Don’t allow texting sex talk – You know how men start sexting dirty right away, or look for some lame excuse to text something nasty? This is because men need to filter women, is she sex material or relationship material? If you respond overly soon with sexual messaging, guess which category you will fall into. I imagine if you are reading this you want to be considered relationship material NOT sex material. This is why you need to ignore or even get upset with his constant sexual pushing. Resisting in this area does two positive things: you are taken more seriously and pushed into the relationship category AND believe it or not sexual tension is built simply by resisting it. So even if you want to rip his clothes off and devour every sweaty inch of him, error on the side of caution! and never virtually flash your boobs. There are so many better things that you can be doing to increase the attraction, and using sex is bound to backfire.
How guys think differently about texting
This of course is not all men, but I would have to say the majority of men think along these lines and you could apply this to the real world as well as the virtual one.
Text me back!
Your phone is a tool – most men do not see texting as entertainment, of course men enjoy getting to know a woman but so often he is clueless that you are the one he needs to get to know. If he is SMS-ing you back one-word answers or not answering, it is possible he either hates texting or really isn’t that interested. This is where you need to make him interested! Something I spend a lot of time talking about in, TextAppeal
Guys are fixers – This ties into the one above, guys don’t gossip (well not as much). They don’t process information the same way that women do. A guy isn’t nearly as interested when you text about your boss as your friend might be. Most men see your processing of information as something he needs to change to win your approval. Don’t confuse him and yourself by sending him things that he will feel required to fix. (read more…)
I imagine that you are here because something didn’t go your way. You text him and he didn’t sms you back or his answer was very short. You are not really sure about his intentions or if he is even interested. You feel like you might have messed things up, and all you want to do is get his attention back! I am a guy that wants you to WIN in the relationship game. I apologize in advance for being rough but stick with me!
Curb your impatience – This is advice I give both men and women in the area of texting. Patience is a hell of a virtue and it shows that you have emotional maturity. When texting a guy I know it is really frustrating when he doesn’t take the situation with as much severity. To win, you need to show some self-restraint and understand that he may not consider messaging you as important as you do. Rather match his interest, and hold back from texting him!
Text back only when he does – Ties right into the above, you need to let him take the lead here. You need to set the stage for the type of relationship you would like to have with him later. If you are the one constantly texting him and showing need, this will continue into whatever relationship you create with him. (This means you will be the one to ask him out, he won’t do it ever) Make sure you ONLY text when he does and it wouldn’t hurt to forget to sms back every once in a while. (read more…)
I got into horrible trouble after a conversation, with my sisters psycho ex-boyfriend. “Dude, stop. I know you are in love with my sister but seriously? Come on buddy, there are two types of girls in the world, the ones that you marry and the ones that you sleep with. Honestly, which one do you think my sister is??” As you can imagine I got in a whole lot of trouble for this one.
My friend Jen is really frustrated, she is caught between two guys. One is the Sportsfish and the other is the Keeper. I didn’t know this terminology until Jen explained it too me, “It is from the comedian Steve Harvey, who wrote the book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. “Hmmm…” I said, “That sounds a lot like my theory of the Nester and the Breeder.” I haven’t read his book but the analogy is excellent so I am going to steal it to explain something I seriously doubt Steve does. (read more…)
Funny site, very similar to texts from last night but has the potential to be funnier.
1) What’s the best breakup story related to Facebook have you heard?
Oh lord, FB can be a horrible place for breakups and general crappiness. A close friend and his fiancé broke up a few years ago, but after they did, her new boyfriend found out they had posted an adult video on a prominent website. My friend couldn’t remove the vid as the website now owned it. The ex GF’s new BF couldn’t accept this, so he called my friend’s work and got him fired from his job by referencing the video. My friend retaliated by contacting their 500 plus FB friends, saying, “Check out Linda’s latest performance!” Which was linked to the adult video. I don’t think, mom, dad, brother, sister, boss were too excited to see this link, well maybe the boss didn’t mind. (read more…)
What am I doing wrong? Okay, I’m tired of beating around the bush. I’m a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I’m articulate and classy. I’m not from New York. I’m looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City , so I don’t think I’m overreaching at all.
Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 100 – 150. But that’s where I seem to hit a roadblock. 150,000 won’t get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she’s not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?
Here are my questions specifically: - Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms -What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won’t hurt my feelings -Is there an age range I should be targeting (I’m 25)? - Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I’ve seen really ‘plain jane’ boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I’ve seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What’s the story there? - Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows – lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out? - How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? (read more…)
About 10 years ago my Japanese teacher from America came to visit Japan to see her family. She was average cute, married, 6 years older than me, but had an attractive body. She came over to my house one day and we got a bit drunk, to my surprise she asked me if I had any pornography. I said in Tequila excitement, “Fuck yeah I do, I am a guy!” so I played a little bit on the computer and she didn’t seem all that excited. Then she took another shot of tequila and said, “Do you have any rape porn?” My eyebrows raised in surprise and my thoughts went to a Japanese vid I had downloaded and couldn’t figure out if it was real or not. It was so intense that I felt guilty owning it. (I have since found out the Japanese are masters at false rape porn) (read more…)
Disclaimer: This post has gotten a lot of negative comments, probably fueled by only one person and her FB page. I have no desire to remove it or apologize for the content, however I will warn you that this is not a typical post for me. It is for humor only, and not to make the world a better place. I hope you enjoy but I will not tolerate any more abusive comments.
This is a post I wrote for my best friend and awesome blogger missmelisamae
Hope you enjoy
“Please… All I want is for you to leave me alone. Stop threatening my friends, stop calling me, stop texting me, and just leave me alone.” The girl looking back at me had her teeth clenched and looked as if she were going to gouge my eyes out and eat them like dumplings. She was the reason I have been carrying pepper spray with me for the last two months. I looked right to a large rat knocking over a can, when… “WHACK!” she slapped me so hard that even the birds flying around my head looked dazed. (read more…)
This is a question I answered from the awesome Tina Tobin’s site http://luvemorleavem.com/
I think this was a killer question and one that ALL of us have suffered from or are suffering from. Don’t miss one…
Posted By: Brian
Dating > 3 yrs, 29-35 yrs
Where do you begin? 3.5 years of waves, both passionate and loving beyond measure and more heart damaging than jagged oceanic outcroppings. I cannot force myself to not love her and our almost 7 month old son is very precious to me. My background: German, mom and dad issues, college educated, good job, no drugs ( psychopharmicueticals) or alcohol abuse for over 12 years, went to prison over a girl at 18.
Her background: italian/lebanese, dad issues, previous rave drugs, heroine/cocaine/alcohol abuse to December 2009 (I honestly did not know until I found Pandora’s bag), escort to age 33 (I was already in love when she told me about her job), very sweet yet has the art of verbal samurai swords. I took care of my girl throughout the pregnancy and stood behind her, even taking her to the methadone clinic 4am every morning (did not know about that either) Until her mom stepped in towards the end of the pregnancy and bought her a house (and herself away from husband no 2) as I guess the one I got was not good enough or affluent enough. Stuff went further down hill from there. (read more…)
I’m 45, involved in a long distance relationship with a 26 year old. Chicago to New York. We’ve been physically together twice, and both times there was amazing chemistry. I don’t normally date that huge of a delta in age, but he was interested in me first and looks great naked, so I figured what the hell. We see each other again this Thursday.
When I’m with him, everything is great. I am developing strong feelings for him. We met on an app called Scruff, which is basically Grindr for the “bear” community. Lately I’ve noticed that he’s on the app a lot still, even though he calls me every day and does nice things for me. I immediately wonder if he’s doing it with someone else or looking for someone closer to him. I don’t think either is the case, but I mope around the house, do nothing, neglect my own life, and watch way too much porn (yes, there is such a thing). (read more…)
I wonder what kind of offspring would they produce?
When I first moved to Japan my roomie and his girlfriend introduced me to a truly awful Japanese TV show. It was one of many things I would read/watch at this time that introduced me to the more fucked up side of human nature.
