Is he gay, or is it just a Bromance?
Jealousy of a dude?
I came home from my buddy’s house happy as hell only to run smack into my wreck of a girlfriend. She looked like she had been crying for a couple of hours. She not only had eyes puffed closed but her mascara looked like linebacker paint. I had to grit my teeth and anchor my eyebrows to not laugh. I was curious to find out what was wrong but I couldn’t be bothered to dig it out of her. When I stopped paying attention she blurted out, “Why do you always go over there?!” “huh?” I said, “Do you mean John’s house?” Her silence answered my question. “John is my friend and I enjoy hanging out with him,” I sounded a little defensive since I was a good six pack to the wind. “What is going on over there? Why do you come back so late?? Are there girls there?” She said this so quickly I didn’t know which to answer first. “No! it’s just me John and sometimes other friends, we play pool, talk and drink beer. That’s all… No girls, just talking and drinking.” Her eyes narrowed as if there were some sort of conspiracy I was hiding from her. We both waited while she decided whether or not she wanted to say something. “Do you like him?” her stare bored into my eyes to read my emotion. I snorted out a laugh and shot a little beer up my nose, “What?? Are you serious?” She was silent and kept staring me. It took about two hours for me to convince her I was not sexually involved with John.
More freak-outs
I have to add that the same girl saw a screen saver of a girl in a swimsuit on my computer and nutted-out. “Why did you put that there?? Why!!?? Do you think I am fat? Are you trying to tell me something!!! Why don’t you just say it!?? This was all pretty crazy, since the girl in the picture was my sister and the screen saver happened to grab it. After I explained she said, “oh…”
What are some reasons guys hang out with other guys?
• They need a break from their girlfriend
• They feel suffocated in the relationship
• They have lost the friend connection since they have been with you
• They like to drink, smoke and play pool
• They like to talk about women grab their balls and be guys
• They feel they can be themselves around guy friends (and grab their balls)
• They have spent a lot of time with guys growing up and have not had many girlfriends
• They want to talk about other women so they can imagine they are single again
• They want to do things that you don’t really approve of
• BUT VERY VERY RARELY are they gay
I am in a Bromance
My buddy Jake just got accused by his girlfriend of being in a bromance with me. This was very flattering! She was jealous of the time Jake spent with me. She was also worried that I was undoing all of the work she was putting into training Jake. That was not really true, Jake was so bent to get bent that he was a bad influence on me! She had worked so hard to isolate and stomp out poor Jake’s bad qualities that he was using me as an excuse to explode every Sunday night. Unfortunately it led to Jake hanging out with me even more and her less, oops…
Letting guys be guys
It is really really important to just let a guy be, let him be stupid and hang out with his friends. Let him act like a moron once a week at least. Don’t try to squeeze the bad behaviors out of him. If you attempt this you will only concentrate the behavior and he will end up lying to you. I know it is hard but it is important to encourage this, he needs this outlet and the two of you are not an island. Let him act like an idiot once a week.
- The more you hang on the more he pulls away
- A bromance is nothing to be threatened about
- Just be glad he wants to hang out with a guy not a girl
- If you are feeling jealous of his friends maybe you need to get a few yourself
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This story was really hilarious. I have been in that poor girls shoes and your right all I needed was a life of my own.
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B&B funny how that works. I have had so many girls make me the focal point of their lives.
Scary…
I actually really dig this one, Mike. When I was younger and actively in a relationship where he needed space, I could NOT, for the life of me, understand this. This was pre-Scrubs and JD/Turk.
Well done.
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You are funny…
Actually enjoyed? Ouch! usually you don’t?
Seriously? Girls don’t recognize that guys need guy time? I just can’t wrap my head around that one… It goes both ways: girls need girlfriend time and guys need guy time. I actually worry a bit about my husband when he doesn’t have a guy to hang out with–like right now. His best friend lives in Colorado and his soccer buddy moved to Atlanta. And now that he’s in the working world, it seems like it’s just as hard for him to find guy friends as it is for single people to find dates! And let’s face it, I’m selfish. As much as I love him, I need time without him underfoot!
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BTW, I like the new look! Very minimalist and cool.
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I think it is very rare for a younger girl to know how imparative this is. You know it since you are a bit more mature. (only a bit)
Thanks about the new design. Hated the last one, too much going on!
Only a bit, eh? Well yes, I am young at heart (and in appearance, thank you very much!
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But seriously, I’ve never been jealous of any of my boyfriends hanging out with other guys. And usually not with other girls, either, but that usually bit me in the ass–I think guys thought I was laid back and open to them exploring their options, shall we say. Should have gotten jealous earlier!! But I’m too optimistic and trusting for my own good most of the time. And in the end I wound up with one who justified all that trust and optimism. And ironically, he gets jealous of the time I spend with my friends… I just can’t do anything normally, can I?
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I just wanted to see how u are. This is tiff from camping at sunset beach in Santa Cruz California you had hot cocoa and sat by the camp fire with us. I didn’t know any other way to check on you.
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