The top ten reasons why he is going to run screaming from the relationship

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  1. OMG, that kid’s face is PRICELESS. Love it.

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  2. Sarah says:

    You were a B.A.C.?!?! I missed that phase of your life–I’m having a hard time reconciling this piece of your history my friend.

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  3. Jillian says:

    #9 reminds me of the Scrubs episode where Amy Smart plays the woman who NEEDS drama in order to be happy in a relationship. It’s a need for the endorphin rush that emotional people require in order to get their rocks off, so to speak. If they don’t have it in a relationship they start to get bored and worried that there is something wrong so they either create drama or walk away. These people let their emotions run their lives and they are not content with a happy relationship.

    #8 could use a definition of what love parasitism is.

    I <3 #5.

    Ooooh, we have a personality breaker-downer. Please, Mikey, analyze me! I do so get tired of analyzing others. Am I a fire or a water? Which are you? I’m subtly trying to discern if we can be friends or if I must friend parasite with someone else. ;)

    I like this post. There is much to think about here. More of this, please.

    And, like Sarah, I want to hear more about you being a BAC and where you are now.

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    • Mike Masters says:

      @Sarah Yup I was back born again christian for a little while… Strange piece of my history.
      @Jillian hmmm… let me think about expanding on that post. I was not sure how it would be received to be honest. forgot that it would come out on mom’s day!
      I would be happy to expand on a lot of these topics but I need some other readers to ask as well.
      also… you are very much fire, you would attract a more passive guy to balance you. I am water but you wouldn’t know it very quickly. Since everyone has both it is hard to see sometimes but usually you can guess what you are by the type of guy/girl you attract.

  4. Jillian says:

    @Mike You just want the wominz beggin for it.

    Why wouldn’t someone know you are passive? Do you think you an external fire exuder, because of what it presents and the stance it gives, but water under the surface? I can be antagonistic, but it’s usually a defense mechanism. It also can help me reach more information than passivity on a lot of levels. What are your thoughts on the observation that some have external exudings, but internal genuineness?

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  5. roadtripmama says:

    Mike, count me in asking for you to expand on those topics….I like the fire and water analogy.

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  6. Sarah says:

    I have a question re:

    “Every woman knows this one intimately. The guy that just can’t commit, ***the ones that will commit are generally spineless and not very desirable,*** the ones that won’t you really want to possess.”

    Particularly the part between ***. Please clarify–are you saying that women think that a guy who will commit is spineless and undesirable, or do YOU think that a guy who commits is a wuss? Just curious b/c I actually think that it takes, balls, guts, hutzbah, cojones, and more courage than it takes to face a bear for a guy to hunker down and really truly commit (I gotta say that my husband was slow to commit before we married, but when he did he really did, and I found that extremely desirable–he’s a smart, handsome, talented guy and the envy of many women I’ve met!). So, is this your own ambivalence to commitment coming out here, or something else? I’m confused.

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  7. Sarah says:

    PS Ambivalence about commitment isn’t a bad thing–no one should commit until they’re good and ready. That isn’t wussiness or capitulation, that’s just good judgment.

    And I’d bet that you’re more “firey” than you let on, with your cool-as-a-cucumber self-presentation. If I had to hazard a bet (with the caveat that I haven’t spent any quality time with you in over 15 years), you’ll commit only when you find a partner who can keep pace with you stride-for-stride in a complementary way–she’ll challenge and engage you, she’ll give as good as she gets, she’ll make you laugh and will laugh with you, and she’ll probably sneak up on you when you’re least expect it. ;) That would be my guess…

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    • Mike Masters says:

      Hey sweetie!
      the commitment part, It is hard to make thing clear in a quick synopsis like that. The point I was trying to make was that it is hard to find that balance, the guy that is moving the same speed as you and vice versa. The guy that commits quickly is often not your equal and the one that won’t commit is often not the guy for you. I don’t think this is a reflection of my own inadequacy in commitment! I think it is more that I didn’t expand well. The start of a good relations is like two people walking towards one another on a teeter tooter if they do not move at the same speed one side will crash to the ground. The problem is that many women are more interested in meeting in the middle and therefore throw off the balance and the guy runs.

      am I fiery?? naw… not really. Not anymore. I have to fake it now a days. I like things very peaceful. However I do get very passionate over subjects that matter to me. (our talk about money/energy)
      I would like to meet that person!

