Comments on: I am too fricken sexy and it is ruining my love life http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/i-am-too-fricken-sexy-and-it-is-ruining-my-love-life/ Dating advice for women Wed, 28 Jul 2010 04:15:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: I am a maneater, how do I stop my addiction!? | MasterDater http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/i-am-too-fricken-sexy-and-it-is-ruining-my-love-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1929 I am a maneater, how do I stop my addiction!? | MasterDater Thu, 21 Jan 2010 16:13:32 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=826#comment-1929 [...] question comes from a post I wrote about a month ago about how being attractive and having a lot of choices actually becomes a block to finding a proper relati.... I know… High Quality Problem right? However, (one eyebrow raised) This is more about, “New [...] [...] question comes from a post I wrote about a month ago about how being attractive and having a lot of choices actually becomes a block to finding a proper relati…. I know… High Quality Problem right? However, (one eyebrow raised) This is more about, “New [...]

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]]> By: anonymous http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/i-am-too-fricken-sexy-and-it-is-ruining-my-love-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1870 anonymous Sun, 17 Jan 2010 01:29:48 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=826#comment-1870 I have a question. How do you get out of this cycle? Let me explain myself... I am an extremely attractive blond chick living in a big city. I have dated way more than any of my friends simply because I get hit on almost daily.  Because of this happening to me most of my adult life I have found myself not only used to it but addicted to meeting new men.  I would like to be committed, but I find myself losing interest inevitably as I seriously enjoy my "choices."  Is there any way to break this pattern and addiction?  I would like to have a family one day but am struggling with the idea of monogamy.  Every time I am in a realtionship I feel trapped.     I have a question. How do you get out of this cycle? Let me explain myself… I am an extremely attractive blond chick living in a big city. I have dated way more than any of my friends simply because I get hit on almost daily.  Because of this happening to me most of my adult life I have found myself not only used to it but addicted to meeting new men.  I would like to be committed, but I find myself losing interest inevitably as I seriously enjoy my “choices.”  Is there any way to break this pattern and addiction?  I would like to have a family one day but am struggling with the idea of monogamy.  Every time I am in a realtionship I feel trapped.    

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]]> By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/i-am-too-fricken-sexy-and-it-is-ruining-my-love-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1024 Mike Masters Wed, 22 Jul 2009 22:32:26 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=826#comment-1024 Helly totally with you on that one. I never have understood why people always insist on getting married!! I am so sick of hearing about it. Almost as sick of hearing from gay guys that "you just don't know it yet." BARF... Helly totally with you on that one. I never have understood why people always insist on getting married!!
I am so sick of hearing about it. Almost as sick of hearing from gay guys that “you just don’t know it yet.”
BARF…

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]]> By: Helly http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/i-am-too-fricken-sexy-and-it-is-ruining-my-love-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1022 Helly Wed, 22 Jul 2009 20:43:48 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=826#comment-1022 I'm in my late 30's and I remember being told when I was younger, that my choices would be limited as I got older. I've never had problems meeting men and dating men since my 20's. I'm attractive - not drop dead gorgeous. It's weird, I can't think about marriage even though I know that's what I ultimately want again. I just see too much in the candy store and I'm beginning to understand why people can't stay monogamous. I really think that monogamy is a weird and difficult concept. I can't ever imagine myself with one person for the rest of my life - people say it's because I haven't met the "right" one. Perhaps, but I often think people get married because they're too afraid to be by themselves or that they are boring as hell. I’m in my late 30’s and I remember being told when I was younger, that my choices would be limited as I got older. I’ve never had problems meeting men and dating men since my 20’s. I’m attractive – not drop dead gorgeous. It’s weird, I can’t think about marriage even though I know that’s what I ultimately want again. I just see too much in the candy store and I’m beginning to understand why people can’t stay monogamous. I really think that monogamy is a weird and difficult concept. I can’t ever imagine myself with one person for the rest of my life – people say it’s because I haven’t met the “right” one. Perhaps, but I often think people get married because they’re too afraid to be by themselves or that they are boring as hell.

