Getting Playdoh out of your crack
One of the many reasons I left America was because I was so frustrated with awful western women! I could never do anything right, I tried so hard, I was so kind, sooo understanding. I spent hours working things out with girls, patiently understanding all the things they didn’t like about me. I would respond buying them dinner, giving back rubs never expecting anything in return. I would mark down on my calendar when to give them flowers, which interesting corresponded with period time. I would never say anything disparaging or even remotely challenging. I would attempt to be the perfect guy. Little did I know what a horrible strategy this was until I met an entire country of my female equivalent. Japanese girls are so accommodating to men that you feel as if they conform to your every personality flaw. Kinda like squeezing a ball of playdough, the harder you squeeze the more it wraps around your hand. Just like playdoh, this type of person gets into every nook and cranny and is very hard to break up with! This dating strategy sucks and simply leaves you all bent out of shape trying so hard to be what a man wants, instead be solid in who you, attract someone similar and avoid playdoh man.
• Good sales people are confident (last post!)
• Good sales people never kiss butt for a purchase
I used to mercilessly give hell to this incredibly cute bartender. She would always be wearing one of those form fitting Budweiser dresses, although it was not required by her boss. When I gave her hell it made a lot of the other guys really pissy, they would look my direction with a scowl and say cliché things like, “is that any way to talk to a lady!” She would defend me and say, “it’s okay, Mike and I are friends.” Me being a bit inflammatory started something. “You know what, you don’t know how to talk to women.” They looked at me in disgust as if I just peed on the bar. “Watch this… Tsubasa! You look soooo… pretty tonight, I really like your hair too, did you just get it done? Wow, I really wish you would go out with me sometime, can I buy you dinner?” She laughed. “Now how about this… Hey Tsubasa! You look pretty tonight except for the beer can dress! Tell you what, change your clothes and maybe I will let you take me to dinner sometime.” The guys curled an Elvis lip at me as I smiled ear to ear. “Okay, Tsubasa which Mike was more attractive. The kissass or the asshole?” After a reflective pause she said, “I might let the first one buy me dinner but the second one I might go home with” I got a wink from her. “Point made,” I said to the incredulous guys at the bar.
Now of course it is not this simple, I am not telling you to be a shit to people and expect to have a great relationship. The point is that being passive and kind only allows a man to squeeze you into the shape he thinks he wants. Once he does this he often realizes it is not what he wants and throws you away.
I recently had this conversation with a very sweet 26 year old girl, she was dating a nice guy that was slowly turning into an ass. “I don’t understand what I have to do, everybody tells me that I am too nice but, that is me.” She said a little bummed. “Do dogs like you?” I asked, she paused a bit confused “Usually.” I said “They are a bit aggressive with you sometimes, huh” she looked surprised and thoughtful “yeah, how did you know that?” Since I am tired of writing quotes I will answer you instead of her! The reason dogs are aggressive is because she is so passive. The dog recognizes a power vacuum and seeks to fill it; this is the nature of most animals. There is always an order and they are always subtly struggling to be above the other. If you fearfully walk up to a dog, often the dog will seek to be dominant over you, now apply that to guys. They don’t mean to fill the space you are leaving but it is almost impossible not to. Therefore, EVEN if a guy starts out very nice, if you are too passive he will become dominant over you and fill all the nice accommodating space you are leaving. So stay nice but set boundaries that you will fight to the death for. What those boundaries are only you know.
Bullets:
• Kissing butt and constantly accommodating leads to playdoh
• Don’t be a bitch but understand why the bitch is attractive to guys
• Strength is attractive and will attract a strong guy if you choose
• Weakness is not attractive and will attract a weak guy who wants to feel strong
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You know Michael, i am glad you wrote this, I only became aware of this about 2 years ago. It was through pick up artists and their material I read online, still it did not make sense but in the last few months, everything seems to be making more sense for me now.
It is all about being a man, being confident and knowing what you want. Too many men out there kiss ass as you say.
Like the guy at the bar, he would buy her dinner, she gets a free meal, and comes to you for the action, so he is essentially doing the “bitch” work for you.
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