John gets deported
I used to have a very aggressive roommate when I lived in Japan. He was 6’7” and towered over me as well as the Japanese people. He came to Japan because he wanted to study more martial arts. He got into karate after he was beaten to an inch of his life by high school bullies . It would be an understatement to say that he was angry towards the world and felt that martial arts would protect his soft core. Foreigners that live in Japan for long periods find that they either love the place and never want to go home OR despise everything Japanese. John was the latter, he learned to hate the Japanese culture to a degree that was shocking. He was disgusted by this weak polite race that did everything different than Canada. “I fucking hate these short little polluting shits,” (he was referring to the pollution common in any large city) At one point he was riding his massive bike down the sidewalk, hurtling towards a group of high school boys. He yelled at them instead of slowing down and as they jumped out of the way he clipped his handle bar on someone’s arm. Even the strongest guy could not stop the bike from hurtling out of control, sending massive John head over heels into the bushes. He jumped up wanting to fight the terrified boys when a police officer intervened. John was back in Canada about two weeks later.
Frisco the most popular guy in Japan
I ran into Frisco at a Brazilian market in Japan, I was in a tank top feeling buff after the gym. This was instantly shut down as I turned corner to see a massive muscular black guy about 240 pounds. Humbled by his size I said meekly “hey, what’s up?” from there a remarkable friend ship was built. Frisco was one of the kindest, most generous most intelligent guys I have ever met. He had been in Japan for only a year and was already fluent in Japanese. He loved the Japanese people, the country and the culture. I once went to a birthday party for Frisco and the turn out was amazing. He knew everyone… I mean, really knew them. He was getting heartfelt hugs as if he just scored a winning goal. I was in awe of this guy, how did he elicit such love and respect from everyone around him? Frisco now lives in Dubai teaching law, I dearly miss him as a friend and an inspiration.
The world is your mirror
The man that taught me this incredible lesson was Wayne Dyer in his book Your Erroneous Zones Wayne taught me through a story, which I would like to paraphrase for you.
While walking his dog in a park a man met a stranger, she walked up to the man pet his dog and said, “Cute dog… Hey I am new in the area how are the people in this city?” The man responded, “Well, how were the people in the city you came from?” She smiled and said, “Very sweet, generous and kind, all-around very good people” The man said, “That’s about how it is here.” The next day while walking his dog another stranger came up to him. “Hello… you live around here right?” the man said “yes.” The stranger then asked, “I just moved here, what are the people like?” “Well” said the man “what were the people like where you lived before?” He laughed and rolled his eyes, “they were the most selfish and rude people I have ever met.” The man smiled and said, “yeah that’s pretty much what you’ll find here.”
The world is your mirror, whatever you are currently getting in life is equal to what you are putting out. Frisco honestly loved everyone he encountered and WOW the girls liked him. John exuded hate and ended up dating the most psycho girl I have ever met.
It is imperative that you forgive and let go of any anger you have towards the opposite sex. Enter all relationships fresh, expecting the best, people are really good and will live up to your expectations. Accept them and love them.
When I meet someone and she tells me that she does not trust guys I immediately write her off. Why would I want to spend anytime with someone that has such a negative view? Ironically I end up filling her expectations as I disappear…
- If you think the best of men they will fulfill your desires
- Forgiveness of yourself is the first step in forgiving others
- Trusting and loving does not equal being taken advantage of, draw your lines and never back down
- Surrender to what is… what you cannot change…
Step #8 in perfect partner, who really desires you?
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Absolutely right Mike, if you come and tell me you hate men, might as well be lesbian and stop wasting peoples time with your crap.
Lets make it simple, shit happens and you gotta deal with it. Yet majority of people choose not to deal with it and blame it on others.
I could go around being pissed off at people for taking advantage of me before but really it was my fault for not standing up for myself.
After a few experiences you learn to pick up clues earlier and be able to say do I want this person in my life or not.
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Mike,
This is a wonderful post. I love it. You are so right.
Remarkably I’ve seen the picture of this angry pre-schooler before somewhere. It makes me very sad.
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