Why do men have sex with women they are not into? Part 1

We had sex, why do I feel like hating her?

I think I first heard this comment from a foreign guy in an email to David Deangelo the male dating guru. If I remember right David didn’t answer the question but had a good laugh as if everyone knew this feeling and thus knew the answer. I knew this feeling very well but I certainly didn’t know the answer. This was about 8 years ago and although I was a natural at meeting women I didn’t understand the dynamics behind it, yet.

This is a real tough one, why do we hook up with people that are not our type? Why would you sleep with the guy you hate? Why did you cheat on your boyfriend with your ex? Usually I explain things after a story but this time it is opposite. This is a very key part of understanding how men and women function. Try to understand the explanation below and apply it to my story. Then apply it to your life.

This is how it works in the most brief of explanations. Every person has two minds, an impulsive, pleasure seeking animal mind and a pondering, well-intentioned thinking mind. The first problem is that they two minds do not have the same agenda. The second problem is that the animal mind is 10 times stronger than the thinking mind. When the animal mind wants something it takes over the system, shuts down the thinking mind and then reboots after it gets what it wants. This is how a bulimic functions, the animal mind controls the snarfing and then the thinking mind wakes up and controls the barfing. In the case of sex, one’s brain get sexually high jacked and you do things that usually would only gossip about. The most insidious part is that the animal and the thinking mind will conspire to blame anything and anyone but themselves and the indiscretion will be excused with comments like “you drove me to cheat you bastard!!”

I have been sexually high jacked so many times that I had to put up a bullet proof door to the cockpit of my brain but things still manage to get through! Sometimes though even all of my experience does not prepare me for a curve ball. I met this curve ball at a party in Japan, she an average girl a bit on the heavy side. Well, a lot on the heavy side. Fortunately for her god blessed her with breasts about a round and heavy as she was. This troubled me, since although I am very respectful, I found my eyes riveted on her pendulous breasts. What made it even worse was I had not seen a larger chest than an A in over a year. She busted (no pun intended) me with a hopeful smile and I immediately looked away. “sorry about that” I said feeling like a lecherous priest eying a young boy. I was not used to getting caught or even bothering to look. I took a better look at her disappointed she was not more attractive, unfortunately she resembled one of plastic gnomes you might find in a Midwesterner’s front lawn. However the brain was still riveted on one thing as if on a hypnotist’s pocket watch. I am not even a boob guy and I am certainly not an ass guy (I would be very unhappy in Brazil) I am very controlled and I will not go after someone that does not have a chance with me! 90% of the time… but I was already high jacked.

Continued…

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