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]]> By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/i-am-too-fricken-sexy-and-it-is-ruining-my-love-life/comment-page-1/#comment-948 Mike Masters Sun, 05 Jul 2009 23:39:43 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=826#comment-948 @Queen you are always so funny. I would have turtles lay eggs in my mouth anytime for you. @misofreak Amen, people don't want to hear it but it is so true, give job opps that are ever increasing in pay and watch people climb. @Jim Yeah that is what I call a high quality problem. I agree with the amazing partner. You both need to feel that you are so lucky to be with the other that it eclipses all other choices. However, I also think you have to recognize your human limitations and never put yourself in the buffet. It is just to tempting for many of us to have a nibble. @Queen you are always so funny. I would have turtles lay eggs in my mouth anytime for you.

@misofreak Amen, people don’t want to hear it but it is so true, give job opps that are ever increasing in pay and watch people climb.

@Jim Yeah that is what I call a high quality problem. I agree with the amazing partner. You both need to feel that you are so lucky to be with the other that it eclipses all other choices. However, I also think you have to recognize your human limitations and never put yourself in the buffet. It is just to tempting for many of us to have a nibble.

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]]> By: Mike Masters http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/i-am-too-fricken-sexy-and-it-is-ruining-my-love-life/comment-page-1/#comment-947 Mike Masters Sun, 05 Jul 2009 23:29:57 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=826#comment-947 @Rose, Wow... excellent response. I would like to see the work of your geneticist friend. I have always believed that many of us are genetically driven for certain behavior. I believe that there are genetic "breeders" and "nesters" both of these being successful ways to propagate the species. As for the series... wouldn't that be fun?? You should have seen the first three comments i had to delete off this post! A lot of people are very upset with this concept. Let's talk more about this. @Rose, Wow… excellent response. I would like to see the work of your geneticist friend. I have always believed that many of us are genetically driven for certain behavior. I believe that there are genetic “breeders” and “nesters” both of these being successful ways to propagate the species. As for the series… wouldn’t that be fun?? You should have seen the first three comments i had to delete off this post! A lot of people are very upset with this concept. Let’s talk more about this.

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]]> By: Jim http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/i-am-too-fricken-sexy-and-it-is-ruining-my-love-life/comment-page-1/#comment-946 Jim Sat, 04 Jul 2009 23:33:49 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=826#comment-946 "I simply had too much a choice." As problems go, sounds like one of the better ones to have to deal with. This is why models marry rock stars. Both have limitless choices, so that kinda balances them....but end the end... it doesnt usually help much in overcoming the the reality of unlimited choices. In the end, you have to really appreciate each other and feel damn lucky to have your partner....or the buffet is too tempting. “I simply had too much a choice.”

As problems go, sounds like one of the better ones to have to deal with.

This is why models marry rock stars. Both have limitless choices, so that kinda balances them….but end the end… it doesnt usually help much in overcoming the the reality of unlimited choices.

In the end, you have to really appreciate each other and feel damn lucky to have your partner….or the buffet is too tempting.

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]]> By: misofreak http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/i-am-too-fricken-sexy-and-it-is-ruining-my-love-life/comment-page-1/#comment-945 misofreak Sat, 04 Jul 2009 18:17:43 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=826#comment-945 People are only as faithful as their options! People are only as faithful as their options!

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]]> By: Rose http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/i-am-too-fricken-sexy-and-it-is-ruining-my-love-life/comment-page-1/#comment-944 Rose Sat, 04 Jul 2009 10:30:51 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=826#comment-944 @ Queen Lindsay "I was pretty easy to please and pretty pleased to be easy" - not heard that before. Hilarious. :) @ Queen Lindsay
“I was pretty easy to please and pretty pleased to be easy” – not heard that before. Hilarious. :)

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]]> By: Queen Lindsay http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/i-am-too-fricken-sexy-and-it-is-ruining-my-love-life/comment-page-1/#comment-942 Queen Lindsay Fri, 03 Jul 2009 23:55:00 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=826#comment-942 I remember the days I had guys beating down my door. *sigh* Gone are them days. Honestly, at that time..I was so young, I wasn't worried about finding the right guy or the one, I just wanted someone that could hold a conversation and perform in the bedroom. Yes, I was pretty easy to please and pretty pleased to be easy. Please don't ever let a turtle lay eggs in your mouth...that just turns me on! I remember the days I had guys beating down my door. *sigh* Gone are them days. Honestly, at that time..I was so young, I wasn’t worried about finding the right guy or the one, I just wanted someone that could hold a conversation and perform in the bedroom. Yes, I was pretty easy to please and pretty pleased to be easy. Please don’t ever let a turtle lay eggs in your mouth…that just turns me on!