  8. Sarah says:

    Thanks for clarifying–that makes more sense. And a clarification of my own here :) I don’t think you’re “inadequate” re: commitment, but ambivalent–you’ve said yourself you aren’t ready for the long haul, but it’s a strength that you know that about yourself. That tells me you’re plenty adequate for commitment–you’re wise enough to admit “not yet”. And firey–yes you are, but as you say, we all have some of both. I think you have the slow, banked kind of fire (think white hot coals under cool ashes) that is calm rather than overwhelming and all-consuming. That’s the kind of fire that allows you to pursue your dreams, take risks, and accomplish your goals. And if flares up briefly if something important (like money/energy) lands on it).

    And you’ll meet her someday–she’ll be your best friend (that’s how she’ll sneak up on you).

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    • Mike Masters says:

      I think I was making fun of myself with the inadequacy comment. I like the hot coal thing!!
      So how is she going to sneak up on me as a friend? I always sleep with all of my friends…

  9. Sarah says:

    Sleeping with her and recognizing her as the person who can keep up with you are two different things you dope! Trust me, it’s sneaky!

    And Um, how’s that going with your guy friends? (sorry couldn’t resist)

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  10. Jillian says:

    @Sarah That made me laugh so hard I cried.

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  11. QTMama says:

    *giggle*

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  12. Mike Masters says:

    ouch! you got me there…

  13. Sarah says:

    Good luck–don’t strain anything important! It’d be a shame to disappoint your “friends” ;)

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  14. Jillian says:

    *sigh* It seems like the good looking ones are always gay.

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  15. QTMama says:

    Hmmm, I always thought it was the best looking ones that are always gay. Bah.

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  16. Jillian says:

    Qt, funny story, most of the men (MOST) that I was attracted to in high school that did not return my affections turned out to be gay. Everyone else knew and no one clued me in. Oh, how I pined and could never figure out why I wasn’t good enough. Now I know and they are happy with their boyfriends/partners.

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  17. QTMama says:

    Jillian, we must meet. Simply we must. It’s not REAL that we have so many freaking things in common!

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  18. Jillian says:

    You know it, girl. We’ll make it happen. I generally have free time, I just have to schedule it around seeing clients and my doctoral program and familial obligations. We’ll figure out a time.

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  19. Mike Masters says:

    Tells you something though. Men are so much more physically stimulated that gay men are far more driven to be attractive than strait men.
    QTMama and Jillian glad such cool people met here!
    Hey if anyone has the time say hi to my mom here or on facebook. She needs some love sent her way. She is having a really tough time lately. (join me on facebook and my mom’s name is Sandy)

  20. Sarah says:

    RE: men who pay better attention to their appearances–Can I just say that I loved the “metrosexual” movement? Finally a moment when men could pay attention to their appearance and not have their masculinity threatened–it was refreshing to see such self confidence. And the resulting eye candy–oh boy oh boy!! (Well, at least here in Chicago–don’t know how it’s been out your way.)

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  21. Jillian says:

    Not all men care about being attractive. And that’s all I’ll say about that.

    Mike, we must be on the same wavelength. Right before I read your request, I just left Mama of Mike a comment. I was thinking about her last night before bed (not like that, sicko) and didn’t get a chance to comment to her then. I was wondering how she’s taken to that new little one. I’m excited for her.

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  22. Karen says:

    I can relate to #6. Too bad age doesn’t necessarily correlate with maturity and growth either.

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  23. Mike Masters says:

    Absolutely true. I imagined that I would grow up eventually but I am still an immature boy!

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