLEASE) is the way God intended it. thanks but no thanks jeebus, but as Eric Hoffer said, “IDK if God exists, but, it would be better for his reputation if he didn’t.” Ill casually fuck whom i like and not feel bad about it just because the government gives that awesome extra what- $1000 dollar credit to married heteros?

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]]> By: swervinmervin http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-3478 swervinmervin Fri, 16 Jul 2010 00:03:28 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-3478 i want sex. casual i suppose, cuz i don't want your babies, your money, your time. and i don't want it all the time, cuz at my age i'm really only very horny when i'm ovulating, the rest of the time i would take it, but probly could go without. i am recently divorced and just moved back to my hometown. i have not had sex with any one besides my husband for, ugh, 10 years. and we have been split for over a year, which means NOthing in the last year. doublesigh. quite obvs i want to get it going and i mean pronto. but, alas, how when and where? i cannot even imagine getting into half of the shit that this blog deals with; "does he or doesn't he?" "you're texting the wrong way!!!!!!!!!!!!!" "i sucked his cock and now he won't talk to me, what do you think, is he just not that into me??!!" fucking barf. so although i appreciate the humour, the good intentions, the valid and sincere efforts put forth by mike and all of his peeps, to wake people up to their own bullshit, i cannot even imagine swimming in these waters. i have no solutions. i love my vibrator. it fucking sux for me right now and that's just the way it is. i want sex. casual i suppose, cuz i don’t want your babies, your money, your time.
and i don’t want it all the time, cuz at my age i’m really only very horny when i’m ovulating, the rest of the time i would take it, but probly could go without.
i am recently divorced and just moved back to my hometown. i have not had sex with any one besides my husband for, ugh, 10 years. and we have been split for over a year, which means NOthing in the last year. doublesigh.
quite obvs i want to get it going and i mean pronto. but, alas, how when and where? i cannot even imagine getting into half of the shit that this blog deals with;
“does he or doesn’t he?” “you’re texting the wrong way!!!!!!!!!!!!!” “i sucked his cock and now he won’t talk to me, what do you think, is he just not that into me??!!”
fucking barf.
so although i appreciate the humour, the good intentions, the valid and sincere efforts put forth by mike and all of his peeps, to wake people up to their own bullshit, i cannot even imagine swimming in these waters.
i have no solutions. i love my vibrator.
it fucking sux for me right now and that’s just the way it is.

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]]> By: Anonymous http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-3188 Anonymous Tue, 18 May 2010 02:21:38 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-3188 Nice blog! Nice blog!

]]> By: The myth of casual sex – What is he thinking? part 1 of 2 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-2525 The myth of casual sex – What is he thinking? part 1 of 2 Mon, 15 Mar 2010 16:20:40 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-2525 [...] The myth of casual sex part 2 [...] [...] The myth of casual sex part 2 [...]

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]]> By: Sis http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1504 Sis Sun, 29 Nov 2009 21:37:11 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-1504 Melanie great post! Nice to see a lady that is not affraid to admit to a healthy sex drive, twice a day is perfect. Melanie great post! Nice to see a lady that is not affraid to admit to a healthy sex drive, twice a day is perfect.

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]]> By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1501 Mike Masters Sun, 29 Nov 2009 18:42:06 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-1501 Wow Melanie Very rarely do I wish I could meet my readers but in this case I would like to step up to your box and strike out a few times. Thanks for the great comment. I think it will turn into a post! Wow Melanie
Very rarely do I wish I could meet my readers but in this case I would like to step up to your box and strike out a few times.
Thanks for the great comment. I think it will turn into a post!

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]]> By: Melanie http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1500 Melanie Sun, 29 Nov 2009 07:20:51 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-1500 Nice post Mike! There is such a complicated dynamic for casual sex that more often than not it can end up as a one night stand or worse ends up as a pseudorelationship. I go with the Three Strikes rule for hookups that I "know" are not relationship material. Given the fact that I would be content having sex twice a day, the three strikes mentality keeps my libido in check because...well, if I wait another day I'll be even more horny. The next thing you know it's a few months later, haven't thought about the dude and rather than sleep with someone new, I'll send a "yo" text and if I get a response great. If not, bzzzzzzz. Plus this way I'm not having a bunch of sex with random dudes so ultimately when I meet a relationship kinda guy I don't have to lie *as much* about how many men I've slept with. :-) The key for me is I only have casual sex with guys I've previously hooked up with AND I know there's no chance of a relationship with. They are there to serve a very functional purpose. I don't care how your day was, just take off your pants already. Nice post Mike! There is such a complicated dynamic for casual sex that more often than not it can end up as a one night stand or worse ends up as a pseudorelationship. I go with the Three Strikes rule for hookups that I “know” are not relationship material.