The name of the show was something like “The Stinger” it was hosted by two famous comedians. The premise of the show was to take a solid couple and see if they could get one of them to cheat. I only saw the show five times but they claimed a nearly 100% success ratio.
On one particularly painful show, they targeted the girlfriend. The hosts of the show took the boyfriend into a hotel room loaded with monitors and multiple feeds from hidden cameras. From there, they observed the Stinger, a really good-looking guy that was to approach the girlfriend right after she finished work. As the Stinger acquired his target the BF was insisting that his GF wouldn’t fall for it but the hosts of the show insisted incessantly that she would. The second the GF accepted a dinner invitation from the Stinger the hosts howled and ripped him a new one, sweat started running down the BF’s face. At this point they insisted that he call his girlfriend to invite her to dinner. He did so and we watched as she looked at her phone and put it back in her bag without answering. A midst hysterical laughter they insisted he call again, he did, this time she answered and said that she just made plans with a female friend. (read more…)
Not really related to the article, I just like goofy looking cats.
I think I was about 14 at the time and I felt naively competent enough to handle the world. That is why I found it so irritating I couldn’t maintain my composure around this awful awful woman. I was stuck with my “evil step-mother,” and there was no escape. My father was out, my stepbrothers at a party and I was not allowed to go because, “You’ll cause trouble, ya little shiiit…”
I am sitting on a worn, marble brown 70’s carpet, trying not to look at my sloppily drunk stepmother. She is perched on the Lazy boy feet under her staring at me; in her hand is a mixture of 50% Boonse farm (Perhaps the cheapest most vile wine there is) and Pepsi. She is even more drunk than usual and is slurring comically, “Yooou doont eeeeven knowww Mike… your daaad… yourrr dad… is fugging sick (The word sick was spit towards the floor and her giant perm bobbed like a circus clown’s) he is fuuugging SIACKkkkk….aaaah shit… “(She was referring to his MS not his mental state)
“Youuu knnooow whhat… youu think yuuurr soooo fuccking smarrrt… (head bob, lips pursed, and staring at me) buaat… youu doon’t noo shiiit about ssshiit, Mike… (read more…)
I am sitting with my friend Matt on low 70’s lounge chairs that belong on the beach rather than outside a grubby local bar. We are both sipping Saigon Greens as we watch the foot traffic of back packers, locals and expats go by. Most of the back packers are white European couples, a few Chinese, and a smattering a guys that recently escaped their frat. Some of the frat guys, and the expats are with a disproportionately pretty Vietnamese girl, I mentally grind my teeth.
I look to my right, and I elbow Matt, “Look at this fucking garbage,” I blatantly point across the street, not minding if my target of disdain hears or sees me. Matt laughs and in barely comprehensible, extremely fast Queen’s English says something like, “I hope your wife is fucking the pool boy, you fucking fat wanker…!” (Matt’s funny) We both throw squinty-eyed glares at the 300+ pound rotund man waddling past. He has his prize in hand, a petite gorgeous girl that in the States could pass for 15. (read more…)
The book is “Getting back on the horse after a break up or divorce, a woman’s guide to getting back in the game” Hope you enjoy!
1. He is open to sharing the bad
He doesn’t appear to keep any secrets, he is willing to tell you things that might make a lesser man uncomfortable. A man like this has learned that complete self acceptance means your “flaws” define you, which is not necessarily a bad thing. The limit to this, is if he starts telling sex stories about when he was in Thailand for a month. (read more…)
The book is “Getting back on the horse after a break up or divorce, a woman’s guide to getting back in the game” I am very excited to be working on a project with Kim and I can’t wait to see the book released! Our goal for the book is to help people get back into the dating scene, to know what to look for, what to stay away from, and how meet someone fantastic.
Danger signs: Avoiding the bad boys!
1. Never been married and considers a long relationship 1 year
Well this discredits me immediately! This reminds me of what my friend Jack from F*cking in Brooklyn said, “Him being married before means that he has a stamp on his commitment card.” Excellent point, and one that really matters. (read more…)