Texting tips to get the girl or guy, get their attention now! – Part 4 guy

Rules for texting

GIRLS: Playful funny is the best way to text

Me: Hey you looked really cute the other day.
Her: You did too, it is hard to imagine you are over 30!
Me: Hey!! At least I hit puberty already!
Her: lol, Maybe that is why I have such a cute amazing figure.
Me: More like that is why you never grew any boobs! ☺
Her: God… I knew you were staring at my chest last time we talked, How tacky…
Me: I was!?
Her: Hey I got to go, text me later…
Me: K… are you okay?
Me: hello…?

Playful funny is an adaptation of David DeAngelo’s  “cocky funny” advice to men. Cocky is not a very attractive female trait but playful is, since it is more his job to entertain you. Girls, be more more passively funny, playfully giving him fuel to entertain with a dash of brattiness to raise the bar. In the above text I got beat up a bit, which was incredibly attractive! Did you notice too that she didn’t pull any punches at the end of the text? She left, leaving me totally off balance. Was she upset with me? Was I really staring at her chest? When does she want me to text her? She is totally in control and I am going to have to step up a bit to meet her level. Perfect job on her part.

GUYS: Cocky funny is the best way to text

Her: So I haven’t heard from you in a while
Me: Can’t stop thinking about me huh?
Her: You wish, something smelled bad in the trash and I thought of you
Me: Not surprised, you are a pretty filthy girl
Her: Only in bed
Me: Yeah maybe we will have another shot at that sometime. (if you are lucky)
Her: I wanna be lucky!

Guys, don’t be afraid to take on the cocky roll, a lot of women will kick and fuss over this but ignore them. They simply don’t like the fact that it creates attraction! Hold your ground and have fun. Please be careful though, this is a place where a lot of men mess up. They go to far with the cocky and/or misread the girl they are texting. Start gently until you can get better at this, expect to fall on your face a few times but this is par for the course learning anything new.

Let his or her imagination do the work for you

THIS IS SUCH AN AMAZING TOOL THAT MOST PEOPLE SUCK AT

Along with pulling punches most people don’t let the other’s imagination work for them. They almost always over explain to make everyone comfortable, this is a mistake!

Me: What are you doing Friday?
Hottie: I’m busy that night
Me: really? What are you up to?
Hottie: I think I have time on Sat, going to buy me dinner?
Me: Maybe… What’s going on Friday??
Hotty: can’t tell you… So is Saturday good? Or should I meet another friend?

This example is a little bit shitty but VERY effective for difficult guys or girls. Can you hear his mind running? Can you hear him calculating the different possible scenarios? AND picking all the worst ones to dwell on!? What makes this is a good tool is to remind him or her of your value. There are many people interested in you and you are busy! Most people are tempted to fill in the uncomfortable silence, don’t! Their imagination is your best friend.

***Please remember, this  may be too much for some people. Don’t bring a gun to a knife fight. In other words this is only to be used for the guys or girls that need to be arm wrestled into being more attracted to you.

Don’t pull  punches

You: Tim what you are up to on Friday
Tina: I am going clubbing
You: Okay alcoholic, was going to invite you to a party
Tina: Why are you such a dick to me?
20mins later…
Tina: Hey I was just kidding about the dick comment
You: Okay… but be a little more careful next time or use a fucking happy face
Tina: sorry

This was a bit of an acidic encounter. You were trying to be playful but Tina got her little feelings hurt. After Tina called you a dick, you might have back pedaled and said “hey I was just kidding about that!” Which the majority of people do! YOU LOSE POWER WHEN BEING FORCED TO APOLOGIZE. If Tina made herself a bit vulnerable and said “hey… That kinda bummed me out.” Cool,  apologize with dignity and jab her about something else instead. Just PLEASE PLEASE don’t finish everything with “just kidding!” this only shows that you are weak and needy.

Be the one to end the conversation

Him: Hey, it was good to see you last night
You: Yes I know, I could tell you are really into me
Him: You are so full of yourself!
You: So you are saying you don’t like me?
Him: I don’t know I am thinking about it.
You: Don’t hurt yourself!
Him: Yeah thinking about you does hurt a little
You: lol, hey my friend is here. Talk to you later.
Him: okay, text me later
You: I don’t know I will think about it!

Being the one to end the conversation shows that you are busy and in demand. Even if you are planning a night alone with your cat, keep the conversation short and bail out after a few minutes. When a girl likes a guy and vice versa it is so tempting to take a sexual/verbal dump, let the other person make that mistake, not you. Left to its own design the person that is the least interested usually breaks off the conversation. You want to make sure that is always you.

NEVER be overly sexual in text, hint but don’t say!

You: Been thinking about you…
Him: really? What have you been thinking?
You: Just want to @#$% again!!
Him: Wow, that sounds good
You: When I get to your house I am going to #$%# until you !##%^ on my !#!@$!#.
Him: wow (he is watching TV and could care less)

Come on!! You know better than this!! You really think this is a tease? If you are dealing with a high school guy possibly! I know you are into them but you can’t let them know that! Have you ever seen the movie Alien? Do you know what made that so scary? You never really saw the monster, just brief flashes in dark rooms! In later movies they showed way too much of our watermelon headed friend and the movies lost their spice. Don’t give this away! Give them brief glimpses of your passion. Don’t lay it out on the table like the girly magazine he jerks off to.

Guys, this is the same for you, inappropriate sex talk is such a turn off for women. Even if the girl is your booty call and  you both know it, you can never say it. The second you treat her with a lack of respect by throwing around over sexual comments is the second she cuts you off. Make her feel safe and comfortable first and allow her to take the lead with sex talk. This is much safer and will lead to a lot more sex and fun for everyone.

• Playful funny is a girls most powerful tool, use it always without being mean
• Cocky funny is a slightly full of yourself cousin to playful funny. This is your tool guys
• Everyone of these tips are based on power balance don’t give him or her more than he or she gives you
• Manipulation is a facet of attraction, don’t be afraid to use it

Still have questions?

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Continue with Typical texting problems and how to solve them part 5

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