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]]> By: Rose http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/i-am-too-fricken-sexy-and-it-is-ruining-my-love-life/comment-page-1/#comment-940 Rose Fri, 03 Jul 2009 08:41:58 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=826#comment-940 Yeah, very true. A former friend of mine was a geneticist, he believed certain traits like promiscuity/partner choice shared a Mendelian ratio. That is to say, 25% are adventurous, and go for foreign men, unlikely to settle down... 25% will fall in love with their childhood friend.... 50% are somewhere in the middle. Basically the purpose being, that 25% adventurous lot are the guarantors of a fresh gene pool, and the inbred 25% are the guarantors of a next generation. I think I have been in that situation before, where 2 people tell me they are unhappy. I tend to tell them to think about leaving their partner, I really would never want to be stuck in an unhappy relationship. Wasting their time when they could be properly openly playing the field / settling down with someone who cares. I always tell unhappy people to drop people, I don't get why people keep flogging dead horses. As for the choice thing, yeah... I think everyone has that a bit when they first go to university / college too though. I, like many friends (who were somewhere above the attractive mark), enjoyed trying the different flavours of the opposite sex. The other thing is the whole foreigner thing. In Germany, I didn't get it as extreme as people didn't notice it from looking at me, but still, I would to an extent. In India though, jeez. Yeah, if I were dating an guy in India, it'd be hard in a country where everyone seems to find you attractive, and some of them are indeed attractive too. On a side note though - I think another article on "I am too fricken sexy and it is ruining my friendships / professional life", as a series, could be a good idea. I don't know about the men's side, but as a woman, friendships have suffered when less attractive people have been bitter and jealous, insinuating the attractiveness comes from being promiscuous (since when?!), etc. And professionally, it can mean people assume you are not intelligent, or you get AWFUL treatment from old shrivelled prunes, OR you have bosses / clients come onto you so you can't keep the professional relationship going. Btw can I just say, the quality of your last few articles is markedly improved. Yeah, very true.

A former friend of mine was a geneticist, he believed certain traits like promiscuity/partner choice shared a Mendelian ratio. That is to say, 25% are adventurous, and go for foreign men, unlikely to settle down… 25% will fall in love with their childhood friend…. 50% are somewhere in the middle. Basically the purpose being, that 25% adventurous lot are the guarantors of a fresh gene pool, and the inbred 25% are the guarantors of a next generation.

I think I have been in that situation before, where 2 people tell me they are unhappy. I tend to tell them to think about leaving their partner, I really would never want to be stuck in an unhappy relationship. Wasting their time when they could be properly openly playing the field / settling down with someone who cares. I always tell unhappy people to drop people, I don’t get why people keep flogging dead horses.

As for the choice thing, yeah… I think everyone has that a bit when they first go to university / college too though. I, like many friends (who were somewhere above the attractive mark), enjoyed trying the different flavours of the opposite sex. The other thing is the whole foreigner thing. In Germany, I didn’t get it as extreme as people didn’t notice it from looking at me, but still, I would to an extent. In India though, jeez. Yeah, if I were dating an guy in India, it’d be hard in a country where everyone seems to find you attractive, and some of them are indeed attractive too.

On a side note though – I think another article on “I am too fricken sexy and it is ruining my friendships / professional life”, as a series, could be a good idea. I don’t know about the men’s side, but as a woman, friendships have suffered when less attractive people have been bitter and jealous, insinuating the attractiveness comes from being promiscuous (since when?!), etc. And professionally, it can mean people assume you are not intelligent, or you get AWFUL treatment from old shrivelled prunes, OR you have bosses / clients come onto you so you can’t keep the professional relationship going.

Btw can I just say, the quality of your last few articles is markedly improved.

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]]> By: Tbomb http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/breakup/i-am-too-fricken-sexy-and-it-is-ruining-my-love-life/comment-page-1/#comment-939 Tbomb Fri, 03 Jul 2009 05:02:32 +0000 http://www.mikethemasterdater.com/?p=826#comment-939 I hear you brother! I hear you brother!

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