Given the fact that I would be content having sex twice a day, the three strikes mentality keeps my libido in check because…well, if I wait another day I’ll be even more horny. The next thing you know it’s a few months later, haven’t thought about the dude and rather than sleep with someone new, I’ll send a “yo” text and if I get a response great. If not, bzzzzzzz.

Plus this way I’m not having a bunch of sex with random dudes so ultimately when I meet a relationship kinda guy I don’t have to lie *as much* about how many men I’ve slept with. :-)

The key for me is I only have casual sex with guys I’ve previously hooked up with AND I know there’s no chance of a relationship with. They are there to serve a very functional purpose. I don’t care how your day was, just take off your pants already.

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]]> By: Pff http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1267 Pff Sun, 01 Nov 2009 16:46:10 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-1267 I like to get control of the situation - but once I have it - i lose interest..so i must be the "Addiction to the unobtainable" - how do i fix this?? I like to get control of the situation – but once I have it – i lose interest..so i must be the “Addiction to the unobtainable” – how do i fix this??

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]]> By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1202 Mike Masters Thu, 15 Oct 2009 14:33:42 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-1202 God I know what you mean! God I know what you mean!

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]]> By: Nat http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1200 Nat Thu, 15 Oct 2009 05:09:33 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-1200 Apropos of nothing, I lust for that chick's tattoos. .-= Nat´s last blog ..<a href="http://boingerhead.blogspot.com/2009/10/i-have-always-wanted-little-blue-house.html" rel="nofollow">i have always wanted a little blue house</a> =-. Apropos of nothing, I lust for that chick’s tattoos.
Nat´s last blog ..i have always wanted a little blue house My ComLuv Profile

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]]> By: Jillian http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1190 Jillian Sun, 04 Oct 2009 18:16:31 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-1190 SW- I think you know exactly which of those you need to do. .-= Jillian´s last blog ..<a href="http://blueshelled.com/2009/10/04/happy-sunday-video-blog/" rel="nofollow">Happy Sunday! Video Blog</a> =-. SW- I think you know exactly which of those you need to do.
Jillian´s last blog ..Happy Sunday! Video Blog My ComLuv Profile

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]]> By: sekhmet's warrior http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1189 sekhmet's warrior Sun, 04 Oct 2009 11:29:48 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-1189 True, Sha, but like Jillian says you can't account for someone's changeability. My very recent ex started as a casual fling on holiday, then he wanted to come over and see me, to plan holidays together and for us to fly over and see each other twice a month. This week he decided he's got too much work on, can't cope with the long distance thing and wants to be 'just friends from now on.' Meanwhile, I have stuff in his apartment, including my mobile phone which I left by mistake a couple of weeks ago, and a flight booked to see him next Friday. Obviously I don't want to see him, unless it's to set fire to his genitals and put them out with Listerine, but I need to get my stuff. Do I revert back to my original view of him as a young, hot sex toy and shag his brains out in a break up sex kinda way (which he doesn't deserve...but maybe I do), or do I get a hotel, meet him to collect my stuff and then enjoy a liberating weekend in his city on my own? True, Sha, but like Jillian says you can’t account for someone’s changeability. My very recent ex started as a casual fling on holiday, then he wanted to come over and see me, to plan holidays together and for us to fly over and see each other twice a month. This week he decided he’s got too much work on, can’t cope with the long distance thing and wants to be ‘just friends from now on.’ Meanwhile, I have stuff in his apartment, including my mobile phone which I left by mistake a couple of weeks ago, and a flight booked to see him next Friday. Obviously I don’t want to see him, unless it’s to set fire to his genitals and put them out with Listerine, but I need to get my stuff. Do I revert back to my original view of him as a young, hot sex toy and shag his brains out in a break up sex kinda way (which he doesn’t deserve…but maybe I do), or do I get a hotel, meet him to collect my stuff and then enjoy a liberating weekend in his city on my own?

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]]> By: Sha http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/about-sexuality/the-myth-of-casual-sex-what-were-thinking-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1188 Sha Sun, 04 Oct 2009 03:08:31 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=1010#comment-1188 Excellent post Mike! ps, response to Jennie's comment...i dont think there is a rule to how many romps. No woman is the same as another. Personally, I prefer to know up front what a guy is about. I have some excellent established relationships with men who are honest...maybe to a fault. I can not fault you if you are real with me. Its up to me to make a decision that reflects my respect for myself. Excellent post Mike!

ps, response to Jennie’s comment…i dont think there is a rule to how many romps. No woman is the same as another. Personally, I prefer to know up front what a guy is about. I have some excellent established relationships with men who are honest…maybe to a fault. I can not fault you if you are real with me. Its up to me to make a decision that reflects my respect for myself.

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