A little too violent break up sex
Everyone does it…
Everyone I have ever met has experienced make up sex. You have a good fight, someone storms out the door in a rant. You both stay irritated until one or the other breaks the ice and you rush into bed for some really good sex! Suddenly everything is fine, the stress of the relationship pimple has been temporarily popped. Unfortunately, this gets to be a pattern and next thing you know the two are linked like the smell of feet and my sleeping bag.
I had this difficulty with a girl in Japan and it was the worst I have ever had it. We would not only have make up sex all of the time but break up sex almost as often! I remember the last time that I saw her. It was about the 6th break up for us and I was soooo… done with her. I had not seen her for three weeks and I really didn’t want her to come over. It had taken me every minute of the three weeks to mentally break away from her. I talk about the process of moving on from her here. It was hell moving away from her and having her in my house was too huge a temptation for my freshly broken addiction. When she came over for the last time I nearly shook with the desire for her.
Nice ass!
She was beaming when she walked in but I could see from the corner of her eyes the disingenuous nature it. “Hi! So good to see you” she said and walked up to hug me. The hug lingered a hair past comfort and we separated. The was a little small talk and I returned her forced brevity. “So what have you been up to lately?” I said a little glassy eyed. “I just started to teach Pilates and it is going so well!” she beamed again and I noticed what she was wearing and how she looked. She had the sheen of mild perspiration and the flush of exercise, when she walked over to say hi to my cat my eyes snapped like a magnet to her butt… oh my god… I caught my breath. She was wearing a tight black leotard showing her wonderful ass, my eyes glazed with desire and I looked away. God she looked good, I wanted nothing more than to lock the front door and have my way with her. She walked back towards me and I blinked trying not to stiffen. She was my drug and I wanted to open a vein, I could care less how rusty the needle was. She came in close and wrapped herself around me, not caring that I didn’t reciprocate, “I missed you” she said. She looked up at me wanting me to kiss her but I slowly pushed her away and broke into a sweat with the struggle. Resisting her took all of my will power and desire for something better. She was my drug but I desired to be clean. I barely passed the test but I still fantasies about that day and what it would have been like to give in. I would have been absolutely fantastic but the downer would have been horrible.
The addiction
Make up and break up sex hits us at a carnal level so primitive that resisting the urge to act is close to impossible. Make up sex can be a very dangerous thing since it becomes literally addictive. Keiko and I had it refined to an art form after two years of fighting and jealously. Keiko and I had fantastic sex but we didn’t like each other! Why stay together?? Because we were addicted, being both the dealer and the drug. The first time we had make up sex the foundation was formed. We were furious at one another and the last thing on our minds was sex. Keiko was a bit violent and when she tried to hit me I caught her arm and I notice a hard nipple through her shirt, suddenly things turned sexual. All of our frustration was channeled into some slightly violent clothes ripping sex. It was good… really really good. However it was really really bad at the same time.
Brains are funny things we associate pleasure very often with the wrong stimuli and thus get into big messes. Make-up sex is a classic incorrect conditioner for the brain. We fight and have great sex, we fight again and have great sex. Do you see what is coming next??? Soon… very soon… we fight to have great sex. Quicker than Lance on a bike it becomes difficult to have sex without some sort tension! Unfortunately this was not even enough for us, we had to take it to an even higher level and this was the break up sex.
Break up sex and genetic need.
Break-up and make-up sex are very similar but break-up sex is even more intense. Why is this? Very simple, it is more deeply bound to the perception of loss. The human animal is driven very strongly to reproduce and if there is the threat to that reproduction it ramps up the hormones to demand sex! This is a last ditch effort of the body to make sure there is some reproduction involved before one leaves. This of course is not exactly the case since we both had many other options but the body does not know this. All it knows is that it is about to lose its reproductive chance. Don’t believe me? Ever had to leave your girl or guy for longer than a week? Chances are that you got in one last reproductive thrust before you left. The human animal will have it’s way!! be careful!
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I have never had make up sex but I have had break up sex. For me the break up sex is tempting because I have a hard time having casual sex, so I usually try to get in a good amount before I dump somebody since I never know how long it’s gonna be before I get some more.
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I know what you mean. One of the biggest reasons we have sex with our exes. The comfort is there and of course the need!
This is awesome! Thanks for sharing. I just can’t imagine myself being in your shoes.
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my heart was broken again and again because of the makeup sex.my ex still didn’t want to be with me.he just used me for his desires&insulted me wheneven he didn’t want me.i’ve very low self-esteem now because of the horrible relationship
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Heidi, you can not blame him for this. You were the one that was needy enough to take him back to bed. If you don’t have the funds to gamble don’t do it. If you can afford it (self esteem) go for it and eventually you will hit the jackpot.
Heidi, I have to agree with Mike, you can’t blame him. BUT, know that you are not alone MOST females go thru this… what you need to be aware of is that you teach people how to treat you… judge each person by their actions and make the SMART decision next time. Good luck and raise your self-esteem on purpose!
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Yes we really need to hear from a man that they are never to blame…
They like the red faced, heated blood rush, vulnerability and power as well as the hormonal response.
Sincerely, men will beat on females and slap them around to get make up sex …are you kidding me you don’t know that as a sex guru?
females will become as addicted so beware of the power hungry male. (and sometimes female)
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What?? Did you read the post? or are you high, drunk or just really ignorant??