Fashion Lemmings, the epitomie of bandwagon syndrome
Annie uses me
The first time I went out with clubbing with Annie she was not to into it. “What if other guys think you are my boyfriend? I am not going to meet anyone because of you!” “Annie… trust me, it is not a problem at all, in fact it is a lot better than you going out with your girlfriends.” She gave me one of those squint eyes withering Annie looks and I responded with a nervous horsy smile. “Seriously Annie, trust me,” she rolled her eyes and we went to the club. Annie is very gregarious and was soon talking to everyone at the bar. I just stayed in one place while she used me as home base. “Oh my god, everyone wants to know if you are my boyfriend,” I said “just tell them I am your sex puppet.” She came back laughing because apparently she started using this. The attention she was getting from guys was pretty intense. It got a little bad though as Annie’s ex boyfriend entered and saw her bouncing all around me. Annie started to understand how to use me as a social tool and flaunted it in his face.
Clubbing in Hollywood
I recently went to a club in Hollywood with a music producer friend of mine. It was a fricken freezing night and we were dressed for the club not for the outside. We cued up in a line of about 20 people. “Shit! What are we waiting for!!” the girl ahead of us said as she bounced up and down in a skimpy dress. I felt about the same but I stayed content with my hands in my armpits rocking on my fancy shoes. The line drrrrrraaaaggeeeed on for about 15 minutes as about one couple per minute were let in. Once inside everyone was so relieved that they didn’t even notice the lack of patrons. In a place that could handle about 300 there where only about 100, what in the world were we waiting for?
Social proof
Social proof or the bandwagon syndrome is a fascinating human characteristic something that can be used to your advantage! Ever see a street performer trying to collect money in their guitar case? The performer inevitably “seeds” the inside of their case with bills to communicate. “Hey look, other people liked my music and gave me money you should too!”
You read the Twilight series as well? Wow, it must be good! You dated Mike too!? Wow he must be good! When I was younger I didn’t really get this and I would deny any involvement with anyone. Later I learned to claim it, “Yup, I am a slut… that’s what I do…” and inevitably I would attract more women because many women already approved of me in that capacity.
It’s raining men
Do you ever notice that when you are in a relationship you suddenly draw more male attention? Or when you are seeing a few guys/girls at the same time even more show up!? I believe this is due to bandwagon syndrome. You are given the stamp of approval by the opposite sex and everyone wants to know what he or she is missing. This is why the lone female or male is not nearly as successful at meeting others.
So does this mean I want you to get a cute guy friend to hang out with? Sure! Why not! But better yet understand how to use social proof to your advantage. Be a social butterfly knowing tons of the opposite sex. Don’t shy away from a guy/girls interest if they are not perfect, make friends, show that you are someone worth getting to know. So many people work as a lone wolf waiting for that one partner to come out of nowhere and sweep them off their feet. It is far more effective to meet a ton of the wrong guy to draw the attentions of the right one.
- Using social proof is as simple as getting to know a lot of the opposite sex
- You don’t need them to necessarily ride your bandwagon, friends only is okay!
- Never be afraid to say you are seeing someone, you are not married and it raises your value
Step #12 How a kindergartner taught me the secret to self respect
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this is so true Mike because if a friend introduces you to someone, it is so much more comfortable and normal and those friends like automatically like you or try to at least.
The other thing is knowing where to hang out in terms of what kind of person you want to find.
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Very true. You can even see the “bandwagon” effect when you’re shopping in a store. If you stop to look at a display rack in the middle of an aisle, people will slow down, stop, and come stand by you to check-out what you’re staring at. This is especially true if there are 3 or more people clustered around a certain counter/display/product section.
People feel they’re missing out on “a good deal” if others are congregating around a certain item/display/product. It’s the herd instinct. We want what others have.
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Just read this post Mike. WOW! It really got me thinking, no wonder I’m having a hard time meeting men face-to-face. I need a guyfriend to go on the town with. I’ve been doing the whole out on the town thning by myself, yes I know its sad (Married homebody friends). Now all I have to do is find that GuyFriend to hang out with. Fingers crossed!!
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I forgot that I wrote it! Funny how much my writing style has changed in such a short time.
Still agree with that info completely but I don’t bother to do it myself anymore. Hmmm… maybe I am bored…
I know! You should take me on the town!